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What’s the mum “uniform” in your area?

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GrinAndBear · 14/11/2024 14:27

Is there a mum “uniform” - aka what you’d typically see someone in the playground or at the school gates wearing - in your area, and if so what is it?

I recently moved from Highgate to Finchley Central and it’s pretty different, despite being just two tube stops apart

CE / Highgate mums seemed to all wear Birkenstocks, hiking boots, straight cut jeans, parkas or Patagonia fleeces and fair isle or cashmere jumpers with hair in a messy bun.

Finchley Central mums are all in floral dresses Chelsea boots, blowdries, make up and proper coats and look at my scuffed old Blundstones as though I was living rough in a caravan… Not that I’m going to do anything about it mind, I’m very attached to my boots and fleece, but it’s odd how different it is

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Toomanyusernamestochoose · 14/11/2024 22:37

How do you know when someone wears workout clothes but doesn’t exercise? When doing morning run, I’ll be in workout clothes because I go to the gym daily but I don’t exactly announce it to everyone who sees me!

Mishmashs · 14/11/2024 22:33

The whole dry robe thing is funny. I live by the sea (the school is a five min walk from the beach) and while I see plenty of swimmers and dry robes on the beach they are never seen in the playground. My theory is that people here only wear a dry robe immediately before and after swimming and the water is so cold you have to head home to have a hot shower and properly warm up before heading out again, at which point people put on a normal coat as the dry robe is damp inside from having been worn imm after swimming. They’re def not seen as a daywear coat here but kept for their purpose.

AnneShirley18 · 14/11/2024 22:31

In Northern Ireland it is 4th Arq fleeces in various shades or long, black padded gilets.

karen2402 · 14/11/2024 22:31

honeylulu · 14/11/2024 15:12

I don't do the school run much (and live in Berkshire not London) but when i do i see lots of full length puffer coats. I'm sure they are nice and warm but they make the wearers look like a load of hot water tanks waddling along.

When i was last on ML (2014) the mum uniform was jeans, black converse, breton stripe top and olive green parka. Absolutely every "mum" character on TV had the same parka! I had one and it wasn't at all flattering but very comfy though I had to stop wearing it because it made me look like a shoplifter.

This made me laugh. While me and sister were both on mat leave in 2014/15 we called our green parkas our shoplifting coats and had to stop wearing them as felt security guards in shops were following us about 😂

Talkwhilstyouwalk · 14/11/2024 22:29

Market town near Milton Keynes

Fashion here is:
Leggings
Gym gear
Scamp and dude
Scandi wear esp when it comes Woolley hats
Dry robes
Big coats
Office wear

Saschka · 14/11/2024 22:27

And another mum who always wears double leopard print and stripey leg warmers and a hoodie that I assumed for ages was an Adidas one but noticed a few weeks ago actually says Labias and the logo has been altered to look like clitorises

Wow that’s, um, an assertive look 😱

wellington77 · 14/11/2024 22:22

GrinAndBear · 14/11/2024 14:27

Is there a mum “uniform” - aka what you’d typically see someone in the playground or at the school gates wearing - in your area, and if so what is it?

I recently moved from Highgate to Finchley Central and it’s pretty different, despite being just two tube stops apart

CE / Highgate mums seemed to all wear Birkenstocks, hiking boots, straight cut jeans, parkas or Patagonia fleeces and fair isle or cashmere jumpers with hair in a messy bun.

Finchley Central mums are all in floral dresses Chelsea boots, blowdries, make up and proper coats and look at my scuffed old Blundstones as though I was living rough in a caravan… Not that I’m going to do anything about it mind, I’m very attached to my boots and fleece, but it’s odd how different it is

Wow! This is so London 😂😂, it’s definitely not a fashion parade where I live in Northamptonshire, it’s whatever is clean !

Feelingathomenow · 14/11/2024 22:20

Saschka · 14/11/2024 21:50

We were at a rugby festival in Bromley a couple of weeks back, and every second parent was in a dry robe.

DH does actually own one (swims in the Lido) but he wouldn’t wear it as a normal coat. Not least because they are hard to wash, so the inside is likely full of sand and dried salt if you have actually used them for their intended purpose!

Oh I’m sure most of these only had the fibres of skinny jeans and boden tops trapped in their fleece)

Duckfeather · 14/11/2024 22:18

South-West here and there is definitely a uniform in my area. Leggings and hoodies or long ‘dry-robe’ type things. Lots of trainers. There are a few who buck the trend, sometimes in dresses or jeans but nobody is ‘done up’.

To be fair, I’m normally in gym clothes too for drop off but that’s because I go to the gym straight afterwards. Also I do love my Run and Fly dungarees and DMs (on non gym days!)

AuraBora · 14/11/2024 22:18

I'm in Hampshire. Affluent market town - large primary with real mix of backgrounds. Really no uniform to speak of - I recognise some of the trends mentioned here but there is such a mix, no one style or look more prominent than any other really.
The dry robe trend - surely that would only make sense if pre or post-swim or similar?! Otherwise a bit weird..
Can't stand the white socks pulled up trend but each to their own.
Sometimes I'm in gym gear (athleisure) as I find it comfy and conducting to a workout. Sometimes more dressed up.
Probably more variation in clothes in summer.
I don't see many who look well 'turned out- as such.
Minimal make up, think most people don't care too much...

Feelingathomenow · 14/11/2024 22:17

iloveshetlandponies · 14/11/2024 22:02

Fellow iron maiden fan here 🤟🏻🤟🏻🤟🏻

Hello there sister - are you going next year? (Also love shetlands even if they can be moody shits😂

Be4thedawn · 14/11/2024 22:10

minipie · 14/11/2024 14:51

  • Cockapoo called Lola, Penny, Monty or Archie

😂 this is definitely part of the look here

As no-one's allowed to take dogs into the playground, there's a long line of cockapoo type mutts tied to the railings at school drop off. I'm waiting for the day the wrong one gets collected

BabaYaGanoush · 14/11/2024 22:05

Tiny rural school in the south west.

No particular uniform tbh.

There's one mum who regularly does the school run on horseback Hmm

And another mum who always wears double leopard print and stripey leg warmers and a hoodie that I assumed for ages was an Adidas one but noticed a few weeks ago actually says Labias and the logo has been altered to look like clitorises 😂

Other than those two who stand out a bit, it's just a fairly bland mix of athleisure/work clothes/farm clothes!

iloveshetlandponies · 14/11/2024 22:02

Feelingathomenow · 14/11/2024 21:40

My primary school mum uniform switched between office wear (on offfice days) and iron maiden t shirt (yes I can name at least 3 songs)/jeans. Mix of office wear, sports clothes and wag outfit for the mum whose kid had some kind of contract with a football team. Didn’t really pay much notice although was on nodding terms with a mum who wore a metallica hoody (always good to see another metal head in the wild)

Fellow iron maiden fan here 🤟🏻🤟🏻🤟🏻

TheKoalaWhoCould · 14/11/2024 21:52

It’s spread to Worthing and Hastings too….

I don’t really understand the clashing mad toddler prints obsession myself but to each their own!

I have a pair of the plain dungarees but I did unpick and remove the brand tag before I wore them Grin

Perfectlystill · 14/11/2024 21:52

Lola247 · 14/11/2024 14:50

Also want to know how I can identify a shein set?

🤣🤣🤣 I also wondered this

Saschka · 14/11/2024 21:50

Feelingathomenow · 14/11/2024 21:47

Re dry robes - living by the coast lots of people have them here (Devon) but b rarely dry robe branded - usually regatta/go outdoors etc £60 rather than £160. Go over the border in to Cornwall - so many actual dry robes worn by every other person usually up country folk - so can believe they’re very popular in inland playgrounds

We were at a rugby festival in Bromley a couple of weeks back, and every second parent was in a dry robe.

DH does actually own one (swims in the Lido) but he wouldn’t wear it as a normal coat. Not least because they are hard to wash, so the inside is likely full of sand and dried salt if you have actually used them for their intended purpose!

Feelingathomenow · 14/11/2024 21:47

Re dry robes - living by the coast lots of people have them here (Devon) but b rarely dry robe branded - usually regatta/go outdoors etc £60 rather than £160. Go over the border in to Cornwall - so many actual dry robes worn by every other person usually up country folk - so can believe they’re very popular in inland playgrounds

Chipsahoy · 14/11/2024 21:41

Rural north east Scotland. Most parents are farmers or related to (tiny tiny school) and wear checked shirts jeans and boots with fleece in winter. Or farmer brands. I often feel out of place as I rock a mini skirt and big jumper with tights and boots in winter or skinnies and T-shirt when it’s warmer. I do wear the farmer boots though as we have land and it’s very muddy!

Feelingathomenow · 14/11/2024 21:40

My primary school mum uniform switched between office wear (on offfice days) and iron maiden t shirt (yes I can name at least 3 songs)/jeans. Mix of office wear, sports clothes and wag outfit for the mum whose kid had some kind of contract with a football team. Didn’t really pay much notice although was on nodding terms with a mum who wore a metallica hoody (always good to see another metal head in the wild)

Feelingathomenow · 14/11/2024 21:34

VegTrug · 14/11/2024 21:03

🤣🤣🤣🤣

I actually think you do sound fantastic - love the “screams credit cards” comment.

Hugmorecats · 14/11/2024 21:21

GrinAndBear · 14/11/2024 21:04

I think anyone who says they are surprised that people dress in ways that signal class / status / belonging or says they can’t believe that others have the time to notice this is being a bit naive.

Humans are a tribal species, for the entirety of our history we’ve been using dress, emblems, symbols, tattoos, face paint, piercings, jewellery etc to signal that we are part of this group and not that - it’s innate.

If you’re saying you don’t notice this stuff, or you just wear practical clothes and have better things to do with your time etc. that’s just you signalling to us that you belong in the, “too busy or unique to bother with this frippery”, tribe.

@GrinAndBear with a sen child and another one who’s reluctant to go to school and then having to rush to get to work I am genuinely too focused on getting my kids in to notice others. It’s a blur.

Isitfridayyetsophie · 14/11/2024 21:18

@BiscuitDreams 🤣 lol at Babbage!!! Yes, tbf they are brilliant and eco friendly, but when they’re on the pavement you feel like you’re about to be mowed down and when they’re on the road, they’re really tricky to over take. Then people park them on the road or around lampposts and if you’re pushing a stroller or something they’re hard to get around. And there’s so many! But I shouldn’t complain as they’re better than cars.

as for frenchies, every frenchie I’ve met has been lovely so I assume they’re a nice breed!

Pyjamatimenow · 14/11/2024 21:16

Adanola stuff with new balance trainers and pulled up socks. Go a bit further down the road to the rough area and they’re all in white fox.

Bortand · 14/11/2024 21:14

How can people tell if someone’s wearing workout clothes but not exercising?