Page 16 | Dh has walked off and left me alone at 1am in the street. 2 miles from home

Boopadoop90 · 2024-11-16T00:59:21+00:00

Just that really. We were out with friends, going back to theirs. Dh refused to back to theirs but I don't know why. The others left in a cab. I couldn't leave dh alone in the pub. I I said I'm going home. He said OK. Followed me out in a fit and angry, cos he felt obliged to follow me. He's walked home. I'm 2 miles away from homre and sitting in the cold shivering He messaged me to ask if I got an uber home. I said no, he said good we've spent £x on uber tonight. He's walked home and I'm sitting on the kerb, 2 miles away in the dark, cold.

WiddlinDiddlin · 16/11/2024 03:59

I think this is a prime example of 'play stupid games, win stupid prizes' or as the kids now say 'fuck around and find out'.

Bet this isn't the first time you've sent him away, told him 'don't bother' etc and then expected him to fuss around you trying to make you happy is it!

You could have walked home with him.

You could have gone with your friends, at the time or got an Uber or taxi there later.

You could have got an Uber or Taxi or walked home earlier...

Instead you chose to sit on the pavement in the cold and dark, waiting to see if he'd come back looking for you.

So yeah im not surprised he thought 'fuck this shit' and went to bed!

Edingril · 16/11/2024 03:59

Newnamehiwhodis · 16/11/2024 03:55

Oh hun I understand this so much. I would have done exactly this with my ex, because I felt so unprotected by him. It awakens your inner little girl, doesn’t it, and you just want him to show up for you.
be your own strong protector. Never again put yourself in a vulnerable position so he’ll protect you or take care of you, because he won’t.
this is a small sign of a big problem. There’s something you’re not feeling secure about in your relationship, and this is just a symptom of it.
I’m so sorry. I know how much that hurts and how a person can just get stuck.

please take good care of yourself FIRST, moving forward.
the more you take care of yourself, the more you show that neglected inner part of you that you are worth it, that you are worthy of your own love and care. And the more you heal, the less you’ll be able to tolerate his bullshit.

The op is not a child, this is twisted

Firefly1987 · 16/11/2024 03:58

Edingril · 16/11/2024 03:11

Dark at 1am? Who'd have thought

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It is a full moon tho-which might explain things!

OP if you were too stubborn to move I'm not sure what you expected DH to do-drag you home kicking and screaming?

NoisyDenimShaker · 16/11/2024 03:57

Boopadoop90 · 16/11/2024 03:00

I walked home. V cold ! And dark

Thank goodness you're OK!

Newnamehiwhodis · 16/11/2024 03:56

NO MAN - in fact no person at all- is worth putting yourself in danger for.
hope you are ok.
fuck that cad.

Newnamehiwhodis · 16/11/2024 03:55

Oh hun I understand this so much. I would have done exactly this with my ex, because I felt so unprotected by him. It awakens your inner little girl, doesn’t it, and you just want him to show up for you.
be your own strong protector. Never again put yourself in a vulnerable position so he’ll protect you or take care of you, because he won’t.
this is a small sign of a big problem. There’s something you’re not feeling secure about in your relationship, and this is just a symptom of it.
I’m so sorry. I know how much that hurts and how a person can just get stuck.

please take good care of yourself FIRST, moving forward.
the more you take care of yourself, the more you show that neglected inner part of you that you are worth it, that you are worthy of your own love and care. And the more you heal, the less you’ll be able to tolerate his bullshit.

Anonymousess · 16/11/2024 03:54

Wait what? Why didn’t you get a taxi?

mamechange · 16/11/2024 03:48

Glad you are home safe.
P.S. It's kerb or curb . Sorry but it was driving me irrationally angry . Sleep well.

GiveMeAbitOfSugar · 16/11/2024 03:33

What a bizarre thread !!!

QueSyrahSyrah · 16/11/2024 03:23

Boopadoop90 · 16/11/2024 03:00

I walked home. V cold ! And dark

I'm glad you're home but completely baffled as to why you didn't just get a taxi or an Uber home or to your friends immediately that he walked off. Sitting in the cold to teach him some kind of lesson is nothing more than childish dramatics.

BrightLemonShark · 16/11/2024 03:22

DogsandFlowers · 16/11/2024 01:05

Cos.... predatory men??!

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I don’t subscribe to this at all I have no fear of men. But but if I did really it’s no safer sitting on the kerb than walking is it?

Bbomb · 16/11/2024 03:17

Did you get home Ok?

Pickandmixmood · 16/11/2024 03:13

batmansknickers · 16/11/2024 03:10

You know, I actually thought for moment that this was a troll, and it might well still be one; thing is that there are people around that are ACTUALLY this utterly mad.

"I'll stay out all night in the cold that'll learn im!"

People don’t always act in the most logical or sensible manner. If you look at the other recent post by the OP, it is clear that she is struggling with her life at the moment so it wouldn’t kill other people to show her a bit of empathy instead of piling on to berate her actions.

ForGreyKoala · 16/11/2024 03:11

Boopadoop90 · 16/11/2024 01:57

How could dh walk off knowing he had left me late at night? Then go home and fall asleep ?

You could have walked home with him, or if not actually "with" him you still could have followed him home. YABU.

Edingril · 16/11/2024 03:11

Boopadoop90 · 16/11/2024 03:00

I walked home. V cold ! And dark

Dark at 1am? Who'd have thought

garlictwist · 16/11/2024 03:10

This all sounds a bit dramatic. Just walk home or get a taxi.

batmansknickers · 16/11/2024 03:10

You know, I actually thought for moment that this was a troll, and it might well still be one; thing is that there are people around that are ACTUALLY this utterly mad.

"I'll stay out all night in the cold that'll learn im!"

Pickandmixmood · 16/11/2024 03:05

Boopadoop90 · 16/11/2024 03:00

I walked home. V cold ! And dark

So glad you are safely home OP. Your DH shouldn’t have left you on your own.

Mummyoflittledragon · 16/11/2024 03:01

Good I’m glad you’re home. This is something to talk about. Preferably in the afternoon or even Sunday when you’ve both completely sobered up and the hangover has gone.

MrPickles0001 · 16/11/2024 03:00

Boopadoop90 · 16/11/2024 03:00

I walked home. V cold ! And dark

At least your safe and your Dh respects your wishes

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Boopadoop90 · 16/11/2024 03:00

I walked home. V cold ! And dark

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Riapia · 16/11/2024 02:56

Boopadoop90 · 16/11/2024 01:04

He was in a huff but don't know why. I said I'm going home, he v reluctantly followed me I said don't bother. He said he wanted to walk home alone. So I let him. I'm in the cold, shivering, a good 2 miles away

You’ll have certainly have taught him a lesson. He’s at home in a warm bed and you’re sat shivering on the curb.
😉😁😁.

olivechuu · 16/11/2024 02:52

NiftyKoala · 16/11/2024 02:50

Lord I'm 50 with a 14 year old. No way in hell am I sleeping on the curb much less have enough energy for all the drama lol

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Even if there isn’t a big strong man around to protect you outside the pub that was safe when you were inside but has suddenly become a hive of villainy and treachery now you’ve decided to lounge on the pvement? 😂

NiftyKoala · 16/11/2024 02:50

Hualalai · 16/11/2024 01:35

OP is 51 years old with 15 year old kids according to a thread she started a couple of days ago.

OP, c'mon what would you tell your kids to do in this situation.

Lord I'm 50 with a 14 year old. No way in hell am I sleeping on the curb much less have enough energy for all the drama lol

Quintette · 16/11/2024 02:49

Get a taxi you weirdo