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How many times have you been married?

106 replies

Unknown1111 · 16/11/2024 08:40

Married or cohabiting.

I am separating from my second husband and now have 3 children from 2 men. No intention of going near another man right now but wondering do people in similar situations find their happy after?

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BrightLemonShark · 16/11/2024 10:40

Ooh I’ve thought of another example.
My grandad died in his 50s. My Grandma had a live in gentleman companion (as she called him) for about 15 years when I was growing up. He died as well.
Grandma found a third partner (her new gentleman companion) her 70s and was very happy until her death.

Lindjam · 16/11/2024 10:40

Twice divorced, two children, both from second marriage.

Been single for 14 years and have never been happier 😍

Feellikeafailurenow · 16/11/2024 10:37

Once. Been with my husband over 20 years. If we split i’d remain single. Not keen on dealing with a blended family situation or parenting someone elses kids / trusting someone with mine so until they are older i’d happily be single.
in 20 years if i feel like it i would maybe want some company so never say never but in the near future if it happened i would 100% be single and focus on my kids. No more kids either as i’m now in my 40s

Crushed23 · 16/11/2024 10:33

Never married. Never engaged.

Co-habited once, for 1 year of a 2.5 year relationship.

Now single.

Very happy with my life.

Tumbleweed101 · 16/11/2024 10:30

One long term relationship and four children. Together about 14 years. Now split for 13 years and never had another long term relationship.

stargazerlil · 16/11/2024 10:29

Never married, no kids. Feel good, feel happy. Have dog not lonely.
Look and feel at least 10 years younger than my age.
gone through menopause don’t miss sex.

BrightLemonShark · 16/11/2024 10:29

I’ve only ever been in 1 relationship. We married when I was 18 and are are still happily married and I’m 42.

However, in what will be more relevant to your question. I don’t know anyone else my age who is on their first marriage. Not all of them are in happy long term relationships/marriages right now, some are twice divorced, most of them are happy.

Minihero · 16/11/2024 10:28

My sister is twice divorced with 2 children from each marriage. She didn't marry again but has had LTRs since. No more kids.

My brother never married but has been in several LTRs and has 4 children from 3 cohabiting partners - the 3rd he is still with.

Nothatgingerpirate · 16/11/2024 10:23

Once.
Happily married, but fucking hell, never more 😁
Nothing equals singledom.

BunnyLake · 16/11/2024 10:16

Never married but cohabited with father of my children. Split some time ago and have remained very happily single since. I don’t ever see marriage in my future.

No33 · 16/11/2024 10:11

ViciousCurrentBun · 16/11/2024 09:15

You haven’t said your age. I lived with two BF in my twenties, met DH at 30. Married for 25 years and together for close to 30 years. He has been my great love and I do not need another nor want one.

What I have found having known women who have been single, divorced and widowed is that at any time if they have had what I call a great love where that love feels truly reciprocated they are less bothered about more relationships. I feel that way about DH, my two BF were certainly ok but no great love. With DH it is completely different, we fit together like a pair of old slippers to quote our DS, one is the left and one is the right. They had both asked me to marry them but at that point I realised they were just not enough.

That's an interesting thought. Even though I have to disagree, I don't feel I have had that kind of romantic relationship.
However, I do feel I have a soul mate, but I don't believe that soul mates are necessarily romantic, mine certainly isn't.

So, I think I agree, just disagree that your great love must be romantic. (If that's what you believe)

MolkosTeenageAngst · 16/11/2024 10:06

0 and don’t expect I ever will

No33 · 16/11/2024 09:59

Cohabited twice. Never married. 3 kids.

I am single, have been for many years and I'm still under 40. I CBA with men, they're all the same and bore me.

I fill my life with my wonderful family and friends, hobbies and studying.

Happier than I have ever been, cannot imagine every living with a man again. Could just do with a man to have sex with, but see previous comment 😆

HildaHosmede · 16/11/2024 09:56

Only dh, cohabited at 18, married him ten years later and still together.

EggandStress · 16/11/2024 09:50

This is my first marriage, got married when I was 53.
I'd had several relationships previously and lived with 3 men. Had a child when I was 19.

GoofyGoldie · 16/11/2024 09:49

Married 3 times.
Left first H - he drank & became violent. Had 3 DC with him, now in late 30s.

Second H left me for OW. Have DD, 16, with him.

3rd DH & I have been together over 7 years, met when I was 49. Married in June 22. He is amazing. How I ever thought the other 2 were OK I'll never know. My now DH is my soul mate & best friend. He was divorced, then widowed. His DS is from his 2nd marriage so lives with us.

cantpullthetrigger · 16/11/2024 09:49

Twice married, one child with my current husband.

Considering divorce and wondering the likelihood of a happy ever after.

Not sure I would get married for a third time though. Financially probably not in my interests to.

XxSideshowAuntSallyx · 16/11/2024 09:49

Once and that was enough. Been on my own for 7 years I kind of like my own company.

I always think I'd like to share my life with someone again but they'd have to be really special.

I also need to actually get divorced but I don't know where he is now.

DecayingRelic · 16/11/2024 09:49

I should have said:

We met when I was 17 and he was 21

Married when I was 19

3 adult children

I would not find anyone else if he dies before me, never

lollypopsforme · 16/11/2024 09:49

Ive never been married never want to either.
Never had kids.
The above is to nuch drama to have in my life.
I have been single 10 years and love it i can sleep with who i want without drama or strings attached.
Do what i want when i want and i love my own space.

Lanzarotelady · 16/11/2024 09:47

Married once, met him at 20, still together, 31 years later, 2 kids, still laughing every day, still having regular sex, still enjoying each others company.

DecayingRelic · 16/11/2024 09:46

One

In fact it is our 35 anniversary tomorrow

TrumpsTan · 16/11/2024 09:46

Twice, been widowed twice by 52. Live with lovely DP now. Unlikely to marry again.

Hoppymclimpy · 16/11/2024 09:45

Married twice, divorced twice & now with lovely DP of nearly 4 years.
First marriage ended after 15 months in my early 20s due to DV.
Second marriage ended after 11 years when I was 41 due to him not wanting to be with me!
DP and I don't live together as we both have kids ( I have 1 teenage DD from marriage 2)
Finally feel totally at peace in my relationship. It's a good feeling 💚

Chasingsquirrels · 16/11/2024 09:43

Twice married.
Now in a long term living apart relationship and intend to love together within the next couple of years.

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