New guy ignoring me

You don't even know this man. He sounds vile. Write him off, he's just someone you encountered online, he isn't 'real'. What does it matter what he said, he's nothing. The only reason he is chatting up women online is because he is inadequate.

Well, we can all tell you that he is an abusive prick who's just in it for a fuck, but you're not going to listen are you? You're going to cling on, chase him, pester him, tell him what hotel he can book so he can get his fun, no strings and then he'll ignore you again. I hope this is actually a wind up post cos he has already shown his true colours. That should have been enough.

Look OP, what he's doing is he's estabnlishing whether you'r ethe kind of woman who will accept him being a complete dick. He's figuring out what the base line is in terms of how much (or little) love and attention he has to give you to make sure tha tyou are completely into him and dependent on him. He's figuring out how much abuse he can give you before you actually walk away. He's probably not even doign this consciously, but that's what's happening.

the reality is that a woman who is not vulnerable to abusive men would have left at the very first bit - when he was spending hours telling you you could tell him anything, staring into your hours, having endless conversations etc because that's not a normal healthy way to start a relationship.

In emotionally and mentally healthy people, early days of dating are fun and light. There's laughing and flirting. There might be moments of intimacy and sharing, but they're not hte focus. Early dating is about testing the waters - is there an attraction, do we enjoy hanging out together, do we seem to have similar views and values. What sort of lifestyle do we lead - are they goign to be compatible.

walk away, truth comes out when you are drunk? says a lot, he is a nasty drunk, he is a misogynist and probably a narcissist

Getting drunk, calling you a slag, then giving you the cold shoulder is not a reasonable reaction to this situation. It shows he has significant problems if that how he responds. Please OP, do yourself a favour and stay away.

Block him, do the freedom programme
Nothing to love about him

Three things you should do:

1. Block this horrible man‘s number. He‘s no good.
2. Seek therapy because your feelings and thoughts are all out of kilter and you are not capable of making good decisions right now.
3. Stay away from relationships until you have learned how to set boundaries and recognise red flags.

Everybody on here is saying the same thing but you don’t seem able to listen. Ask yourself why that is!

I would suggest undertaking the freedom programme. His behaviours & your reactions are not healthy. He is love bombing you & telling you what you want to hear to sleep with you. He has no interest in being in a relationship with you. Please take some time to work on yourself, you deserve better than this

Perhaps take any time and money you would have spent on him, and instead spend it on some therapy to try and understand why you feel like this when someone has behaved so appallingly towards you. You can do it virtually, and do the odd one-off session...

No. He has told you what he thinks of you. And what he can give you: a fuck. Believe him.

Don't build up a story in your head that isnt true. He doesn't want you. And you should want better for yourself than this asshole.

Block him on EVERYTHING and run for the hills. He's just playing with you. Reeling you in, love bombing you and then treating you like shit. Rinse, repeat. He's shown you who he is and what he is, believe him.

He's shown you his true colours, OP. Walk. And keep walking.
If you tolerate this, this early on, it does not bode well.

I don’t get it. How the hell can he be “the sweetest person ever” and call you a slag and ugly? His being drunk does not excuse this. Dump him, block him and raise your bar.

Block him on everything !!!! Social media, phone, email.... EVERYTHING !!!!!

Okay the fact that you have left an abusive relationship and are now having strong feelings for someone who is a walking red flag that you’ve only met once is concerning

kindly, you need to spend sometime working on your own self esteem, realise your self worth and would probably benefit from some therapy.

block and move on

This guy has the ability to absolutely ruin your life, get out, now.

Gently OP, but you really need to get some professional help for the impact of your past experiences have had on you and your view of yourself. I understand this man has made you feel good for the first time in years but he is telling you loud and clear that he is not interested in a relationship. He has done this a number of ways, by being horrendously abusive and vile (which you do not deserve) but also be being quite clear in his communication that he just wants sex, not a relationship. You cannot make him love you and want to be in a relationship with you. You are only responsible for your feelings and actions; you cannot influence his.

You said you have just left an abusive relationship, and it sounds like you want to fix the damage this has done by getting into another relationship where you feel loved. This is perhaps an understandable reaction but also a very dangerous one because it leaves you vulnerable to further abuse. The best thing you can do for yourself is start working on your own wellbeing, through therapy, through interests and activities, through none romantic relationships, exercise, whatever. Please put the dating apps down and try to be kind to yourself, for yourself.

He's literally told you you're just a shag and you're begging him to love you?

Fucking hell lass. It doesn't sound as I'd you're ready to date yet.

He’s a creep and a loser who has told you quite clearly you’re nothing more than a shag to him. Stop boosting his pathetic ego and cease all contact, for your own sake.

He only wants to use you for sex, he doesn't want a relationship with you, if you meet him, you can bet you'll only hear from him when he wants to shag, he's incredibly mean to you, he really doesn't like you and most probably mean women in general.
Best thing to do is block him and get on with your life and raise your raise esteem, to believe you are worth better than this, or you will regret it.

It's been four weeks of texts and ONE meeting. Put this in perspective. He doesn't have feelings for you, he's telling you that outright and you're still chasing him...

Block him. He is abusive, doesn't respect you, and doesn't love you. It's not hard to put hearts in a message.

Dude, this one is a none starter. You shouldn't be having blazing rows and wanting to meet to talk after a month. That's not even thinking about the names he's called you.

Stop contacting him and move on.