DH talking about divorce over air fryer

Who the feck 'borrows' an air fryer ¿

Now I need to know - why 3?!

You don't need his approval to borrow the air fryer. Just go ahead surely? He doesn't need to take an interest in it! Cook what you like, how you like!

Were you planning some kind of very dangerous air-fryer-based gender reveal?

Ok well there's clearly a metric fucktonne of info missing between "airfryer for babyshower" and "divorce" so hopefully op will come back and fill us in.

It sounds like your husband is getting overwhelmed by it all. Perhaps planning for the baby shower is pushing him over the edge. Maybe he is stressing about the baby to come, how to support etc. Or maybe doubts about the relationship. It does not sound like the airfryer is the cause here...hopefully he snaps out of it!

They take up less room than a husband I think?

I’m not struggling to understand

This is the ‘leaving the cup on the side, not putting it in the dishwasher’ but with a different utensil.

It’s the catalyst for talk of divorce (because it’s the straw that broke) but not the real cause. Just like leaving a cup on the side isn’t a divorce issue, but years of selfish behaviour and expecting someone else always to clear up after them very much is. And it can be a little incident that shows you that you can’t go on

(IIRC, there was a whole thread here about this phenomenon not so long ago)

Are you threatening to borrow the air fryer off your hunky ex or something? Struggling to comprehend how you veered from cooking insert fried food of choice to divorce.

😂😂😂

Why be married to someone you can’t tolerate talking to? Profoundly weird and hostile way to live.

100% worth it. I very rarely turn the oven on these days. Speeds up cooking time considerably, everything is always evenly cooked and appropriately crispy and you don’t have to preheat.

Funny that all the adverts on this thread are for air fryers on black Friday!
Although I have 3 so don't need another yet!

OP LTB.

It is when shes a 50 year old woman lying on the pavement having a tantrum because she told her husband to leave her alone and he left her alone. how can anyone take her seriously if she’s going to behave in an incredibly unserious manner.

This sounds like an episode of Family Guy - are we really supposed to believe that the reason he wants to divorce you is because you borrowed an air fryer?

This

Are you pregnant and drunk?

What I really want to know is are air fryers really that good?
They take up a lot of room on the kitchen worktop and I only have a small kitchen. That's my concern.
But if they're as good as everyone says they are then I think I'd maybe compromise.
Is the appeal that they make food taste better or that they're fast food?

This reads like a challenge. Try and come up with something for AIBU and you must fit in: (rolls dice) - baby showers and air fryers.

One thing's for sure, if he's hurling around threats of divorce in any context, an air fryer is the very least of your concerns.

Did he threaten divorce because you want to borrow the air fryer? Seems unlikely.

Or did he threaten divorce because of the way you reacted to the fact he wasn't all that interested?

Honestly, he's probably not all that interested in the baby shower and the organisation that goes into it. Baby showers are usually for the mother to be, not the father. I'm a woman and have no interest in baby showers and would have to feign interest over someone borrowing an air fryer for one.

It isn't ok to threaten divorce, but maybe you need to look at how and what you communicate to each other.

My ex is suspected autistic and he would tell me everything (including things about programs he'd watched on the discovery channel) in a stupid level of detail that I had no need for or interest in. It wouldn't matter what my day had been like, it wouldn't matter if I was just in the door from work and just needed some time to decompress. I would get a monologue and if I asked him to tell me later, he would say 'oh just one more thing' and keep going for forever. So maybe I'm a bit oversensitive to partners talking about stuff that is irrelevant. It's really tiring, and was very much a factor in us splitting. I'm not saying you are at that level, I'm just explaining why I've answered the way I have

This.

Isn't a baby shower normally an all women affair sometimes given by the woman's friends before the birth of her first child?

Could DH be envious of you all eating air-fried food??

DIVORCE talk is never kind; how unsettling and unfair.

This is actually good advice. OP, YANBU. My (current) DH threatens divorce all the time over everything, and it probably only started at your stage, when I had a toddler and one on the way. In fact I'm pretty sure that's when it began- partway through a house extension on the way to a kitchen design appointment which ended with him screaming obscenities at me from the car window as he drove off leaving me in Wickes car park because I'd taken too long grabbing him something for breakfast- sigh...
Anyway, the point is I spent years panicking, pandering, reassuring him, persuading him to come back after every threat and disappearing act. Got me nowhere at all - lately I've emotionally detached and genuinely mean it that he's welcome to go, and lo and behold he's stopped saying it. As much.
Dont take him seriously, don't give this horrible manipulation any oxygen - just say get on with it then if you think so little of yourself that you feel replaced by an air fryer - the three of us plus AF will do just fine.
It really is a shitty way to behave and it does not bode well - you could tell him you've heard about this famous tactic and it's totally shitty, don't bother trying that again etc.
Hope that's his first and last attempt

Ha ha. - and such deals are now appearing as pop up ads on this thread

“Seriously enough,” making light of another woman’s distress isn’t funny.