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Original poster

It's after 3am and DH isn't back yet, aibu for being annoyed?

238 replies

tometoyoutodo · 16/11/2024 03:25

Yesterday he left home for a Work dinner at 2pm and has texted just once at 6pm. How would you feel?
There's 3 Primary aged DCs at Home with Me.

OP posts:
Workiskilligme · 16/11/2024 05:56

I think it can be worse as you get older as life is more stressful (the child rearing years) and we go a bit overboard when the opportunity arises, or we simply think we can drink like we used to, when we very definitely can't. I'm probably quite drunk and dancing in a loud venue, I'm not thinking about my dh and dc for those few hours and it's brilliant and necessary.

Wishicouldnotcare · 16/11/2024 05:16

Yes it always amazes me the number of posters on threads like these who don't seem to care that their supposed loved one may have met with an accident and that's why they still aren't home at some ungodly hour.
Imo it is only common decency to send a text or communicate in some way to let your partner know you are OK when you stay out longer than they would reasonably have expected you to.

Workiskilligme · 16/11/2024 05:14

I never expect to hear from dh if he's out. I just tune him out. It's a rare occasion and he's out with friends. I never go out much these days but a couple of Christmases ago I was out till 6am, it was great. You are capable of being at home with the kids, you don't need looking after. Just make sure it's your turn soon.

Gingerlingerlonger · 16/11/2024 04:57

It's not controlling nor odd. It's fear. Fear that the person you love and is the father/mother of your shared children is lying in the street having been stabbed or beaten, alone in the middle of the night.

Once that worry enters your head, it quickly becomes all consuming. It is a dangerous world and only fools pretend these things don't happen.

SnoopysHoose · 16/11/2024 04:52

This is the second thread like this, what is it you want him to call/txt about?
I never understand this, someone on a night out but expected to keep calling/texting the person at home, it's quite controlling and odd

Motheranddaughter · 16/11/2024 04:36

Just go to sleep

FrenchandSaunders · 16/11/2024 04:27

If he rarely goes out I’d cut him some slack OP🤷🏼‍♀️

InWalksBarberalla · 16/11/2024 04:15

If it's a once in a while thing I'd let it go. I've done it myself occasionally - gone out and found myself losing track of time and getting into the spirit of things more than intended!

youngoldthing · 16/11/2024 04:10

Is this a regular occurrence?

is he out enjoying himself?

Do you need him home for a particular reason?

Original poster
tometoyoutodo · 16/11/2024 03:42

I've woken at 3 and called, he did answer but could barely hold a conversation. I'm thankful he's ok as my first reaction was worry! He doesn't go out often so I'm not sure if my minor annoyance is justified.

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DesertGecko · 16/11/2024 03:34

I’d be pissed, royally pissed. How would he take it if the situation was reversed? Not well I imagine.

Simplepink · 16/11/2024 03:32

It’s not on but try not to worry the big boxing match is on at 4. Imagine he’s been swept up in all of that

TrishM80 · 16/11/2024 03:31

Did he say when he'd be back? Did you need him back for a specific reason?

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