Dh has walked off and left me alone at 1am in the street. 2 miles from home

I've nearly forgotten how to spell kerb by the end of this

You both need to grow up, get a grip and stop drinking if it makes you act like idiots. You shouldn't have sat on the kerb in the cold for so long and he shouldn't have left his wife. Think you should both look at your decision making and your relationship today.

I expect he knows you to be a drama queen and couldn't be bothered with it.

He wanted you to have a good night, suggested you go off with your friends, but you chose not to.

He offered to walk you home, but you threw it back in his face because you felt he was offering out of duty? (we'll probably yes, but that was kind of him. He offered to go something he didn't want to do, simply fit your benefit).

What did you do or offer to do to support your DH tonight?

You decided to just sit on a kerb on the cold at night and told Mumsnet you were going to sleep the night there (which I doubt you were going to do, and have in fact not done, but you wanted to create some drama).

I hope you got home ok and have slept alright and are not too hungover this morning. But your DH seems to have done nothing wrong and I seem pretty high maintenance

Then leaves her to it.

Which is what she told him to do, had he imposed himself onto her for the walk home she would have still been moaning that he was disrespecting her wishes!

Blimey, what a drama...

No, I totally agree with you! She needs therapy.

Me too and I also appreciated the correct spelling of the edge of the pavement, not curb, not kurb but kerb. Keep your enthusiasm in check!

You seem to be very dependant how he reacted to you putting yourself into a poorly advised situation. Why would he come back for you, when you make all these decisions?
What you really need to do, is to look at both why you acted this way, and why he acted the way he did. You may well find there are much deeper problems with both of you in this relationship.
I'd also wonder whyyour "friends" left you to it. Perhaps they can see problems with how you acted, and how he acted, but know that there is no point in trying anymore.

Am I ok to laugh now? 😆

People do occasionally become overwrought when drunk.

My advice...take yourselves out for brunch and write the ending of the evening off as a mad lot.

She’s still controlling and I don’t think her behaviour is at all acceptable, let me make that clear. All I’m saying is, I can see how it might have happened and none of us know why OP ended up like this. They’re likely to have been together/married for years if she’s 51, and she’s still behaving like this so likely something is wrong in their relationship. That was my point. It’s usually not the case that one person in a long term relationship has issues and the other doesn’t, as the one without issues leaves as soon as they realise that the other is toxic. I doubt that he is innocent either.

Well nobody comes out of this well do they?

DH walks off in a huff and is 'happy' that OP hasn't ordered a cab as they've paid out enough for them for one night. Then leaves her to it.

OP sits on the kerb instead of turning tail, walking back into the pub and asking them if they could either help her order a cab or at least keep an eye on her whilst she waits for a cab as she's alone and been let down for getting home. Most bar staff will happily help or have cab numbers on the bar. She'd have been able to wave at him as she passed him on the way home. Instead she sits on the kerb as she doesn't want to walk home as it's cold and dark - obviously the kerb is thermal warmed, protected by a bubble so no-one can harm her and lit up like a sunny day! As for not walking home in case she's attacked - no, it's obviously much better to make herself a nice, literally sitting, target. Just to prove DH is an arsehole and to make him feel bad (he won't, not if he's an arsehole). Still had to get home somehow as he couldn't/wouldn't collect her.

And her friends are happy to 'wonder what is up with DH' when she texts them the tale rather than saying ' stay where you are, a cab will be there asap' and ordering one from their end. If they knew she didn't have enough cash, a small whip round would have covered a 2 mile journey.

So OP, you've got a DH and a friends problem here. Both sets of people were happy for you sit on a kerb at 2am. In future, make sure you are safe before continuing the drama. Having an 'I'll teach them and will make them feel bad' attitude only ever hurts one person - you.

I'm pleased you realised that sleeping on the kerb was not the most sensible option.
I think some posters have been quite mean. We all have had silly drunken spats that seem much more serious in the moment than they do in the cold light of day.
Your dh shouldn't have left you alone but you should have found a way to get yourself home quickly and safely without all the kerb dramatics. Hopefully you've learnt your lesson.

I have a friend like this, and I have to say that after 30 years of supporting her, I'm losing sympathy.
She always somehow manages to be the victim, it's always "Poor me, he doesn't care about me." She's always in floods of tears and saying "I was crying, and he didn't care!". Yes, that's because you're always bloody crying! This is with many different men, by the way. None of her relationships have lasted.
Sorry if I sound callous, but I've started to see it as very manipulative and perhaps abusive behaviour on her part. Yes, she is insecure, and she does have attachment issues, but she makes everyone else's life hell because of it.

"Attachment issues" "inner little girl", etc?!

No, drunk middle aged woman who should know better deciding to behave like an attention seeking teenager.

We won't know if there is a backstory or not, unless op comes back to elaborate. Unless he has a history of flirting or being unfaithful there's no reason why he couldn't have stayed in the pub if he wanted to. It's still controlling of her to expect him to follow when he doesn't want to? If she had been more reasonable and said please can you escort me home as I feel uncomfortable he might have done so but it's like she clicked her fingers verbally, unless he is a simp no one would put up with that shit.

sounds like you got in a strop as he wouldn't come with you to friends and then you were seeking attention from him. You both seem to be having in a very juvenile manner.

I think you both need a hard long look at yourselves and your relationship when you're both sober.

Unless it wasn't safe at home for anyone on this thread, we'd all have got a taxi or legged it home, to limit the amount of time we were vulnerable.

Glad you got home safely OP.
It’s upsetting your partner behaved like that but you must look after yourself however upset you are with him.

Why didn’t you just walk behind him….. not with him if he wanted to be on his own but abit behind so if you got into trouble he would be able to help you…..

You'd be a great marriage guidance counsellor.

Drink would have played its part yes, but the whole repeated, ‘he doesn’t care about me’ 10000 x and the way the whole thing played out definitely says insecurity and attachment issues to me. I’ve never said her behavior is right. I’ve said I can see why it might have happened.

She's 51??!!

Well, that manages to put a new spin on the traditiinal ‘Don’t mind me, I’ll sit in the dark’, and ‘cutting off your nose to spite your face’.

Wait, OP is 51??

What the hell did you drink to behave like this, at 51?