Page 23 | Dh has walked off and left me alone at 1am in the street. 2 miles from home

Boopadoop90 · 2024-11-16T00:59:21+00:00

Just that really. We were out with friends, going back to theirs. Dh refused to back to theirs but I don't know why. The others left in a cab. I couldn't leave dh alone in the pub. I I said I'm going home. He said OK. Followed me out in a fit and angry, cos he felt obliged to follow me. He's walked home. I'm 2 miles away from homre and sitting in the cold shivering He messaged me to ask if I got an uber home. I said no, he said good we've spent £x on uber tonight. He's walked home and I'm sitting on the kerb, 2 miles away in the dark, cold.

WinterCrow · 16/11/2024 01:11

OP, don't use up your battery on Mumsnet. Use your phone to book an Uber a.s.a.p.

SleepingStandingUp · 16/11/2024 01:11

Boopadoop90 · 16/11/2024 01:08

We were supposed to get in a cab to friends house. He refused but don't know why. Friends left
He told me to go with them
But I wasn't going to leave him alone in pub at 11.45pm. Friends left. I then said I was going home. He got the arse and felt like he HAD to follow me
I said don't bother if you feel like that
I've Been sitting on the cold kurb for an hour
He has walked home and messaged to day he's home if I need him. (He's drunk and can't drive to get me )

Edited

So he came out to walk home with you but you sat down on the kerb so he left?

Stop being so bloody silly and go home. Call a cab or walk.

DirlingWhervish · 16/11/2024 01:11

Sounds like you're both a bit worse for wear, just get yourself home as safely as possible. Reflect on it all tomorrow and find out what was going on in his head then. Call a taxi/uber and just get yourself to bed.

OchAyeTheN00 · 16/11/2024 01:11

@loropianalover 😂

loropianalover · 16/11/2024 01:10

Boopadoop90 · 16/11/2024 01:10

I'm now sleeping the night on the kurb
He can see my location my clearly doesn't care

Sweet dreams 😴

OchAyeTheN00 · 16/11/2024 01:10

Enjoy your night just sitting there for… what? To make him feel bad? He doesn’t care.

Original poster

Boopadoop90 · 16/11/2024 01:10

I'm now sleeping the night on the kurb
He can see my location my clearly doesn't care

OP posts:

loropianalover · 16/11/2024 01:09

Boopadoop90 · 16/11/2024 01:08

We were supposed to get in a cab to friends house. He refused but don't know why. Friends left
He told me to go with them
But I wasn't going to leave him alone in pub at 11.45pm. Friends left. I then said I was going home. He got the arse and felt like he HAD to follow me
I said don't bother if you feel like that
I've Been sitting on the cold kurb for an hour
He has walked home and messaged to day he's home if I need him. (He's drunk and can't drive to get me )

Edited

Yeah you’ve said all of this already? Are you going to turn in for the night on the kerb then? Is there a patch of grass to lay your head?

DurinsBane · 16/11/2024 01:08

DurinsBane · 16/11/2024 01:05

If he felt obliged to follow you, and he did follow you out of the pub, how come you didn’t walk home together? How did you get separated?

Sorry, posted at the same time you explained

Original poster

Boopadoop90 · 16/11/2024 01:08

We were supposed to get in a cab to friends house. He refused but don't know why. Friends left
He told me to go with them
But I wasn't going to leave him alone in pub at 11.45pm. Friends left. I then said I was going home. He got the arse and felt like he HAD to follow me
I said don't bother if you feel like that
I've Been sitting on the cold kurb for an hour
He has walked home and messaged to day he's home if I need him. (He's drunk and can't drive to get me )

OP posts:

Domino20 · 16/11/2024 01:08

DogsandFlowers · 16/11/2024 01:05

Cos.... predatory men??!

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How is this danger lessened by sitting still on a kerb?

DurinsBane · 16/11/2024 01:07

Stichintime · 16/11/2024 01:04

I don't really understand this. You are an adult, you don't need a man to escort you home.

To be fair, it is a lot safer with her husband than walking on her own. Walking on her own at 1am on a Friday night for 2 miles isn’t the safest thing to do

SprinklesSparkles · 16/11/2024 01:07

i don’t understand this, just get a cab or walk🤷🏻‍♀️

bumblefeline · 16/11/2024 01:07

Last thing I'd think of if I was sat on a kerb in the cold is to post on Mumsnet. Get a bloody Uber. What's wrong with people.

MagentaRocks · 16/11/2024 01:07

DogsandFlowers · 16/11/2024 01:05

Cos.... predatory men??!

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I doubt sitting on a kerb is any safer

DurinsBane · 16/11/2024 01:06

DogsandFlowers · 16/11/2024 01:05

Cos.... predatory men??!

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I think they mean why didn’t she walk with her husband

Monty27 · 16/11/2024 01:06

You'll regret this tomorrow if you don't quit the drama and get yourself home. How old are you?

ColaCar · 16/11/2024 01:06

Get up off the kerb and walk home! Why are you just sat there writing on MN?! Very odd.

Vaxtable · 16/11/2024 01:06

Just get an uber. And get of MN. Go home

KenAdams · 16/11/2024 01:05

Wtf. Just call an Uber.

DurinsBane · 16/11/2024 01:05

If he felt obliged to follow you, and he did follow you out of the pub, how come you didn’t walk home together? How did you get separated?

DogsandFlowers · 16/11/2024 01:05

Domino20 · 16/11/2024 01:00

Why aren't you walking?

Cos.... predatory men??!

Thunderpants88 · 16/11/2024 01:04

I don’t understand any of this. He stormed off home and you sat outside in the cold? Wise up and go to a friends house

OchAyeTheN00 · 16/11/2024 01:04

Well it is cold. So get off the floor, and go home rather than posting on mumsnet.

TotHappy · 16/11/2024 01:04

Did he storm off away from you, OP? If he followed you out, how come you didn't go back with him?
I think i would just walk home, now, unless for some reason that's particularly daunting e.g. dodgy neighbourhood or dark country lanes. I wouldn't want a 2 mile walk alone in the middle of the night but I could do it. Can you?