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womenloveittoo · 16/11/2024 13:29

I didn't want the thread to be raunchy as that's not what I'm asking.
I often read about women saying on threads how it's so easy for women to get D if they want. I'd like to know where these women speak off and why it's so easy but so difficult for me!
Lighthearted really. But I'm in my late 30's and being singe is no fun at all when you love sex like I do!
I don't understand where I'm going wrong...
I'm relatively attractive. Definitely not a stunner but certainly not hideous!
I have a job and a nice home. I'm a good friend and genuinely a really nice person! So I don't understand my predicament at all 😂
I know no one can give me an answer but where does all this 'it's so easy to find a man for sex' come from?

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lilkitten · 18/11/2024 21:47

womenloveittoo · 16/11/2024 18:56

So I suppose I should just go online and say I'm after sex! But I fear that would attract a lot of creeps and I wouldn't feel safe.
Maybe going to clubs and flirting... oh the horror. I wouldn't do that alone.

I started dating again at 43 when my partner and I became poly, a few years ago now. I was surprised how easy it was to get likes on apps, but I guess I shouldn't have been! I tend to use Feeld and OkCupid just as they're best for non-monogamy (which if you're looking for casual or FWB you may as well go that route). Always a better dating scene for women. I prefer meeting people IRL (kink & poly events for me, but I've also been speed dating etc) but as long as you have the time to trawl through the numerous guys online you'll find the apps are a good way. If you really just want a quick hook up, there's a website called Fab Swingers, but it is a total minefield on there

lilkitten · 18/11/2024 21:41

Balloonhearts · 16/11/2024 13:30

D? What's D? If you're not grown up enough to say it, you're not grown up enough to be doing it.

It's more slang now, comes from algorithms on social media picking up the word dick so people keeping it safe to not get banned

ThreeDoorsDown · 18/11/2024 01:21

I’m in my 40s, fat and average looking. I am married, happily so. At work there are at least 3 men I could shag by just saying the word if I wanted. 2 of whom are married, one has a girlfriend. Some men can be led by their dicks and think about repercussions only if forced to do so.

Work a few shifts in a petrol station. Lots of men offering there to the women on the kiosk. Pump D please! 😁

My hairdresser, late 50s, average in every way, but confident, regularly sex from lads on the building site down the road. Good sex too she reckons. She’s picked up men in Tescos too, and reckons she has a couple of customers (female) whose husbands she shags by arrangement as the wives don’t want sex anymore but don’t want their husbands to leave and know she won’t run off with them as she likes variety too much.

QueenCamilla · 18/11/2024 00:46

Very effective : Hold eye contact whilst eating a banana.

The most effective : Hold eye contact whilst eating two bananas.

betterangels · 17/11/2024 23:49

FWBs. Works very well for me.

Havinganamechange · 17/11/2024 23:41

Balloonhearts · 16/11/2024 13:30

D? What's D? If you're not grown up enough to say it, you're not grown up enough to be doing it.

@Balloonhearts DICK, she means cock

healthybychristmas · 17/11/2024 22:24

But surely you want to be a bit choosy? Yes you could advertise for a sexual partner but you would only get the dregs.

Do online dating and weed them out a bit.

Olives49 · 17/11/2024 21:15

itzthTtimeGib · 16/11/2024 19:38

Dill. I try to get it in Waitrose most of the time but excited to try some of the suggestions in this thread

😂

peanutmother · 17/11/2024 20:07

Women who get loads of men aren't fussy

So just lower standards

UnrealRita · 17/11/2024 10:46

TheShellBeach · 16/11/2024 13:35

D?

Dubonet of course!

BobbyBiscuits · 17/11/2024 10:42

Become a prostitute? Win win.
Only joking. Honestly I just think saying on your OLD profile you are up for casual sex would be enough. You'll potentially be able to see people withing an hour I'd have thought.
Or just go out to a busy pub on a Friday or Saturday night and flirt. The sex you get might not be fantastic, but I'd say if you're not too fussed then actually getting it is probably easy.

Fannyfiggs · 17/11/2024 10:41

@Balloonhearts maybe some D would chill you out 😱😉

dontcryformeargentina · 17/11/2024 10:33

Tinder / Hinge. Just put some pictures in revealing outfits and write in bio- open for short term relationships. You’ll have hundreds matches

Zippidydoodah · 17/11/2024 10:29

BIWI · 16/11/2024 13:36

I don't like being singed either.

😂

Needafriend14 · 17/11/2024 10:26

oggymummar · Yesterday 14:47

Walk into any bar, any building site, anywhere guys are and shout any one up for it and you'll get half a dozen, unless your confidence is misplaced. Also kebab and chicken shops after midnight. How do I know? My hairdresser told me and she is nearly sixty and regularly has no strings sex with men half her age.
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BIWI · 17/11/2024 10:22

Go and post in the sex topic @womenloveittoo and you'll get plenty of offers there.

Gwenhwyfar · 17/11/2024 08:53

DamselinDistress24 · 16/11/2024 19:12

I thought standard old sites were chock full of men looking for sex and trying to use them as hookup sites (?)

Yep and when women are looking for serious relationships only they quite often just get men looking for casual...

MagentaRavioli · 16/11/2024 20:59

From Boots. Once a day. Particularly important during the months when we don’t have much sunlight.

I tend to opt for 25 micrograms.

Deadbeatex · 16/11/2024 20:57

Littlemissgobby · 16/11/2024 20:05

Ha ha are you a man lol

Lol no definitely a woman

Lindjam · 16/11/2024 20:16

womenloveittoo · 16/11/2024 19:08

Thanks guys. I guess I need to put myself out there more.
I just thought everyone was getting it SO easily according to the things I read!

Well yes, it really is incredibly easy to get laid.

Just go online. You will get offers tonight

Shiningout · 16/11/2024 20:12

Op on this thread alone you've had at least 2 or 3 men offering it 😂😂🙄 and this is mumsnet, if you go on an app for sex you'll be hounded by them.

Shiningout · 16/11/2024 20:11

DamselinDistress24 · 16/11/2024 19:09

I joined fab swingers or something like that because I read about it on a thread on here and could not contain my curiosity to see if there are actually swinging meetups in my parochial, religious little corner of the UK. I couldn't see that without signing up.

I had no photo and put my real.age (mid 40s) and had 150 messages the next time I looked.

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Yep this. I once created a completely blank profile on there no pics etc or any info about me and within about half hour I had about 30 messages from men, some saying hello gorgeous 😂😂😭🙄 the desperation reeks from a lot of blokes in those kind of apps. So sex Is definitely readily available for most women but if you actually want to shag a decent guy then you'll have to weed a lot out first.

womenloveittoo · 16/11/2024 20:08

@TorroFerney I said it like that as sometimes you can be banned on some forums for using certain language.
Sorry it wasn't clear. I'm not illiterate. I was just trying to be discreet.

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womenloveittoo · 16/11/2024 20:06

@Balloonhearts you are right. I wasn't forthcoming. The only reason I wrote it like that was because I know on some online forums you get blocked or banned for using certain language.

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Littlemissgobby · 16/11/2024 20:05

Deadbeatex · 16/11/2024 19:16

I've sent you a pm

Ha ha are you a man lol

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