Page 2 | DH talking about divorce over air fryer

AlohaRose · 16/11/2024 10:00

I need to know why you want an air fryer for a baby shower?! Isn't it usually just cupcakes and teeny tiny sandwiches and fruit platters etc at baby showers?

BaronessBomburst · 16/11/2024 09:58

He doesn't love you OP.
LTB.
If he loved you he'd have bought you an air fryer.

CoffeeLover90 · 16/11/2024 09:47

Oh, the ad placement made me laugh.

BunnyLake · 16/11/2024 09:44

olivechuu · 16/11/2024 09:13

Buy the liners and enforce their use and cleaning is a doddle!

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I find the liners curl up too much. They do help with keeping it cleaner though.

WonderingWanda · 16/11/2024 09:38

Is he not interested in the baby shower? Not interested in the airfryer? Is he really against airfryers for some reason. Or was he just tired, a bit dismissive and then you created an argument because he wasn't interested enough in your baby shower plans and he huffing said something about divorce. Or were you asking permission to hire an airfryer because he is so controlling? Context is everything here so its hard to know if he was being unreasonable, abusive or just a bit at the end of his tether.

As others have said, relationships with men who regularly dismiss your ideas and who threatene divorce regularly as a way to control or make you insecure should be avoided at all costs.

However, a one time, off the cuff comment in a jokey way or in a tired arguement, something like "oh ffs, get off my case...maybe if I'm such a dick we should get a divorce" type comment might be more of a red flag for your own behaviour rather than his.

Only you know what really happened and haven't given us enough details really. But maybe some of people's comments here will help you reflect on which scenario yours is.

RunnersHipOuch · 16/11/2024 09:26

Eh? If divorce is being discussed, it's definitely not just about the air fryer!

Boomer55 · 16/11/2024 09:24

booklady1990 · 16/11/2024 00:01

Just had a really disappointing chat with DH tonight. I want to borrow an airfryer for our babyshower next weekend and he just didn't seem interested at all, and even brought up divorce! AIBU to be upset by this?? not sure why its gone bold

Well, perhaps he just wasn’t interested in an air fryer, (many people aren't), or a baby shower, and just wanted to change the subject. 🤷‍♀️

Oniya · 16/11/2024 09:20

olivechuu · 16/11/2024 09:15

Howled at this.
OPs meed to borrow an airfryer is clearly indicative of a 200 degree heating source in her life that her husband is failing to provide?

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Yep, my money is on this being a heat issue.

I’ve also considered the air fryer could be a symbol of the baby not yet here. Same size (ish), takes up a lot of space, people will ooh ahh over it, and might love it more than him.

Air fryer is a THREAT.

olivechuu · 16/11/2024 09:18

Newdaynewstarts · 16/11/2024 09:15

What would happen if you said you wanted to buy an fryer… instead of borrowing

I imagine they’d be straight to the judge for an annullment

olivechuu · 16/11/2024 09:17

Lifeglowup · 16/11/2024 09:15

Hmmm. DH and I argued this morning and I’ve considering an airfrier. Maybe this is the thread I need today.

dont waste your time with a single basket, you’ll regret it and want the double in a few weeks.

Newdaynewstarts · 16/11/2024 09:15

What would happen if you said you wanted to buy an fryer… instead of borrowing

Lifeglowup · 16/11/2024 09:15

Hmmm. DH and I argued this morning and I’ve considering an airfrier. Maybe this is the thread I need today.

olivechuu · 16/11/2024 09:15

Oniya · 16/11/2024 09:10

Same. We should get the psycho-analyst poster from that thread over here then we can all discuss how the warmth from the air-dryer is a symbolism for the lack of warmth in DH’s heart.

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Howled at this.
OPs meed to borrow an airfryer is clearly indicative of a 200 degree heating source in her life that her husband is failing to provide?

Catza · 16/11/2024 09:14

Mummyoflittledragon · 16/11/2024 03:05

But in all seriousness op, what happened. Are you ok. Because this isn’t a normal thing to say and you’re pregnant so more vulnerable right now. Is he normally demanding / controlling?

I can actually see how this conversation may have developed.
OP informed her husband of her plans. Husband didn't show sufficient interest (who would?!). OP accused him of all sorts based on his lack of interest. There were probably tears and shouting. He then got a bit fed up with the level of drama over a non-event. This is where the divorce came up.

olivechuu · 16/11/2024 09:13

CautiousLurker1 · 16/11/2024 08:51

LOL my 16yo persuaded me to buy one when DH was away. DH rolled his eyes at yet another piece of tat cluttering the kitchen counter… except that it is now used 3+ times a day by both him and teens now, reduced our electricity bills and got both teens cooking their own meals independently so he is an absolute convert now. A £60 item that has been a brilliant buy for us.

If they could just make a model that is self-cleaning I’d be as happy as everyone else…

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Buy the liners and enforce their use and cleaning is a doddle!

Oniya · 16/11/2024 09:10

BunnyLake · 16/11/2024 08:33

Some weird threads today already. I’ve only just stopped being baffled by the sleeping on the kerb one, now this.

Same. We should get the psycho-analyst poster from that thread over here then we can all discuss how the warmth from the air-dryer is a symbolism for the lack of warmth in DH’s heart.

FuckMiniBabybells · 16/11/2024 08:53

NunyaBeeswax · 16/11/2024 08:39

Remind me of the tales of Darth Fryer and Luke Breville.. with their mates Han SmegFridge and CheweyBacon.
And Princess LayerCake.

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😂😂😂

BackOnTheAntibiotics · 16/11/2024 08:51

I would divorce him if he showed an interest in air fryers to be honest. Now that would be a red flag.

CautiousLurker1 · 16/11/2024 08:51

T4phage · 16/11/2024 00:08

To be honest, airfryers are often more useful than husbands, so I'd stick with the airfryer.

LOL my 16yo persuaded me to buy one when DH was away. DH rolled his eyes at yet another piece of tat cluttering the kitchen counter… except that it is now used 3+ times a day by both him and teens now, reduced our electricity bills and got both teens cooking their own meals independently so he is an absolute convert now. A £60 item that has been a brilliant buy for us.

If they could just make a model that is self-cleaning I’d be as happy as everyone else…

BackOnTheAntibiotics · 16/11/2024 08:50

Love that an advert for air fryers is flashing all over this thread.

LittleGreenDragons · 16/11/2024 08:49

SamPoodle123 · 16/11/2024 07:30

It sounds like your husband is getting overwhelmed by it all. Perhaps planning for the baby shower is pushing him over the edge. Maybe he is stressing about the baby to come, how to support etc. Or maybe doubts about the relationship. It does not sound like the airfryer is the cause here...hopefully he snaps out of it!

Since when do men plan baby showers? I doubt he's getting overwhelmed with it all unless she's having it at home and he wants to watch football or something.

OP - if he's giving you an ultimatum then please choose the airfryer as it will make your life easier and not harder, unlike him.

JeIIyIegs · 16/11/2024 08:45

booklady1990 · 16/11/2024 00:01

Just had a really disappointing chat with DH tonight. I want to borrow an airfryer for our babyshower next weekend and he just didn't seem interested at all, and even brought up divorce! AIBU to be upset by this?? not sure why its gone bold

Lol.! And you're having a baby with him?

NewFriendlyLadybird · 16/11/2024 08:42

To be fair, we once had an extraordinarily heated argument about the current Lord Snowden when he was Viscount Linley. Someone might have mentioned divorce or maybe I thought that was where it was all heading.

We got over it. Still together.

NunyaBeeswax · 16/11/2024 08:39

FuckMiniBabybells · 16/11/2024 08:30

The air fryer is his father

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Remind me of the tales of Darth Fryer and Luke Breville.. with their mates Han SmegFridge and CheweyBacon.
And Princess LayerCake.

BunnyLake · 16/11/2024 08:33

Some weird threads today already. I’ve only just stopped being baffled by the sleeping on the kerb one, now this.