DD Class Friends Mom

They are more likely to have been separated because they are in different year groups

So, she tells her kid that she saw her in a cafe. Next day her kid come home and says yes, Jess said her Mom saw you with a man and a woman in the cafe. And she immediately phoned the school and demands that your kids no longer sit in class together.

Why?

Why do you think that alone would make her Mom do that, and with significant enough reason for the teacher to be obliged to comply?

Children fall out with each other and change their best friends all the time, it may have nothing at all to do with this girl's mum. It might feel better to focus on your own family and support your daughter and forget about this woman. If she really does look down on you for living in social housing then that's her problem - but she may not at all.

So you were taking each other's kids to classes and you got your tyre slashed and couldn't take the girls so she stopped talking to you?

You say this boy's mother looks down upon you due to your social status. Well she's a snobby cow then. Just ignore her.

Your kid needs to go to school and work. Who they sit next to in class is moot. They'll have to sit next to dozens of strangers in every workplace they'll ever encounter so better get used to it.

You need to focus on your actual friends, interests and life. Not everyone will like you or have a desire to be your friend. It's not the end of the world and there's nothing you can do to stop it.

It's weird because you have invented a narrative in your own head with no evidence that the other parent got the teacher to move her child away from yours because she's a snob who looks down on you because you live in social housing and have tyre-slashing neighbours.

She's a class behind now, and dyslexic. This is the reason she's been moved. Likely to sit with someone who will support her better.
No way would a teacher move a kid because a parent requests it.

My DD gets moved all the time away from her friends because they talk and mess around.

In fact, going from Y7 to Y8 her school put her and her best friend on totally different timetables so they'd have no classes together lol.

I would not assume this mum has had anything to do with this. I also wouldn't assume the school would change classrooms around because one parent has asked them to.

No good teacher would move a kid just because a mum asks for it. There has to be a reason: talking too much or bullying. They were probably chatterboxes so teacher decided to move them. You don't know what the other woman thinks about you. Maybe she always has a stick up her arse.

No need for that
OP might be a little oversensitive but unhinged is a bit nasty, she's here for support not name calling and while nobody has to agree with her thats uncalled for.

You sound quite unhinged to be honest, I'm not surprised the other mother is avoiding you!

You don't know this womans opinion of you really and you have no idea why the children were moved.
To be honest I would be a bit concerned about my child being carried in a car that could potentially be tampered with for safety reasons

You have no idea if that happened and to be honest it sounds like a leap.

I would suspect that it was more likely they were giggling or chatting in class.

Or maybe it has to do with the fact that they are in different years. Maybe it is easier if the same class all sit together.

You say you know for a fact what’s happened but you don’t.

She’s not stopping the girls being friends. Moving seats won’t do that either. But like all of us, she cares about who her child spends time with and her perception of things will differ from yours.

You say she thinks you’re a single mum of 3 living in social housing and that it’s the truth. But before the tyre incident your situation didn’t seem to bother her? Why else do you consider her a snob? You’re judging her as much as she may be judging you yet you consider yourself better than her.

Why not focus on your own family and obsess less about other people.

Yes, I think that's fair, and quite likely be explain the other parent's reluctance, if it is reluctance to have the girls in close proximity.

You sound as if you're leaping to conclusions. Isn't it just as possible that the other mother, if she did request her child be moved (which you don't know), did so because her child was attached to yours and was sad when she left the school. Now you've arbitrarily moved her back again to the original school (because she missed so much school at her new school?), she possibly doesn't want her child to get too reattached in case you decide to move her on again.

You've filled in a lot of blanks from the other side with your own conclusions. You can’t possibly know half of it and yet you’ve decided it’s fact.

The main thing to keep in mind is that your child can’t walk back into this other child’s life after two years apart and you expect them to be BFFs again. It’s ok if they’re not joined at the hip.

To be totally honest if my dd was friends with someone who's parents were getting their tyres slashed I wouldn't be overly keen on the friendship either. I'm doubtful the teacher would move the children in class just at the mother's request though.

I'm 100% sure that a teacher would not move a child based on a parent's phone call.
You sound paranoid.

I have to say, I’m inclined to think you’re somewhat leaping to conclusions here! There’s nothing to suggest that’s why your daughter has been moved, it’s far more likely they were yapping and giggling when they should’ve been listening and the teacher couldn’t be arsed with keep telling them to be quiet anymore!