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To ask where women get their....

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womenloveittoo · 16/11/2024 13:29

I didn't want the thread to be raunchy as that's not what I'm asking.
I often read about women saying on threads how it's so easy for women to get D if they want. I'd like to know where these women speak off and why it's so easy but so difficult for me!
Lighthearted really. But I'm in my late 30's and being singe is no fun at all when you love sex like I do!
I don't understand where I'm going wrong...
I'm relatively attractive. Definitely not a stunner but certainly not hideous!
I have a job and a nice home. I'm a good friend and genuinely a really nice person! So I don't understand my predicament at all 😂
I know no one can give me an answer but where does all this 'it's so easy to find a man for sex' come from?

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womenloveittoo · 16/11/2024 20:03

@dannyufcfan you're right. It was cringy so I didn't write that!

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womenloveittoo · 16/11/2024 19:59

womanwithissues · 16/11/2024 19:09

If you want a FWB - Feeld is the place.

Ooh. Thanks

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dannyufcfan · 16/11/2024 19:53

womenloveittoo · 16/11/2024 19:21

Wish me luck guys... I've just changed my status online asking if any hot guys want to hook up!

I surely won't go through meeting randoms but I'm so curious to see if the offers suddenly come in!

The hook up I can do, it's just the hot guy part that I'm struggling with.

housethatbuiltme · 16/11/2024 19:50

To be honest I have never been greatly interest in the D. I however always got the vibe if I was to put it on offer there would be plenty of takers (men aren't exactly subtle).

Is this the same as girls that keep posting here that they dressed up in a special blouse because they fancy someone at work and he looked in their direction 3 times in 2 hours so what does that mean? When clearly it means go fucking talk to them like a normal human not playing silly guessing games.

Want the D then just make a move and offer it. Worst they can say is no.

If you make a move most (not all though) single men will usually reciprocate (some non single ones will too but I would suggest you avoid that type).

Now if you want a very specific man for a relationship there might be more too it as he might not feel the same but if you JUST want generic D from anyone its really not going to be that hard to find a taker if you offer it up for free.

Balloonhearts · 16/11/2024 19:40

JoyfulinHope · 16/11/2024 19:38

@Balloonhearts Yes i can definitely see where you are coming from.

You did come across a little ragey though.

I'm more mildly irritated. I spend most of my day listening to silly teenagers giggling over bad words, grown women are a little harder to tolerate.

BePeppyPeachCat · 16/11/2024 19:39

Just go on Tinder or bumble @womenloveittoo

I know someone who would absolutely rail you

JoyfulinHope · 16/11/2024 19:38

@Balloonhearts Yes i can definitely see where you are coming from.

You did come across a little ragey though.

TheHighPriestess1 · 16/11/2024 19:38

definitely try Fabswingers

itzthTtimeGib · 16/11/2024 19:38

TheShellBeach · 16/11/2024 13:35

D?

Dill. I try to get it in Waitrose most of the time but excited to try some of the suggestions in this thread

Balloonhearts · 16/11/2024 19:38

womenloveittoo · 16/11/2024 19:33

@Balloonhearts If I just wanted a dildo I wouldn't be asking for advice on here would I? Are you really mean and rude by nature?

You might do. You might be asking what brands are good, what shops to go to. That's the point. You're not on the sex board, not everyone is going to guess.

Balloonhearts · 16/11/2024 19:36

JoyfulinHope · 16/11/2024 19:32

@Balloonhearts I wonder why it annoys you so much? 😁
If she feels more comfortable sayng D and I like everyone else figured out what she meant then let her.

Very strange how intolerant and ragey people are on here. 🤭

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I'm not ragey about it, I just think if people are asking a question they should ask it, not hope people will guess what they mean. If you're an adult who wants a one night stand, just ask How do I get a one night stand. No one is going to judge you for wanting no strings sex, you're a grown up. Just come out and say it rather than playing coy. If it was in the sex topic, people would probably know. Here, not so much.

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womenloveittoo · 16/11/2024 19:33

@Balloonhearts If I just wanted a dildo I wouldn't be asking for advice on here would I? Are you really mean and rude by nature?

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Balloonhearts · 16/11/2024 19:32

womanwithissues · 16/11/2024 19:28

@Balloonhearts I think you need to grow up if you can't read the OP and figure out what D is within a minute or two.

Why would I? I don't sleep around so how would I know the abbreviations?

JoyfulinHope · 16/11/2024 19:32

Balloonhearts · 16/11/2024 19:26

You might mean dick, you might mean dildo, you might mean anything. How would I know what you mean, I don't do cheap shags and don't advertise for them. Unless you frequent places like Tindr, you're not going to know the lingo. Same as non MNers don't always know what YABU means. Grow up, Jesus.

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@Balloonhearts I wonder why it annoys you so much? 😁
If she feels more comfortable sayng D and I like everyone else figured out what she meant then let her.

Very strange how intolerant and ragey people are on here. 🤭

TorroFerney · 16/11/2024 19:31

TheShellBeach · 16/11/2024 14:17

Ah, so it means Dick.

Why couldn't you just say that?

Why is it capitalised? The op not you, that means a man called Richard. Op if you want no strings sex you'll need to be able to say words in full I think.

Moonshine5 · 16/11/2024 19:29

OriginalUsername2 · 16/11/2024 13:32

Just go clubbing and make eye-contact?

Love this response

womanwithissues · 16/11/2024 19:28

@Balloonhearts I think you need to grow up if you can't read the OP and figure out what D is within a minute or two.

Balloonhearts · 16/11/2024 19:26

womenloveittoo · 16/11/2024 18:49

Oh don't be silly. Obviously I meant Dick! I'm 39 so definitely old enough.
I just know some people get offended.

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You might mean dick, you might mean dildo, you might mean anything. How would I know what you mean, I don't do cheap shags and don't advertise for them. Unless you frequent places like Tindr, you're not going to know the lingo. Same as non MNers don't always know what YABU means. Grow up, Jesus.

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womenloveittoo · 16/11/2024 19:21

Wish me luck guys... I've just changed my status online asking if any hot guys want to hook up!

I surely won't go through meeting randoms but I'm so curious to see if the offers suddenly come in!

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autumn1610 · 16/11/2024 19:21

Feeld. I found it relatively easy last year to have no strings with some guys

Dweetfidilove · 16/11/2024 19:19

LaurieFairyCake · 16/11/2024 14:42

Getting DICK is the easiest thing in the world

I'm in my 50's and could literally smile and make eye contact with any bloke roughly my age and have him back at my house in an hour Confused and I am NOT a looker

Men are pathetic

This sounds about right 😊

alifetimeago1 · 16/11/2024 19:19

womanwithissues · 16/11/2024 19:09

If you want a FWB - Feeld is the place.

This.

Lemonadeand · 16/11/2024 19:19

Back when I was single and in that phase at a similar age… old acquaintances from Facebook.

  1. Post a flirty selfie
  2. Note which single guys “like” it
  3. Message them, “Hey, long time no see! How are you?” Etc
  4. They reply and ask if you want to catch up
  5. Voila
TheShellBeach · 16/11/2024 19:18

womenloveittoo · 16/11/2024 19:07

@Keleshey oh stop... hilarious 😆

How many PMs from men have you received on here?

JoyfulinHope · 16/11/2024 19:18

By just being brazen and direct about it.

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