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AIBU to be annoyed with new colleague

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ThatCosyKoala · 15/11/2024 21:59

Hello, I posted in AIBU as I’m not sure if it’s just me or my new colleague who joined our company about 2 weeks ago.

I’m one of the oldest by experience in my workplace, we all get paid the same no matter if there are new starters or 10+ years in the company. I usually train the new comers by showing them all of the duties we perform and how to perform them.

So about 2 weeks ago a new starter came with a lot of experience from previous company. There was little to explain to him as I could see he knew majority of the duties that need to be performed.

We always have one person opening the business at 9am and then a second one comes at 10pm. I always do the early shifts and an hour is enough to prepare everything for when the second person comes.

In the past week our new colleague has been scheduled to start at 10am, however every time I come at 9 he is already there doing what I am supposed to do. The first time I saw him I told him “ hey you are very early why dont you grab a coffee and come back later” he wanted to stay and help and I said “ there isnt much to do and I can do it in the time frime so dont worry” he ignored what I said and continued to work.

The day after I arrived to work 15mins before 9am and I was actually shocked to see he was there already working and I asked him why are you here so early he said I don’t mind to come early and I said you dont get paid for coming in an hour early and there is no need as I am scheduled at 9am. Again he ignored me.

Later in the same day I was organising some stock and he came took it out of my hands and started waking away to put it away I said to him “its ok I’m doing it” he said “ no I will do it” I havent seen him doing this with another employee.

So my question is am I being unreasonable to feel annoyed with him, or he is being very helpful trying to impress us?

Also I forgot to add sometimes he talks in his language to himself and my colleagues have picked on it and he also touched a customer in a friendly manner knowing we aren’t allowed to do that unless customer is having some sort of medical emergency.

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ThatCosyKoala · 15/11/2024 22:46

Rizzo8 · 15/11/2024 22:02

I don't think YABU - he's not reading the room by taking things off you you don't want to be taken off you

Think you'll politely and firmly need to spell out your responsibilities versus his. Does sound like he doesn't have enough to do though

I think you’re right. I shouldn’t have let him take things off me but he insisted and took it off me and I always avoid confrontation so said nothing.

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Ponoka7 · 15/11/2024 22:15

"Also I forgot to add sometimes he talks in his language to himself and my colleagues have picked on it and he also touched a customer in a friendly manner knowing we aren’t allowed to do that unless customer is having some sort of medical emergency."

That's getting petty. He's allowed to talk to himself in his first language. It's only if there are safeguarding issues that you need to police his behaviour.

You need to be more assertive, if he persists, take it to the manager. He's trying to manage you out.

yehisaidit · 15/11/2024 22:09

"I always do the early shifts"

Maybe you should split them amongst staff so it's fairer. Just because you've been there the longest doesn't mean you get first dibs.

comedycentral · 15/11/2024 22:04

So about 2 weeks ago a new starter came with a lot of experience from previous company. There was little to explain to him as I could see he knew majority of the duties that need to be performed

Here's the problem ☝️ no matter what you think they know, new hires need a proper induction and overview of their responsibilities, expected behaviors such as customer contact, and start and end times to support them in achieving what's expected of them.

DoreenonTill8 · 15/11/2024 22:02

Also I forgot to add sometimes he talks in his language to himself and my colleagues have picked on it
Why? How does that impact them you?

Rizzo8 · 15/11/2024 22:02

I don't think YABU - he's not reading the room by taking things off you you don't want to be taken off you

Think you'll politely and firmly need to spell out your responsibilities versus his. Does sound like he doesn't have enough to do though

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