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AIBU for not wanting my partner to watch porn?

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Applecider96 · 15/11/2024 11:46

I'm pregnant and the hormones are probably playing a part but I don't understand why my partner used porn when we both enjoy sex. Some people are into it and there are differences of opinion, but I don't understand pleasure over another person whilst you're in a relationship? I'm due in less than a week so it's really annoyed me tbh. I've been unsatisfied before and I didn't make a point of using it. I'm finding it hard to not see it as an ick and I'm put off him right now. But when this is mentioned, people suggest watching it together, no? It's just another fake thing in this world. Oddly I don't feel this way from being insecure in myself, it is purley finding it hard to see porn as anything other than cringe. It is normalised to be sexually aroused by another person, how can I learn not be frustrated with this has anyone else felt this way? To add, why should I cook every meal and clean whilst pregnant for him to do what he wants.

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5128gap · 15/11/2024 11:56

The world is pretty much divided into people who think porn is OK and those who don't. Typically more men in the former group than women. If you're in different camps, all you can really do is talk it out and see if you can change his perspective. You probably won't tbh, because unless he's never heard of the issues before, you cam assume he knows them, but puts his desire to use it ahead of that. You can extract promises he won't use it, or issue ultimatums, but that tends to drive it underground. So I guess if a talk doesn't change his mind, you need to consider if you can live with this in your life or not.

Singleandproud · 15/11/2024 11:54

Well yes, you chose a man who watches porn, I wouldn't have and he isn't going to change.
You also shouldn't be doing all the household chores. If you aren't married I'd leave before I have the baby and get yourself somewhere where there is a bit of a support network as you aren't going to get any from him.

sweetpickle2 · 15/11/2024 11:54

Its fine if you don't want him watching porn that's your boundary (and there are very valid reasons for being anti-porn) but I personally think it's a bit OTT to suggest he never gets aroused by another person ever. I'm in a very happy relationship but I still find other people sexually attractive.

Why are you doing all the cooking and cleaning though? That's the bigger issue imo.

jeaux90 · 15/11/2024 11:51

I would not be with a man who watches porn. Many of these women are trafficked, underage and it's non consensual/rape.

Pornhub had to remove masses of content for this reason.

He is disgraceful.

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