It's after 3am and DH isn't back yet, aibu for being annoyed?

He left at 2pm!!! I haven't done an 11 hour stint since I was at uni

The cool wife brigade always make me chuckle on these threads

"OP he's out enjoying himselffff don't be such a shrew"

OP I'd be pissed off too, if only because I'd have been worried sick

My DP and I never text or ring each other, from a night out. It just doesn't enter our heads. (Until I want a lift home 😂). For context, we are older, 55 and 60, and together 34 years, so of a generation where constant communication is much less expected.
However, we are creatures of habit, in terms of socialising,with expected patterns of behaviour. DP, for example, is always home by 12. We would definitely expect notification if the other decided to stray massively from the norm. We would both worry in your situation, just due to the lack of warning - not because they were partying late though.

My husband goes out, no alcohol involved, his hobby and I won’t know if he’s back until I wake up in the morning!

There's a huge difference between planning a big night out (we both do that on occasion and usually arrange to stay in a hotel or say I'll be back late, don't wait up) and expecting someone home but not hearing from them. If something changes during the night (has happened) a quick text resolves the situation. Doesn't need to be angsty and controlling. If you share your life with someone it's just courteous to let them know vaguely what's happening.
My husband's Christmas do is elsewhere in county as team wide spread and involves a hotel stay. Mine is more local. I say I'll be late don't wait up. Or sometimes come home after the dinner. If that changes and I want to go out for a bit after, I'll just let him know.
If you have young children Saturdays tend to be busy with activities and need planning for.

DH was watching the boxing out with friends and is still out now! It's 7am.
But to be fair he told me in advance that he'd be out watching the boxing and it starts at 4am.
I'd be a bit cross if he hadn't told me he would be out all night though, coz I'd be worried.
But yeah alot of bars are open all night to show this boxing.
I too have 3 primary aged kids at home with me but DH doesn't go out often and he loves the boxing...
I don't think it's unusual to be out an entire night. If it were every weekend I'd take issue. But I go out for the whole night if I go on a night out. Mostly because trains back from the nearest city stop at 11pm but start again at 5am... so I get the 5am train back!

Op I can totally see why you are in this position in the first place. He can do as he likes. No need for consideration or respect. It’s sad.

A one off, night out and having a good time, I’d expect DH to enjoy it, sleep it off the next day and we do something on Sunday. Every weekend then I’d be pissed off.

There are also quite a few " don't give a damn" and " laissez faire" advocates as well.

It probably depends where you live.

According to my son, that match was a fraud/joke. The "other guy" lives in our area/state. He felt it to be more a dance routine, but I don't know for sure, as I didn't watch. "Other guy" (Jake Paul) won.

FFS there's some misery guts and worry worts on here.

It’s not the occasion that makes bad people do bad things. If your husband is an untrustworthy lout on a Christmas night out then he’s also an untrustworthy lout on a standard Wednesday. If you have to worry about what hes up to the problem isnt the party, its your relationship.

You sound like a barrel of laughs! Going on a night out isn’t disrespectful, although he should’ve let her know he’d be back later than planned. We’re all different - just because it’s not your idea of fun, doesn’t mean it’s wrong.

I think it's polite to let someone know you're not dead but will be out late. People go missing on nights out. Fall in the water. Get stabbed. End up in hospital. All sorts.

Make sure you get an equivalent break from the kids on another weekend OP, it's only fair.

Ask him which party he's dealing with as you can't do both

And the one time they arent, they are usually in a lap dance/ strip joint

Once a year my DH went out with the lads from work - usually paid for by work . He was in construction so it was "all lads together " I knew the night was going to get messy and I let him at it

Left the door on the latch and went to bed

He was an adult, He loved me, I trusted him. No problem

The only time it was a problem was when we had moved to Northern Ireland, he was still working in London and the snow arrived and I asked him to forgo the night out and come home, he wanted the night out, and all flights were then cancelled for two days and it was a mad panic to get him home for Christmas

You make a " works night out" sound like a church outing.
You must be very naive if you don't know what a " works night out" can involve.
Especially when the partner at home is left totally in the dark as to what is happening.
Just wait until the works Christmas nights out / parties threads start on MN this year. Quite depressing the effects some of these " works night out" have on relationships.

Can any of your plans for the DC be got to without driving? I'd tell him to do his share regardless, unless you agreed yesterday that he wouldn’t have to.

Interesting you think im the one with low self esteem when you’re the one convinced everyone’s up to something illicit when they commit the heinous crime of… going on a works night out 😂

It is called standards and how could
you defend such disrespectful behaviour! It says everything about you and your poor self esteem.