Dh has walked off and left me alone at 1am in the street. 2 miles from home

How do you what attachment issues vs side effects of a bottle of wine look like for a random on the internet you’ve never met?

No, I’m not excusing her behaviour. She needs therapy either way, she has attachment issues and I’ve already said she shouldn’t even be in a relationship if this is what she thinks is acceptable and they probably shouldn’t be together at all , but we don’t know why she does it.If she’s always done this sort of thing then he would have surely known before they got married, and if it’s a more recent thing, then why? Why did she not want to leave him alone in a pub? Was she frightened he’d cheat? She’s 51, the chances are they’ve been married years and things have gone on that none of us know about so I don’t think it’s fair just to pile on OP.

What’s with some posters trying to psycho-analyse. The pair of them were clearly pissed. Walk around any town on a Friday night and guarantee you’ll see an equivalent scene to this sorry drama.

They’re not usually 51 mind.

She'd look like a right idiot if she's still sat on the kerb saying to passers by "but he left me sat on the kerg and walked home"! So hopefully you've got off the fucking kerb and walked home yourself. Get some bloody therapy for your fucking stupidity.

You sound about 14

Because he is well aware that you are an adult woman and perfectly capable of taking care of yourself.

Tbf your DH does sound like a bit of a dick; at the same time the only person you are punishing here is yourself. Go home and then deal with your arse of a DH in the morning.

The way your DH acted wasn't great op and I know you did get home but by saying you are sleeping on the kerb for the night seems ridiculous. At that point you were in charge of YOUR actions and it seems like you were actually looking for the worst case outcome so you could then blame your husband.

Play stupid games, win stupid prizes I'm afraid OP. You acted this way because you wanted him to react a certain way and he didn't partake.

What a load of drama about much of nothing. Wasting lots of time moaning and posting on MN instead of doing something positive. Didn't give reason why she couldn't call a taxi, call a friend for help or start walking. In the time she martyred herself she could have got home and been in bed by 2am instead of 3am.

Her self-esteem is

What a drama llama?
Hopefully you're sober this morning OP and can see what an idiot you were.

Are you still on the Kerb?

This whole thing seems very inner child with daddy issues. She is expecting unconditional love which explains why she is acting like a child....'you don't care about me and you left me in the dark blah blah blah'
OP I recommend some therapy. You can't expect your life partner/husband whatever to parent you.

You just scream drama when drunk. Mental that women nowadays have the mindset of entitlement. No he shouldn't of left you technically he has a duty of care as your husband/partner. But considering your old enough to drink put your big girl pants on walk home safely then discuss in the morning how it's inappropriate for a women to be left alone whilst drunk 2 miles from home in the middle of the night. If you was hoping he'd feel any shred of remorse and come flying to you on his noblesteed as a white Knight more fool u. Should of got an uber 🙄

Maybe he'd had enough of your game playing.
You should have just walked with him or got a taxi.

I agree, she was at higher risk of hypothermia in that situation than from anything else. This was the kind of behaviour I saw from people in their late teens let out for the first time, not actual adults with children.

Now that did make me laugh!! 😆

That's the one. Done it loads of times. Works like a dream.

It is possible to make people feel cared for without enabling them so they don’t feel the need to be manipulative in this way.
Completely disagree and think this is still highly manipulative and controlling. That's still a 'its your fault she needs to act like this'
Would you say the same to a woman in a physically abusive relationship? 'Oh its possible for you to make him happy so he doesn't feel the need to batter you!'.

Kerboflage

Yeah, cos apparently if you sit still on the kerb alone predatory men can't see you.

What a silly comment! Because predatory men! Yes there are men that do this. There are also women that do this. FYI her sitting there on her own shivering is more dangerous than her walking home on the off chance a predatory man is lurking about. Jesus

Agree. What clapp. No wonder men don't have respect for women sometimes.

Instead of feeding dolly mixtures to your inner little girl, OP. Find your inner GI Jane and channel women that have gone into war zones.

Ah but look at all the drama and blame fodder the OP will have banked to guilt him with! 'REMEMBER WHEN YOU ABANDONED ME IN THE DAAAARK!!! I HAD TO SLEEP OUTSIDE ON THE GROUND'

Thanks for the back story. personally I found the OP rather all over the shop. I think she isn't thinking straight at all.