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Should DD20 BF of offered to get her takeaway or AIBU

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ML5 · 16/11/2024 18:04

Not sure if I am being unreasonable here
DD20 bf and his sister got themselves takeaway tonight and her bf didn’t offer to get her anything (just to add DD has paid for him before) they are going out to his family house and I told her if she’s hungry to let them know there.
AIBU that maybe her bf should have offered since she’s paid for him before or AIBU in my thinking?

OP posts:
Mercedes45 · 16/11/2024 20:28

Merrymess · 16/11/2024 20:26

🤣

This thread is making me laugh. I think she sent the 15 year old to buy the drugs.

Obviously that's what happend. Any other interpretation is just wrong

Merrymess · 16/11/2024 20:26

🤣

This thread is making me laugh. I think she sent the 15 year old to buy the drugs.

WiddlinDiddlin · 16/11/2024 20:26

banananapancake · 16/11/2024 20:19

Rude

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But leaping to the assumption that the OP's daughter is both a liar and a drug user isn't?

Original poster
ML5 · 16/11/2024 20:25

Silvers11 · 16/11/2024 20:16

I think the OP meant they sent her £15 - the first post from OP says the Daughter is 20? But who knows?? This has to be one of the weirdest posts on MN for a while!!

😂😂

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I meant we sent our dd £15

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banananapancake · 16/11/2024 20:21

Silvers11 · 16/11/2024 20:16

I think the OP meant they sent her £15 - the first post from OP says the Daughter is 20? But who knows?? This has to be one of the weirdest posts on MN for a while!!

😂😂

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OH!!!!! I thought she sent their 15 year old

sel2223 · 16/11/2024 20:19

Crunchymum · 16/11/2024 20:18

I read it the same but another poster pointed out the OP meant she'd sent her DD 15 (quid)

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I just saw that and it makes a lot more sense!

banananapancake · 16/11/2024 20:19

WiddlinDiddlin · 16/11/2024 19:26

You know, when you project like this... you really tell us volumes about your own thoughts/behaviour...

I guess maybe in YOUR home its normal for someone to lie to get money for drugs, but that isn't the same for everyone!

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Rude

Crunchymum · 16/11/2024 20:18

sel2223 · 16/11/2024 20:17

You've sent your 15 year old daughter out to get food and personally deliver it to your 20 year old adult daughter who's at her boyfriends house with him and his family?

Wtf

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I read it the same but another poster pointed out the OP meant she'd sent her DD 15 (quid)

sel2223 · 16/11/2024 20:18

Crunchymum · 16/11/2024 20:17

Oh dear. I misread it. That's exactly what the OP meant😁

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I misread it too!

Crunchymum · 16/11/2024 20:17

Silvers11 · 16/11/2024 20:16

I think the OP meant they sent her £15 - the first post from OP says the Daughter is 20? But who knows?? This has to be one of the weirdest posts on MN for a while!!

😂😂

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Oh dear. I misread it. That's exactly what the OP meant😁

sel2223 · 16/11/2024 20:17

ML5 · 16/11/2024 20:08

We sent our DD 15 to get something but feel that her bf should of asked her if she wanted something

You've sent your 15 year old daughter out to get food and personally deliver it to your 20 year old adult daughter who's at her boyfriends house with him and his family?

Wtf

Silvers11 · 16/11/2024 20:16

Crunchymum · 16/11/2024 20:13

I don't understand.

Where did this happen? Were they at his house? What has your 15yo DD got to do with anything?

I think the OP meant they sent her £15 - the first post from OP says the Daughter is 20? But who knows?? This has to be one of the weirdest posts on MN for a while!!

😂😂

Orquid · 16/11/2024 20:15

Herewegoago · 16/11/2024 18:12

Fucking hell talk about jumping the gun!

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It is all very strange. She is 20, she has no money, she is texting her mum, she can’t speak up for herself, boyfriend and sister selfish if they don’t want to share; but also how can she go out with no money.

Are they 10? Sorry I know you say 20 but doesn’t sound like it

Skybluepinky · 16/11/2024 20:15

Does your daughter enjoy your interference?

Crunchymum · 16/11/2024 20:13

I don't understand.

Where did this happen? Were they at his house? What has your 15yo DD got to do with anything?

mm81736 · 16/11/2024 20:13

You are way too up in her business!

LBFseBrom · 16/11/2024 20:12

ML5 · 16/11/2024 20:08

We sent our DD 15 to get something but feel that her bf should of asked her if she wanted something

LOL! You're the gift that keeps on giving.

vegaspotty · 16/11/2024 20:09

Merrymess · 16/11/2024 18:11

If he had the money he should have bought her one or if not, shared his.

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This

Original poster
ML5 · 16/11/2024 20:08

We sent our DD 15 to get something but feel that her bf should of asked her if she wanted something

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mumedu · 16/11/2024 20:07

Merrygoround8 · 16/11/2024 19:13

YABU this this wrong. It’s not so much the stealing from supermarkets, it’s more the perpetuating the whole cycle. Sooner or later he will get caught and he will find a new method or “business” to run, and it could end up violent. You can’t trust an addict.

And if money is tight; £10 a week on laundry (even if knocknoff stuff!) is insane. You simply don’t need all of those products in thise quantities. Let me guess, you follow Mrs Hinch!

I also guess you’ve been doing this before mat leave and intend to after as well.

Eh?

Isittimeformynapyet · 16/11/2024 20:06

niadainud · 16/11/2024 19:23

No, she doesn't of any.

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Nice work! 😉

mumedu · 16/11/2024 20:06

Towwanthustice · 16/11/2024 19:08

How the hell have u come to that ?

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It's only if you're that way inclined that you would think this up.

wintersgold · 16/11/2024 20:04

Of course he should have offered. No question

mumedu · 16/11/2024 20:03

banananapancake · 16/11/2024 18:11

Can't she just say I don't have any money can you sub me? I'd be concerned this is all a lie to get money for drugs

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Who thinks like this?

StandingSideBySide · 16/11/2024 20:03

?
bizarre post
surely dd needs to remember to have money on her before she goes somewhere
if she is short then why not ask for a sub from bf
or one from OP

but no dd texts mum and mum sets up a MN thread.
am I missing something here