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Slim shaming ok?

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Begreatfulofglimmers · 15/11/2024 22:08

Recently I’ve been unwell and work has been hard. Some people eat when stressed. I’m the opposite. I’ve lost weight I feel awful nothing fits.

I’ve found people take the mick, stick legs, do you eat?

Honest question, would telling someone - “you’ve put on weight”, “ you’ve got tree trunk legs” be acceptable?

It feels fair game to offend someone who is clearly struggling being under weight but massively offensive to openly criticise someone overweight.

I’d really like to hear your views.

OP posts:
username358 · 15/11/2024 22:16

I used to have an eating disorder and a group of people set on me once during a tea break telling me that I looked like a matchstick with the wood scraped off and other choice phrases.

People would often comment on how thin I was, often with admiration and asking me how I did it. When I went to the Dr for help she looked me up and down and said I didn't look anorexic.

So yes, I know how you feel and I never comment on people's weight.

Marine30 · 15/11/2024 22:15

It’s not acceptable either way but sadly some people are just quite rude or
insensitive. They never think a thin person would take it as an insult. But it still is really 🤷‍♀️

tallegorical · 15/11/2024 22:11

It's quite obvious that making comments about someone's weight is unacceptable under almost any circumstance

SprinklesSparkles · 15/11/2024 22:10

people who say this doesn’t happen to fat people have obviously never been fat because yes people do comment!!

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