To expect friends to message to say happy birthday to my LG?

Agreed. We were the last in our NCT group and almost everyone had "moved on" from the birthday month by the time ours arrived.
Everyone has moved away physically now so we don't meet up but we have a flurry of messages annually on their birthday 12 years later. That's always nice.

This is more about you than her. These people are also friends / socialising with you because you have children of a similar age. That feeling and state only continues until you get to the end of primary school.

I don’t think it’s personal. We were in a largish group and there are a few I will always remember. Like the first baby born, the one who was born super tiny, the one born on my due date etc. The rest just fall into ‘at some point over the 6 ish weeks they all arrived’

As soon as someone says HB or parents post a photo everyone then wishes them HBD.

I understand why you’re hurt, if the usual thing is to send messages and they didn’t for your little one.

It will have been oversight rather than a snub I’m sure. Still hurtful, but unintentionally.

If it’s generally a supportive group I would try to let it go. If it became a pattern then I would be more likely to leave.

Hope your little one had a lovely birthday.

I think if you are feeling low, lonely, (not saying you are) then these things do stand out and can be upsetting.

I doubt it was with malice (unless a huge backstory).

If you genuinely think this was malicious then leave the group. But I'm sure you know that they forgot. As per pp, it only takes one to remember then the others follow because they are directly reminded. I bet it is the same few people remembering first every time, or maybe you usually post first...?

I mean this in the nicest way OP, but even when people like you, like your daughter, enjoy your company, they won't always remember and/or prioritise sending you a text to wish a 2 year old Happy Birthday. Is it nice if they do? Of course. Is it essential? Of course not. I hope she had a lovely day.

If it’s anything like my NCT group there may be one “rememberer” who jogs everyone (you?), or people remembering particular kids’ bdays relative to their own - I still remember the bday of the little girl who was born on my daughter’s due date, three days before I had her.

They’re only two, you’re not a group which meets up frequently… I’d post a pic of Mary with a party hat on / eating cake and leave jt there.

You have already given too much mental rental to this. Reposting on Fb to nudge people!? Come on, that’s not healthy.

Have a word with yourself, don’t take it personally, enjoy your child’s bday, and go on with your life.

She’s two, though. She has no idea! This is about you, not her.

Are you usually the first person to send birthday greetings and everyone follows so without your lead they all forgot. I think if you post a photo of your birthday celebrations they will then respond. It's a shame they forgot but maybe that would make you feel a bit better.

This! As above.
It’s done & dusted.
In your head you’ve been let down but today’s a new day so try not to dwell.
Time for big girl pants on.

It seemed none of the other children needed prompts to be remembered, so why mine.

tbf you don’t know that. Others could be on different am, private chats, have a birthday in common that reminds them. Once one says it everyone else if reminded

Your daughter won't have been upset that some adults you know didn't wish her happy birthday. Post a picture of her cake if you want to prompt well wishes

I only remember my own DC birthday as I have four of them! I don't remember much outside of family tbh. Life is so busy.

Happy birthday to your wee one🥳

It’s exhausting and unhealthy having expectations of people that are not core family or absolute best friends. Try not to rely on general people in your life to do easily forgotten things and you will save yourself the stress over it.

Honestly sounds like they just forgot xx

Does it really matter op? Do you think they were trying to put you in your place and deliberately didn’t send a message?

People won't have done it out of malice. Lives are busy and they likely genuinely forgot. If one person sends a message, it reminds the rest so it's not a case of everyone remembering every time.

Perhaps send a message with a pic of her enjoying her cake so they're all definitely aware they missed it.

Did you invite them to a party for her? Sometimes that prompts people to remember.

Most of all, don't take it personally. People have lots going on, and one day you'll be the forgetter.