Dh has walked off and left me alone at 1am in the street. 2 miles from home

Can’t believe OP hasn’t requested this be deleted. She’s “mortified” at the number of responses though 🤔

He's got the hots for the 'friend' which is why he didn't want to go back there. This left him pissed off which is why he wanted to carry on drinking. When OP said she was leaving he reluctantly agreed to follow her - when she said don't bother he decided enough was enough and stalked off home. OP did the damsel in distress routine which no one falls for these days and eventually got herself home. She's now mortified- DH is still sleeping it off. They'll talk around it at some point but he won't admit he fancies someone else and she won't admit that she really wants a macho, controlling man who rides to her rescue. The End.

That’s actually quite funny 🤣

I'm imagining a 'take a break' headline:
'Left for DEAD on the pavement in the FREEZING cold...he was HAPPY he'd saved money on Uber!' with a close up photo of a wet pavement.

Agree. I work with a woman, she's around 65. I have known her a good 17 years. She lives this way everyday. Her children can't stand her. Family cutt her off. Has no friends because everyone is sick of the ridiculous drama day in day out.

Her behaviour and quest for attention last night quite indicative of it...
Plus if she refused to move all night, do you think her friends would be duty bound to join her in freezing their arse off all night?

No, I didn't.. so at 19 I realised I had to stop drinking because my behaviour was inappropriate and unfair on others.

The OP is in her 50s apparently. Time enough to have learned that she can't behave sensibly when drinking!

I don't get upset by minor things like this, to the point of putting myself in danger and making myself horribly uncomfortable... no. I think thats because I am not an over dramatic idiot. Maybe. I haven't behaved like that since I was a very small child.

@DoreenonTill8 "How? Physically manhandle her into a taxi?
Do you think a taxi would take them both if she's stropping, resisting and telling him no"

Is there any indication she was going to do that?
They shouldn't have gone off and left her. But as they did, someone, probably the dh should have got in an Uber, gone to pick her up, taken her home then reevaluated his life choices in the morning.

Again...
How? Physically manhandle her into a taxi?Do you think a taxi would take them both if she's stropping, resisting and telling him no?Or do you think the police would end up being called?Do you think they should have to stay outside in the dark and cold, watching to check she's safe from a distance of course!

Her "friends" weren't there , she's a grown adult who wanted drama last night. She was capable enough to start a thread on Mumsnet and tbh be pretty petulant about the situation

Not up to anyone to help/get her to change. It is up to friends to get her safely home.

And sometimes they just need a "WTF am I doing?" moment.

The OP wasn't interested in support last night. She wasn't asking what to do. She just kept repeating that was sleeping on the kerb and it was cold. It was designed to make people worry about her.

She could have thought, "Fuck it!", caught a taxi and gone to the friends if he was being miserable.

Some people won't take responsibility for themselves though. They get their sense of self worth from being needy and dramatic and seeing how many people rise to it. And what better way when you've exhausted your real life supply than turning to the Internet?

I've known too many people in real life like this to have any time for it nowadays.

The suppprt never worked. In every case but one, they just stopped doing it one day. usually when they realised it was counter productive and was just pissing people off and they were losing friends. For a lot of people it's just learned behaviour and it's given them what they want in the past.

How? Physically manhandle her into a taxi?
Do you think a taxi would take them both if she's stropping, resisting and telling him no?
Or do you think the police would end up being called?
Do you think they should have to stay outside in the dark and cold, watching to check she's safe from a distance of course!

FFS! grow up!!

I'd have the hump with you if you get this bloody attention seeking after a few sherries!

Give your head a wobble!

There are some very random and petty people on this thread.

@stillis "but who knows how many times he’s dealt with all this over the many years together"

Indeed. I'm not saying that her dh/friends have no right to be furious, outraged, or to decide that they never want to have nothing more to do with the OP ever. AFTER they have made sure she is safely home.

Given its 4pm, I suspect that ship has sailed. And I'm not sure that advising someone who's engaging in dramatic dysfunctional behaviour to engage in more of it is a positive thing.

Oh , and OP I wouldn't have abandoned you. Just not my style. Often amongst the last left at somewhere but always go home with a friend or DH . Wouldn't leave someone alone. Glad you are home safe and sound though. Play loud music in the morning , That wlil wake your DH up.

All she needed to do was book an uber when she walked out and said she was going home.

I think this is very valid.

I'd expect the messages to be far less coherent if drunkenness and upset were to blame.

@Allelbowsandtoes I was quite pleased with that comment until I started worrying thatI had I mixed up buffoons and baboons. That would have been ruder!!!

That’s blatantly not true. People can make positive changes at any age if they have the right support.