Dh has walked off and left me alone at 1am in the street. 2 miles from home

You both need to address your alcohol use. It’s doing nothing for your marriage, your finances, your mental and physical health. Sober people aren’t sitting on a kerb, complaining to strangers on the internet about their spouses.

😂😂😂😂

@SwerveCity
He didn't leave her, she chose to sit on the kerb in some weird manipulative behaviour, this is not on the man for a change.

I think you're weird for the way you're acting.

If it isn't a troll, I suspect she loved every minute of it. So stupid.

😂 It really was full moon last night, wasn’t it.

In honour of the OP, I’ve adapted this little ditty slightly. I’d like to claim credit, but OP’s then teenage alter-ego Avril Lavigne got there first.

🎵 I'm sitting on a kerb
I'm waitin' in the dark
I thought that you'd have turned around by now
There's nothing but the kerb
No footsteps on the ground
I'm sulking but there's no sound
Isn't anyone coming back to get me?
Won't an Uber magically take me home?
It's a damn cold night
Trying to post drunken messages on Mumsnet
Won't you take me by the hand?
Take me somewhere warm
I know where you are (in bed)
But I, I'm not with you 🎵

No matter how much of a twat either of them were being I don’t for one second agree that it was ok for him to leave her there. Anything could have happened. We aren’t safe alone outside at night.
glad you got home ok OP

@Boopadoop90 I’ve read your other thread too. You talk about feeling lost in life and revisiting old haunts etc. I’m going to see this daft behaviour (because it is daft) as part of that same mental place you’re in.

You’re 51. Menopause does crazy things to our thinking sometimes. It sure did for me. Have you thought about HRT?

I know suggesting menopause is fast becoming the new ‘is he ADHD’ around MN, but it’s hard not to read about your behaviour/thought patterns, your age, and make the connection.

Yet another thread where I ask myself how do some people manage to struggle through life. Baffling.

This is so weird. It's almost as if you want to feel badly done to. Two miles is nothing to walk, but you're an adult, if you don't want to walk, you don't need his permission to get an Uber. Stop being a martyr and get yourself home.

I bet they both feel pretty rough this morning...

So you didn't want to leave him alone in a pub then did, he was following you but you said don't bother so he did what you said then you sat down waiting for what?

You left the pub at 11.45 saying you were going home. You told DP he didn't need to come with you.

Why did you not go straight home?

Why not call and Uber and get home safely?

Why sit on the kerb for over an hour before deciding to walk home?

This appears to be about wanting attention from DP and not getting it.

There must be more background to this.

Glad you finally walked home and safe and warm now.

Is this some sort of weird creative writing exercise. It's not good. Makes no sense.

At best I think it means he followed you reluctantly so you got in a strop and sat down refusing to walk. So he walked home. And you continued to sit there petulantly hoping he'd come back but he didn't.

Ok

I really don’t understand your actions. Why couldn’t your husband stay in the pub on his own and you go back to your friends? Why when he did leave with you did you just sit on the bloody kerb for ages instead of a) going to your friends b) going home in an Uber, c) walking home
2 miles isn’t particularly far. And if you felt you would be vulnerable walking you are a lot more vulnerable sitting alone on a pavement in the middle of the night.
This is the sort of behaviour I’d expect from an immature teen. I’m assuming you were very drunk and that where the irrational behaviour came from. I wouldn’t have been impressed if my DP took off without me in a huff late at night so I do understand why you were upset but there were more adult ways of managing that situation

This makes no sense. I take it you had drank too?
Why didn't you call a taxi or just walk.
Yes walking is scary and not fun. But sitting on a kerb for over a hour is just as bad .
You are responsible for yourself at the end of the day .
And expecting a drunk man to bail you out is foolish .
Whatever test it was was pointless. He was obviously going to fail

Just ask MN to remove it and start a new one. 🙂. Use the report function.

This is controlling behaviour, lying on a pavement at 3am to somehow force your DP to retrieve you and if he doesn't he will be harangued for not caring.
Very very manipulative, this is a horrible way to behave.

So sorry, I meant to start my own thread!

@Meepspeeps You need to start your own thread. This OP will be in no position to advise when she wakes up like a bear with a sore head later. 🙂

Wow. Drama larma

And I never say things like that !!

You could have

gone with friends

left dh alone in pub

Walked home with dh

Got an Uber

Instead uou tried to play mind games with him - if he checked your location. He prob went to bed

Why on Earth would you say going to sleep on the kerb rather then go home

Obv you did go home

I'm so confused.
I'm glad you're home.
But why didn't you just walk home like you were doing originally? Even if he walked a few paces ahead, you were walking home anyway?
I'm going to guess you have other issues going on in your marriage that need discussing when you're both sober and not cold