Dh has walked off and left me alone at 1am in the street. 2 miles from home

I get that you don't want to go home, but it isn't safe on the kerbside.

If you're definitely not going home, you could get a taxi to a hotel or a friends and turn off the tracking so "D"H doesn't know where you are. That way you will be safe, but it might make you feel better to let him sweat a bit. I wouldn't let it get to the point where he'd be too concerned and contact the police, to waste their time though.

Stay safe, OP

But... you left him in the pub alone. So you were fine to get home yourself at the point you left the pub.
Why the sulk now? Just get yourself home.

I dunno. My husband wouldn’t have left me. But the OP is being a big baby and is going to feel like an idiot in the morning.

OP what an earth are you doing? It is not safe to sleep on the kerb alone in winter and doing this to make a point and wallow that he doesn't care isn't going to help you.

Get your arse up and in an Uber. Who cares about the money? Just do it. At this point I don't know how your survival instincts aren't kicking in. It doesn't really matter right now what he's done. You need to look after yourself and get home then deal with it tomorrow. Or are you thinking that if something bad happens to you it'll teach him a lesson? Teaching someone a lesson is much more satisfying if you live to tell the tale.

I am actually quite concerned about the state of your mental health. How can making a man regret leaving you there be more important than your actual safety? Leave him over this if it's that bad but sleeping on the kerb just repeating that he left you is absolute insanity and your very obvious vulnerability is going to attract bad people. Get up and go either home or to stay with your friends.

Please get a cab to a place of safety. If you can't get one, call a friend or relative, don't sleep on the kerb.

so instead he should of disrespected her and ignored her requests ?

This post is more real than the OP's.

Not universal support of a husbands actions. I think he shouldn’t have left her alone at that time of night.

Which is that film where an adult and a baby swap minds after some cosmic event? This must be what happens if the baby gets shitfaced.

You can be proud of yourself tomorrow for one thing. You have achieved the unachievable .
I never thought I would see universal support of a husband’s actions vs his wife on Mumsnet.
That is going to hurt when you realise just how badly you played your hand this evening.

he followed her wishes surley thats caring in respecting her wishes ?

You're not a child. Though you are behaving like one .

Why is it his responsibility to talk you into going home?

How would you feel if he was doing this to you?

I’m concerned about the OP, I can understand why she is upset that her husband doesn’t seem to care that she is out alone in the middle of the night.
Please get yourself home OP as you will regret it if you get attacked

Are you home yet? Asking for a friend...

Look at the replies on this thread, OP - no one is outraged on your behalf for how your DH has “left” you. Not one person is agreeing with you on “how could he do this” and how terrible it is that you now have to sit on the curb.

EVERYONE is telling you to get up and get yourself home, because you are perfectly capable of doing that.

Doesn’t it tell you something about the situation? Seriously OP, you’re 51 years old, stop deliberately putting yourself in danger (because YOU are doing that, not your DH) and go home.

Don't risk your safety in the hope of teaching him a lesson. Get home, or to a safe place. Get an Uber, a taxi, call a friend, walk to a friend's house, check into a hotel for the night - only you know what's possible where you are.

Later when you're both sober, talk about what happened so you each understand what the other was thinking and you can determine if there's a problem (besides everybody having drunk too much). Generally, though - (1) of course you could have gone with your friends and left him if he didn't want to come, unless he was really incapacitated. (2) If the two of you planned to walk home together, it was arsey of him to insist on going alone. If he doesn't understand that already he's probably not that great a partner. (3) Of course you can take an Uber home under the circs, if you can get one.

Get yourself home op ! Then argue with him in the morning if you want to. Not sure what you are trying to achieve by spending the night outside

Ah the wine rage.

Well the childs father is at home, so not sure why you are concerned.

You're an adult you can get yourself home 🤷‍♀️

You're being petty and manipulative

But she’s posting on Mumsnet that she’ll sleep on the kerb, instead of just fizzing. I’ve got bigger concerns for the child right now than she seems to

I must be the only person here who understands. It's the sort of shit I used to do.

Give yourself another hour to get really really cold, then decide to go home and sulk all day tomorrow as you got so cold.

Or you could do the grown up thing and either get a cab now or walk rather waiting until you have to do it.

but if the op had come on here and said she said x to her dh and he ignored her then he would be disrespecting her and not listening to her etc

You haven’t answered why you can’t get a taxi?

Yeah that is what I am saying? It isn’t safe for her to walk home alone at this time if the night