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Morrisons breast screening

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AnotherWeasel · 14/11/2024 20:05

Is is unreasonable of me to feel so offended by the idea of breast screening in Morrisons car park?

I'm 52 and just received an appointment that I wasn't consulted about. I just hate the idea of it. This is my local Morrisons, where I shop, where I frequently run into my awful ex-boyfriend, my estranged mother, the work colleague who sexually harrassed me 10 years ago, friends, neighbours, my postie etc, etc. And there I am, waiting beside the enormous van, emblazoned with bright breast screening decals, clearly about to strip off and have my breasts squished and examined. It all seems so undignified and makes me feel vulnerable and powerless.

Obviously, as a mum I've had to have all my bits on display and poked about with, and again I do think we are generally treated like objects or at least like we are supposed to be mature and sensible and absolutely fine with any sort of indignity that is imposed on us in the name of good sense. But at least that was in a hospital.

Yes, I am a grown woman and absolutely can put on my big girl pants and just do it for my own good. But I really feel quite oppositional to doing that. I feel like women are expected to just be ok about decisions others make about our bodies and that our dignity and privacy isn't important. It seems so disprespectful to us. I can't imagine men being invited to a prostate exam in a van in a supermarket carpark. I feel that, out of principal I don't want to do it, because the more women say 'that's ok, I can put up with a little indignity' the more other women feel pressured into a situation they really aren't happy about. Already, I feel that if I refuse this and ask for a more private screening, I would be seen as being difficult, silly even, and asking for special treatment. And I don't want special treatment, I want all women to be treated with due respect and consideration when accessing intimate medical care.

To be fair, I am a very private and anxious person, and I do have a problematic sexual history. So, I guess I may be influenced by this. Certainly, I am quite surprised there doesn't seem to be any women complaining about it. And I wonder, is it because most of us don't give a hoot, or are there many, many women just quietly missing out on screening services rather than make a fuss.

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Canogapark · 14/11/2024 20:54

You’re not just being unreasonable. You’re actually being ridiculous.

Calmhappyandhealthy · 14/11/2024 20:54

AnotherWeasel · 14/11/2024 20:50

Why wouldn't I?

I don't know why you wouldn't, but you don't appear to be listening

Stopsnowing · 14/11/2024 20:53

I recently went to a mobile unit in a car park of a health centre. They sent a picture so I would know where to find it. It was easy to park and they saw me bang on time and they had a really efficient system to check me in etc. over and done with really quickly and professionally. I recommend it.

Henbags · 14/11/2024 20:53

i work for the Breast Screening Service. The mobile units aren’t just put there randomly to antagonise. They are placed where we have permission from local council etc, parking facilities, electricity for the unit and public toilets for staff etc. It is a free service and we are absolutely on our knees at the moment with a national shortage of mammographers so these appointments are like hen’s teeth.

The bigger picture is that this is a screening programme to save lives.

MatLeave · 14/11/2024 20:51

We are so incredibly fortunate to have breast screening in our country. Parking in a supermarket is an ideal place for many women who have to use public transport as I'm sure it'll be on a bus route. If you feel so strongly about not attending, get in touch with your health board and ask for an appointment at a clinic or Hospital.

Hercisback1 · 14/11/2024 20:51

You do know there's not a window where everyone can see your boobs?

You're massively over thinking this.

AnotherWeasel · 14/11/2024 20:50

Calmhappyandhealthy · 14/11/2024 20:44

I personally think social media discussion can be a useful tool to express thoughts and feelings and listen to other viewpoints

Are you listening?

Why wouldn't I?

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JeIIyIegs · 14/11/2024 20:50

Christ @AnotherWeasel you say This is my local Morrisons, where I shop, where I frequently run into my awful ex-boyfriend, my estranged mother, the work colleague who sexually harassed me 10 years ago, friends, neighbours, my postie etc, etc

Why don't you shop somewhere else?????

VegTrug · 14/11/2024 20:49

What exactly do you think people are going to think of you? "Eugh look at her, being all sensible about her health" I highly doubt that.

JolieFilleCommentCaVa · 14/11/2024 20:48

AnotherWeasel · 14/11/2024 20:40

I guess one could then argue that all discussion on social media is pointless. And yet, here you are. You could have just not bothered with mumsnet and read a book or done some decluttering. I personally think social media discussion can be a useful tool to express thoughts and feelings and listen to other viewpoints.

Discussion on social media isn’t pointless.

Complaining about something is. Unless you’re complaining directly to the service provider.

You also posted this on AIBU. So do you want people to advise you whether they think you’re being unreasonable or not?

If you started your post with “I had this experience today and felt X way, I’d like to discuss” maybe you’d start the type of discussion you were aiming for.

VimtoVimto · 14/11/2024 20:47

I have moved from an area where I had a mammogram in a mobile unit to one where I go to a clinic. The mobile unit is far more efficient and I never waited more than five minutes. My first appointment at the clinic was cancelled on the morning of my appointment, and they tried to cancel my second appointment but I was already on my way. I ended up waiting over 45 minutes to be seen.

CaptainMyCaptain · 14/11/2024 20:46

AnotherWeasel · 14/11/2024 20:40

I guess one could then argue that all discussion on social media is pointless. And yet, here you are. You could have just not bothered with mumsnet and read a book or done some decluttering. I personally think social media discussion can be a useful tool to express thoughts and feelings and listen to other viewpoints.

There's not much point if you're not going to accept anything anyone says though. 79% so far say YABU.

Attelina · 14/11/2024 20:45

No one, absolutely no one is going to notice you. Get over yourself/

mitogoshigg · 14/11/2024 20:44

I wish I could get an appointment, I'm the same age and still no appointment at Morrisons or elsewhere! Apparently they are running 4 years behind hereConfused

Calmhappyandhealthy · 14/11/2024 20:44

I personally think social media discussion can be a useful tool to express thoughts and feelings and listen to other viewpoints

Are you listening?

ExtraOnions · 14/11/2024 20:43

AnotherWeasel · 14/11/2024 20:33

It's a small town and I can easily bump into any of them at any local supermarket, the highstreet or pub. I don't have a problem with the fact that these people exist in my community and I see them around. I guess I just want my private medical business done somewhere less public.

You can easily bump into any of those people in your local hospital …

FiveFoxes · 14/11/2024 20:43

DanielRicciardosSmile · 14/11/2024 20:09

It really wouldn't bother me tbh. In fact I also think there would be a greater take up of prostate screening if they went to places where men are likely to be, and I'm surprised they don't do this already.

That would be because there isn't routine prostate screening on the NHS. They said on the news today they need to do a repeat large study to see if it would be effective because last time they did a study it wasn't.

Bessica · 14/11/2024 20:43

I went to one in our town car park. You are in and out in 10 minutes. If you don't want to go rebook it for the hospital but you could bump into these people there or anywhere! Utterly bonkers.

mindutopia · 14/11/2024 20:42

You’re overthinking this. It’s a perfectly normal thing. I had a CT scan in a gown in a container in a car park to check if my cancer had spread. No big deal. The man who was coming after me had to wait outside on a plastic chair until I was finished. I’m just bloody grateful for the amazing healthcare I’ve received and how quickly they booked me in (within a week) when I needed to be seen quickly. No indignity involved. You can always say no, but make sure you cancel so that someone who needs it can have that appointment.

AnotherWeasel · 14/11/2024 20:40

JolieFilleCommentCaVa · 14/11/2024 20:30

I work for the NHS. On a programme where we have a mobile unit for CT scan lung screening. It can pick up cancers before symptoms arise.

We frequently use supermarket and leisure centre car parks for the logistics. They’re big, flat spaces that are easy to accommodate the trucks.

They’re easy access for the public. They’re ideal for volumes of patients.

It takes the strain off hospitals.

If you don’t want to use one, then you don’t have to.

You could have called your local hospital/Trust and explained your anxieties. But no, you complained on social media which really doesn’t solve anything.

I guess one could then argue that all discussion on social media is pointless. And yet, here you are. You could have just not bothered with mumsnet and read a book or done some decluttering. I personally think social media discussion can be a useful tool to express thoughts and feelings and listen to other viewpoints.

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vanillafudgecake · 14/11/2024 20:39

I've had breast screening at the hospital.

Sat in a busy waiting room, called into a room to see the first consultant who didn't even acknowledge or look at me for the first few mins...felt so awkward and I was already nervous so this wasn't the welcome I was hoping for.

Had the screening done, that was fine.

Waited in a corridor with one other woman, looking equally as worried as me, for 10 mins then someone came out and said all fine you can go!

That didn't feel overly dignified or respectful.

And as with most hospitals always awkward to find a parking space so I'm happy that mobile places exist making it accessible for more people, I'd happily go to one

Calmhappyandhealthy · 14/11/2024 20:39

If you don't want your mammogram there, ring the number on the letter and get the appointment venue changed

It'll be more travelling for you, but it's not complicated to get it changed

Primarkcouture · 14/11/2024 20:38

It all seems so undignified and makes me feel vulnerable and powerless.

FFS no, it's meant to make breast screening easier to access and more convenient.

I'll tell you what would make you feel more vulnerable and powerless, getting a late stage diagnosis of cancer. Catch a cancer early and you have a much better chance of successful treatment and longer survival.

RedRiverShore5 · 14/11/2024 20:38

It's so it's more accessible, a lot of people don't live near hospitals where they are often done so a large trek then a hefty parking charge.

saveforthat · 14/11/2024 20:35

I was called for a lung scan as an ex smoker which took place in an Asda car park. There were men there as well it was completely private inside and at the far end of the car park away from the store. I am so grateful for that opportunity to go as they found a mass in my armpit which has been caused by a malignant melanoma. Waiting for treatment now, without that scan I would have had no idea.