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Anyone else finding travel harder the older you get?

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menopausalminnie1 · 14/11/2024 12:38

Just back from a long haul trip. Had a wonderful time, but really struggled with some aspects of the trip. For context, I'm 55, menopausal, and I ache A LOT.

We had to go from Heathrow, which is HUGE. I found the sheer amount of walking required to be quite difficult, as my back kills me, and I was lugging a heavy suitcase and a backpack. Don't get me wrong, I did manage it, but it felt exhausting.

We also struggled a bit with the self check in pods and trying to figure out where on earth to drop our bags after that. Nothing seemed to be well signposted or obvious.

On a day to day basis, I feel quite young, but on this trip I felt a bit concerned about whether we were going to manage long haul travel 10 years from now, which is a worry, as we plan to travel a lot in retirement.

Anyone else?

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AnnieSnap · 18/11/2024 00:19

TizerorFizz · 17/11/2024 22:43

Sorry - I meant other possible purchasers should read through the conditions because they need to know about health if it’s on their list of questions.

Oh yes of course. I was just clarifying that I had done my due diligence. You’re absolutely right to highlight the need for that.

TizerorFizz · 17/11/2024 22:43

Sorry - I meant other possible purchasers should read through the conditions because they need to know about health if it’s on their list of questions.

AnnieSnap · 17/11/2024 20:29

TizerorFizz · 17/11/2024 18:55

@AnnieSnap We have the Alianz cover too via Lloyds. You do need to be aware there are health questions. We are 69 and 71. We have no health issues and yes, it covered us for Antarctic - we’ve been. You must read the conditions though. It paid up when DH had his camera stolen a few years ago.

Yes, I have had detailed discussions with them twice. Once when I was declaring health conditions after my aforementioned surgery and once when booking our forthcoming Antartica cruise. I have also read through all of the terms and conditions.

TizerorFizz · 17/11/2024 19:01

@CurlyhairedAssassin Small ship cruises. It’s surprising but they sell like hot cakes. Ship has around 100 passengers and uses zodiacs for exploring. We just like these holidays and we are not alone! Also got the last 2 places to Bhutan and Nepal for Oct 25. That’s a small group tour and a clearly popular too!

TizerorFizz · 17/11/2024 18:55

@AnnieSnap We have the Alianz cover too via Lloyds. You do need to be aware there are health questions. We are 69 and 71. We have no health issues and yes, it covered us for Antarctic - we’ve been. You must read the conditions though. It paid up when DH had his camera stolen a few years ago.

Sunnysal · 17/11/2024 17:35

Sunnysal · 17/11/2024 06:55

We live in Spain so we gave to get the right ex pat insurance . We use Staysure. Very good but very expensive......2000+ euros for 45 days cruise and USA. Couldn't find cheaper that was much good.

We had a really a triple whammy, cruising,USA and 45 days!

AnnieSnap · 17/11/2024 16:51

woffley · 17/11/2024 16:07

@AnnieSnap Ah yes thanks. I plan to look at packaged accounts when my current travel policy expires. You'd have to factor in that you pay £270 already towards it, but could still be competitive

Yes, I’ve factored that in, including the phone insurance, RAC, which I believe includes home start and another benefit that we can choose from several. My choice is Disney + TV. On top of that, I’m really happy with my bank account and its app (had it several years now).

woffley · 17/11/2024 16:07

@AnnieSnap Ah yes thanks. I plan to look at packaged accounts when my current travel policy expires. You'd have to factor in that you pay £270 already towards it, but could still be competitive

AnnieSnap · 17/11/2024 15:31

woffley · 17/11/2024 14:52

That's interesting @AnnieSnap .
Some of my conditions are expensive to cover but very unlikely to be an issue on holiday. I looked at the Lloyds package account but it's only up to age 65 and we are 66/75

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No Woffley, it’s up to 80! See here

Anyone else finding travel harder the older you get?
letmego24 · 17/11/2024 15:04

I don't self check in, certainly it's ok with Easy Jet and BA to do that. Much easier!

Fluffy40 · 17/11/2024 14:57

Yes I found a recent trip to the states very draining at 59. We were touring without a car so lots of carrying cases around. We used many Ubers though!

woffley · 17/11/2024 14:52

That's interesting @AnnieSnap .
Some of my conditions are expensive to cover but very unlikely to be an issue on holiday. I looked at the Lloyds package account but it's only up to age 65 and we are 66/75

AnnieSnap · 17/11/2024 13:50

Ezekiela · 17/11/2024 07:04

Are you over 65?

The PP I was asking was doing worldwide incl USA and cruises which will be significantly more than Europe-only cover.

I’m 65, husband 75. Our travel insurance is included in our Bank account with Lloyds. The insurance company is Alianz. We we first used this, I had recently had major surgery and paid £80 for the year to cover my pre-existing health conditions. They are very helpful with information on cover when contacted direct and unlike other travel insurance, Alianz cover everything that isn’t a pre-existing condition whether or not you ‘declare’ all of your pre-existing conditions. Now that I’m a few years on from the surgery my other health conditions arthritis, well controlled asthma, and because my husbands pre-existing is well managed type two diabetes, we choose not to have them covered and don’t pay anything for the policy! Cruising is covered, including our Antartica expedition cruise, which includes landings reached by zodiacs (inflatable boats with a little engine)! Most travel insurance covers cruises. The only difference with specialist cruise policies is that they will give a small pay out if a ship has to miss out a scheduled port. We don’t really care about that. All insurance costs much more if you include America because the cost of medical care is so ridiculously high there.

Auburngal · 17/11/2024 11:57

Ezekiela · 17/11/2024 07:04

Are you over 65?

The PP I was asking was doing worldwide incl USA and cruises which will be significantly more than Europe-only cover.

No I'm not.

woffley · 17/11/2024 09:24

Ezekiela · 17/11/2024 00:33

Can you recommend a travel insurance company? Friend struggled to find affordable cover after 65 with minor health conditions.

Affordable is subjective. Once you are 65 the days of £20 travel insurance are behind you.

I am 66 and have multiple health conditions including a history of cancer and a heart related one. DH has AF and high blood pressure and is 75. My last annual cover was £450 for two of us with Holiday Extras. I'm just happy I can get cover and travel.
Staysure are often mentioned but they are top price and over hyped IMO. Furthermore they get their rating by chasing reviews and get 5* reviews... of the purchase process. When it comes to claiming they all use a handful of claims management companies.
If you use a comparison website like Quidco compare you can still get cover with most health conditions at a better price than Staysure.

Ezekiela · 17/11/2024 07:04

Auburngal · 17/11/2024 06:41

https://www.moneysavingexpert.com/insurance/cheap-travel-insurance/

This is how I got my £43 annual European cover and got health issues

Are you over 65?

The PP I was asking was doing worldwide incl USA and cruises which will be significantly more than Europe-only cover.

Sunnysal · 17/11/2024 06:55

Ezekiela · 17/11/2024 00:33

Can you recommend a travel insurance company? Friend struggled to find affordable cover after 65 with minor health conditions.

We live in Spain so we gave to get the right ex pat insurance . We use Staysure. Very good but very expensive......2000+ euros for 45 days cruise and USA. Couldn't find cheaper that was much good.

Auburngal · 17/11/2024 06:41

Ezekiela · 17/11/2024 00:33

Can you recommend a travel insurance company? Friend struggled to find affordable cover after 65 with minor health conditions.

https://www.moneysavingexpert.com/insurance/cheap-travel-insurance/

This is how I got my £43 annual European cover and got health issues

Ezekiela · 17/11/2024 00:42

The return journey was a 9 hour flight, with only 20 minutes to change to a different plane (had to run), and then a 14.5 hour flight, then change to another plane at Heathrow for a 3rd flight back to our regional airport, then a bus to the park and ride, then a short drive home after that. I was knackered.

If I'm flying long haul / overnight on the return flight, I get a taxi to and from the airport. Yes, it costs more than driving myself but it's so nice to just come out of the terminal, get in a taxi and relax.

Ezekiela · 17/11/2024 00:33

Sunnysal · 14/11/2024 13:02

I'm 72 and disabled. I can walk but,not far and stairs are difficult and only a couple at the most. Dh is 73 and awaiting a hip replacement. We travel a lot and long haul. We just ask for help and take taxis etc. If it's very far we book a rest day and stay in our room. We've had a quiet year but have managed to fly to Bali, the Maldives and cruise around Singapore. Then cruise to New York fly to Las Vegas for a week. We take it slow and enjoy every minute!

Can you recommend a travel insurance company? Friend struggled to find affordable cover after 65 with minor health conditions.

KimberleyClark · 16/11/2024 23:59

CurlyhairedAssassin · 16/11/2024 22:33

What do you like that is booked up that far ahead?

We have four holidays booked for 2025 - nothing for 2026!

AnnieSnap · 16/11/2024 23:58

2 stone over the recommended weight is not enough to account for your aches and pains. Perimenopause and Menopause is though. I remember aching to the point that I thought I had fibromyalgia. Later in perimenopause, I also started to have horribly heavy periods and brain fog. HRT gave me back my quality of life. Within two years or so of the pause in Menopause, I no longer needed it. Some women need it for years longer though and I wouldn’t have hesitated to take it if I’d been one of them.

Unless you have a family history of breast cancer, based on what you have said, I see not reason for you not to take HRT. The increased risk of breast cancer is very, very low. Much lower in fact than the increased cancer risk with the contraceptive pill, which most women are keen to take. As a good doctor pointed out to me, HRT is a considerably lower dose of hormones than the pill!

I am 66 now. I have osteoarthritis, so have to pace myself a bit and make sure I wear ‘the right’ shoes, but I still enjoy travelling a lot (including through Heathrow and to various out of the way spots in Africa, requiring multiple flights each way). My husband is 71 and does it all with me without a problem. He has had long covid, so sometimes, if there is a long walk, he’ll have to stop and rest for 10-minutes along the way. That seems to be down to LC though, not age. Neither of us carry backpacks though. We have cases and cabin bags on wheels.

I think you need to maybe see a different GP, or visit a menopause/women’s health clinic if there is one near you. Get your health sorted out, stop carrying a backpack, wear very supportive, comfortable shoes and revisit your travels.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 16/11/2024 23:52

woffley · 16/11/2024 23:17

I used to book morning flights and an airport hotel the night before.
However I now book a mid- afternoon flight, plus an extra night in the destination hotel. So much better than a crummy airport hotel.

A long haul trip can be harder that way.

woffley · 16/11/2024 23:17

Auburngal · 16/11/2024 22:24

Flights have to be in the morning. I cannot be doing with any flights after 1pm now (Europe).

As a kid, we had a flight at 22:00. Yes day one of holiday in airport. With the flight being 3.5 hours long, 1 hour added on as hour ahead, 2 hours at arrival airport. Another 2 hours transfer, 30 mins waiting to check into room.

So check into room the same time as breakfast room is open.

I cannot sleep on planes. My DM sleeps during take off and you know how noisy the plane's engines get.

One of the main reasons why next year we are flying from Brum not East Midlands

I used to book morning flights and an airport hotel the night before.
However I now book a mid- afternoon flight, plus an extra night in the destination hotel. So much better than a crummy airport hotel.

ImAThinker · 16/11/2024 23:08

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