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To say she simply cannot be turning 40?!

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Downtownonsaturdaynight · 15/11/2024 18:40

I'm a big fan of Gemma Atkinson. Always had her down as a young mum. Yet i just read she is turning 40 tomorrow!!!

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angela1952 · 18/11/2024 20:49

Whatthehellagain · 15/11/2024 19:30

She’s not stick thin which I think helps with wrinkles .

As does Botox.

Bournetilly · 18/11/2024 02:20

I don’t know who she is but I’d say she looks 40.

goldenshred · 18/11/2024 02:04

Shes always been pretty

Bbq1 · 18/11/2024 01:46

Lisanoonan · 18/11/2024 00:05

Yeah but they wrote that term a long time ago.

Health has improved.

Women are having pregnancies much later in life now.

Advanced maternal age is the term currently in use.

Disturbia81 · 18/11/2024 00:18

Lisanoonan · 17/11/2024 21:57

I'm 40. I don't like when people say

"oh my God you can't be 40" to me.
Or.
"Oh my got I thought you were 30".

The insinuation behind it is

"I can't believe you are that extremely old age!"

I would like if someone didn't gasp and say "you don't look 40 " to me.

I LIKE being 40. I feel great!!

Yeah all this "I look younger!" bullshit is just reinforcing the view that youth is better than all. People need to own their age. I love being in my 40s, feel more attractive than I ever have, feel like the best human I've ever been and love life. I don't feel the need to look younger Confused

Lisanoonan · 18/11/2024 00:05

Bbq1 · 17/11/2024 23:48

It actually is. Check your facts. A woman aged 35 or over is termed as a woman of, "Advanced maternal age" aka, "Geriatric mother". So ancient, advanced in age, geriatric mother ... I didn't invent the terms.

Yeah but they wrote that term a long time ago.

Health has improved.

Women are having pregnancies much later in life now.

Bbq1 · 17/11/2024 23:48

Newmumatlast · 17/11/2024 22:17

It isn't medically ancient at all.

It actually is. Check your facts. A woman aged 35 or over is termed as a woman of, "Advanced maternal age" aka, "Geriatric mother". So ancient, advanced in age, geriatric mother ... I didn't invent the terms.

Newmumatlast · 17/11/2024 22:17

Bbq1 · 17/11/2024 12:30

I didn't say it was wrong if that is what women want to do fine , just that 40 is older than usual to be having babies and it is. Ask most people and 40 will be seen as being on the older side. Medically, 40 is ancient. Pregnancies in women over 40 are often more risky. It's fact. You seem to feel that i am personally attacking you but I'm not. Again, It's just fact.

It isn't medically ancient at all.

NotAnotherPylon · 17/11/2024 22:16

Lookingatthesunset · 17/11/2024 18:52

It's not an "achievement" of course but it is a fact that some women (and men) look younger at a specified age and some look older. Some people work at it and for others it's genetic.

I hope posting that made you feel better.

Made me feel better about what? I honestly don’t have a clue what you’re banging on about.

Newmumatlast · 17/11/2024 22:13

She looks great but not unexpectedly youthful for 40 imo. It's around the age of my peers and plenty look good. 40 isn't old.

Lisanoonan · 17/11/2024 21:57

I'm 40. I don't like when people say

"oh my God you can't be 40" to me.
Or.
"Oh my got I thought you were 30".

The insinuation behind it is

"I can't believe you are that extremely old age!"

I would like if someone didn't gasp and say "you don't look 40 " to me.

I LIKE being 40. I feel great!!

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 17/11/2024 21:01

JawsCushion · 17/11/2024 18:43

Some of you are really coming across as spiteful and bullying. Some of you I know of old and I am surprised at you. Wouldn't have had you down as being bitchy.

JawsCushion, if that was my post then I'm really sorry, I didn't mean it to come across that way. It was like a loose thread and my curiosity got the better of me.

If you had wanted a boost though, why shouldn't you have one indeed?

Apologies to you.

Anothernamechane · 17/11/2024 20:40

Oft the arseholes are out in force

Lookingatthesunset · 17/11/2024 20:36

SabreIsMyFave · 17/11/2024 13:17

This. ^ @JawsCushion clearly DID need a boost, and is deeply insecure, and needs validation. She clearly does care what people think, despite her insisting she doesn't... Otherwise, why ask people 'how old do I look?' I have never asked anyone that! I don't give a shit how old anyone thinks I am. 😆

This poster NEEDS someone to say 'of course you look 10 years younger than you are hun.' In their head these people are thinking 'what the F? She looks her age! Why wouldn't she?' Confused

And you're right @LyingWitchInTheWardrobe it is only women who are desperate for people to say they look younger than they are, and only women who come on here and say 'this person and that person said I look like I'm in my mid 30s even though I'm in my 50s!' Fact is, no WAY do they look in their mid 30s if they're in their 50s. That person is either taking the piss, or lying to be kind, or they are terrible at guessing ages!

How can you possibly say that based on one post? Nobody else is taking it as seriously as you are! It can be mere idle curiosity. It doesn't matter whether or not you look your age, and I think things like your character, attitude, how you dress etc all affect that - the fact remains that what's on your birth certificate is your age, like it or not!

I've never asked anyone what age I look, but I've been told quite a few times by people who know me but didn't know my age who said I look younger when they find it out. It's a compliment, which I take with a pinch of salt!

Lookingatthesunset · 17/11/2024 19:23

Bbq1 · 17/11/2024 12:30

I didn't say it was wrong if that is what women want to do fine , just that 40 is older than usual to be having babies and it is. Ask most people and 40 will be seen as being on the older side. Medically, 40 is ancient. Pregnancies in women over 40 are often more risky. It's fact. You seem to feel that i am personally attacking you but I'm not. Again, It's just fact.

Fact is that lots of people of women have babies in their 40s. Maybe you just don't know any. Even if you just read threads on MN you would know that.

Lookingatthesunset · 17/11/2024 18:52

NotAnotherPylon · 16/11/2024 22:52

Yeah, big round of applause for all the women who look younger than their age. What an amazing achievement.

FFS.

It's not an "achievement" of course but it is a fact that some women (and men) look younger at a specified age and some look older. Some people work at it and for others it's genetic.

I hope posting that made you feel better.

JawsCushion · 17/11/2024 18:43

Some of you are really coming across as spiteful and bullying. Some of you I know of old and I am surprised at you. Wouldn't have had you down as being bitchy.

JawsCushion · 17/11/2024 18:40

For the last time I did not need a boost.

Someone once said I looked my age and I just laughed. Why does it bother you?

This is bordering on spite now. Just leave it.

@SabreIsMyFave the reason I asked was because I was buying moisturiser. I was interested in what the shop assistant used and impressed as she looked really well with what she used. She then told me her age and how long she'd used it. No deeper than that.

FWIW if I did need a boost, WHICH I DID NOT, enough shit in my life that that would be vacuous nonsense, that would be wrong with that?

SabreIsMyFave · 17/11/2024 13:17

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 17/11/2024 10:41

You told her to 'tell you the truth'. That is at odds with your post just now.

It is only women that push for this 'how old do you think I look?' nonsense and it is women who are asked. You asked for a reason. No need to say what that was.

I questioned earlier in the thread what a woman of any set age looks like. There is no benchmark other than the arbitrary comparisons that women make for themselves, comparing themselves favourably (or unfavourably) with women in the public eye. It's very sad, we should stop doing that.

This. ^ @JawsCushion clearly DID need a boost, and is deeply insecure, and needs validation. She clearly does care what people think, despite her insisting she doesn't... Otherwise, why ask people 'how old do I look?' I have never asked anyone that! I don't give a shit how old anyone thinks I am. 😆

This poster NEEDS someone to say 'of course you look 10 years younger than you are hun.' In their head these people are thinking 'what the F? She looks her age! Why wouldn't she?' Confused

And you're right @LyingWitchInTheWardrobe it is only women who are desperate for people to say they look younger than they are, and only women who come on here and say 'this person and that person said I look like I'm in my mid 30s even though I'm in my 50s!' Fact is, no WAY do they look in their mid 30s if they're in their 50s. That person is either taking the piss, or lying to be kind, or they are terrible at guessing ages!

Bbq1 · 17/11/2024 12:30

Lookingatthesunset · 17/11/2024 02:33

Oh go and do one, I had my youngest when I was 40! It wasn't planned that way but I had two miscarriages, so shoot me now! Nothing wrong with having a baby in your 40s!

I didn't say it was wrong if that is what women want to do fine , just that 40 is older than usual to be having babies and it is. Ask most people and 40 will be seen as being on the older side. Medically, 40 is ancient. Pregnancies in women over 40 are often more risky. It's fact. You seem to feel that i am personally attacking you but I'm not. Again, It's just fact.

Lisanoonan · 17/11/2024 11:43

I wonder what age the OP is.

If she thinks that 40 is old!

Happiestwhen · 17/11/2024 11:19

Mairzydotes · 17/11/2024 09:40

I like the fact she has a terrible singing voice , but still sings in front of others, it's inspiring.

It's refreshing that singing is for enjoyment, rather than only for those who are talented.

Yes I do see your point but it would make me turn it off and avoid the show tbh. But then again a lot of kids shows are annoying!

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 17/11/2024 10:41

JawsCushion · 17/11/2024 08:18

Absolutely did not need a boost. I have no issue if people think I look older than I am. Why would I care? I was buying moisturisers etc. she said what she used and volunteered how old she was and I was shocked. She genuinely looked younger. So of course only fair for her to know my age. I'm not sad. I don't need or want smoke blown up my arse. It was all in context. But you carry on.

You told her to 'tell you the truth'. That is at odds with your post just now.

It is only women that push for this 'how old do you think I look?' nonsense and it is women who are asked. You asked for a reason. No need to say what that was.

I questioned earlier in the thread what a woman of any set age looks like. There is no benchmark other than the arbitrary comparisons that women make for themselves, comparing themselves favourably (or unfavourably) with women in the public eye. It's very sad, we should stop doing that.

Mairzydotes · 17/11/2024 09:40

Happiestwhen · 17/11/2024 08:34

Gemma looks absolutely amazing and she keeps herself in great shape. She also has a great personality.
But she definitely doesnt have it all..I turned on the toddler club for dc one day and omg my ears at her singing 🤣 (lighthearted)

I like the fact she has a terrible singing voice , but still sings in front of others, it's inspiring.

It's refreshing that singing is for enjoyment, rather than only for those who are talented.

Jack80 · 17/11/2024 09:20

She looks good for 40, I'm 43 and no way near in the same shape.

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