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Dh has walked off and left me alone at 1am in the street. 2 miles from home

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Boopadoop90 · 16/11/2024 00:59

Just that really. We were out with friends, going back to theirs. Dh refused to back to theirs but I don't know why. The others left in a cab. I couldn't leave dh alone in the pub. I I said I'm going home. He said OK. Followed me out in a fit and angry, cos he felt obliged to follow me. He's walked home. I'm 2 miles away from homre and sitting in the cold shivering
He messaged me to ask if I got an uber home. I said no, he said good we've spent £x on uber tonight.

He's walked home and I'm sitting on the kerb, 2 miles away in the dark, cold.

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Meepspeeps · 16/11/2024 10:04

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Butchyrestingface · 16/11/2024 10:03

Oblomov24 · 16/11/2024 10:00

Yes, @Butchyrestingface, Many of did read the later post that she eventually walked home. How did that later part change the fact that the earlier part was incredibly silly?

Then I’m obviously not talking to those who read the thread, am I? I’m talking to the ones who were asking why she’s still there.

And who said anything about her being home now changing the fact that what she did earlier was nuts (not “silly”, btw, plain nuts)?

Completelyjo · 16/11/2024 10:02

Boopadoop90 · 16/11/2024 01:10

I'm now sleeping the night on the kurb
He can see my location my clearly doesn't care

What a drama queen. Maybe he’s over all the theatrics.
You told him not to bother following you, you didnt think it was good enough that he went with you because he felt like he had to even though you feel like he did have to.
Stop with the teenage mixed messages and tests and grow up.

FlibbertyGibbitt · 16/11/2024 10:00

Kerbzilla 🤣

LiquoriceAllsorts2 · 16/11/2024 10:00

Boopadoop90 · 16/11/2024 01:17

He left me in the street. He didn't want to walk after me when I said was going home. He felt like he HAD to. Stuff that

This makes you sounds like incredibly hard work. If he wasn’t ready to leave then why would he have wanted to walk after you. He still did you. Your expectations of him are unrealistic/ unreasonable

Oblomov24 · 16/11/2024 10:00

Yes, @Butchyrestingface, Many of did read the later post that she eventually walked home. How did that later part change the fact that the earlier part was incredibly silly?

Applesonthelawn · 16/11/2024 09:59

You don't communicate properly with your dh. You need to work on that or your relationship will always be drama.

TrumpsTan · 16/11/2024 09:58

I had a boyfriend who did this to me in Brighton when we were on a short holiday…

Its one of 5he reasons I dumped him when I got home.

Fluffington9 · 16/11/2024 09:58

Sounds pretty standard after having an argument to me.

In regards to the taxi fare that’s ridiculous. This is why I don’t like the 100% shared money thing cos people get pissy about how’s it’s spent. Not sure if this is the case or not. If so, both of you have some of your own money!

Telling you not to spend £ on taxi fare - your husband is not your Dad so pull yourself out of the ‘little girl’ dynamic where you are ‘unable’ to get home without his ‘permission’!

Butchyrestingface · 16/11/2024 09:57

Some posters clearly haven’t read OP’s 03;00 update. She had walked home by then. So she’ll have been comatose for a good 6 hours at least.

And she 51, not 5, 12, 14 or any of the other suggestions on this thread. So hopefully her nearly grown offspring can bring her a nice sugary cup of tea in bed this morning she’ll need it. 😀

Fupoffyagrasshole · 16/11/2024 09:57

Bat shit you should have took an Uber to your friends

Silvers11 · 16/11/2024 09:54

CalicoPusscat · 16/11/2024 09:38

I've nearly forgotten how to spell kerb by the end of this

🤣😂🤣 Me too!!

CarrotsAndCheese · 16/11/2024 09:51

I'm glad you got home safely in the end, OP. He shouldn't have left you alone. Please, please consider getting some therapy to understand why you are prepared to harm yourself in order to make your point. You deserve to treat yourself with kindness, and to be treated with love and kindness. No man is worth endangering yourself for, especially one who hasn't got your back. Take care of yourself 💐

CurlewKate · 16/11/2024 09:48

No decent person, man or woman, would leave anyone, man or woman,alone and drunk at 1 in the morning. No matter how annoying they were being, you pour them into taxi and get them home.

femfemlicious · 16/11/2024 09:48

Why are were sitting in the cold. Why not just go home. Its freezing

Allelbowsandtoes · 16/11/2024 09:47

mamechange · 16/11/2024 01:50

Don't mean to be rude but you are acting like a juvenile drunken buffoon. GO HOME.

Juvenile drunken buffoon 😂😂😂😂

MILLYmo0se · 16/11/2024 09:46

So this was all some dirt of weird test for him?! He didn't want to go to your friends, he choose to, and wanted to, be left alone in the pub. You insisted you were staying with him even though you wanted to go to your friends..... Then walked out saying you were walking home?! He followed you but is annoyed with you and doesn't want to talk to you, rightly or wrongly who knows, so why didn't you just let him walk but you walk in the same direction to? Then ye are out of each others space but he s in close proximity if you were to encounter any weirdos. Sitting on the side of the road as a test for him to see if he comes back isnonsense

Couldyounot · 16/11/2024 09:46

What an utterly embarrassing thread. Everyone involved in this situation needs to knock the booze on the head if it causes them to behave like this

Notwhatuwanttohear · 16/11/2024 09:46

You sound very dramatic.

Anyway it's your own fault you ended up sitting on the curb for an hour or whatever it was anyway.

Why can't you leave a grown adult in the pub at 23:45.

He told you to go with the friends.

You didn't do either, then expect him to hang about for your drama.

Should have got a taxi instead of attention seeking in the cold and dark

Oblomov24 · 16/11/2024 09:42

More fool you for sitting on a kerb for an hour. Very silly behaviour.

Calliopespa · 16/11/2024 09:41

bumblefeline · 16/11/2024 01:07

Last thing I'd think of if I was sat on a kerb in the cold is to post on Mumsnet. Get a bloody Uber. What's wrong with people.

Edited

Quite.

This sounds like you are both throwing tantrums op.

Just get a taxi and go home .

LivinInYourBigGlassHouseWithAView · 16/11/2024 09:40

Boopadoop90 · 16/11/2024 01:15

Ty all. I am so so so cold. He clearly doesn't care I'm sitting on the kerb. I'm so upset at him. Our friends think it weird how he's acted

Are you 12 or a grown woman?

Take some responsibility for yourself.

3luckystars · 16/11/2024 09:40

Just to add, if you have an iPhone and say ‘lumos’ to it, it lights up, like Magic.

Teanbiscuits33 · 16/11/2024 09:39

The moral of the story is… you both need to ‘kerb’ your drinking and your arguments

VickyEadieofThigh · 16/11/2024 09:39

CalicoPusscat · 16/11/2024 09:38

I've nearly forgotten how to spell kerb by the end of this

😅