New guy ignoring me

For goodness sake, pick your self respect up off the floor and wrap it round you like a cloak.
Block him everywhere.

He's showing you how terrible he is. Why aren't you paying attention?

More red flags than a communist rally....

You are worth more than this

I think you need to go back to your GP for a medication review.

A few years ago I talked to my GP briefly about a horrible new relationship I was in and they were excellent in their help and advice. I nearly hadn't bothered to mention it to them.

This guy is a twat.

Bad people are not bad all of the time. They can at times treat those around them very well. They like to think of themselves as good people and even they know that if they are never nice, no one would hang around them. That is why you are confused and so hopeful that his “sweet” side will come back and stay.

But he is a bad person. We know this from his actions of calling you horrible names and not treating you very well. Always listen to the actions and behaviour first rather than the cheap and flowery words that this man speaks.

You are dreaming about him, etc - it's a crush and will fade. You deserve someone nice, and hopefully you'll find them and you'll look back in this and wonder why you stuck with this charmless oik for so long. Until then, better to be single and focus on your friends and family.

He thinks you're ugly and a slag and he doesn't want you at his but he will take an easy shag at the hotel... he is a massive dick!! Why do you want him ? Walk away.

After insulting you which should have been the end if it. he did actually have the decency to tell you that you need help and you’re too fragile for him. He’s right. He just wants sex he doesn’t want this kind of hassle. You need a therapist not a FWB.

Please please tell me you don't have kids ? If so, you really need to drop this one and work on your self esteem.

There is genuinely no kind way to say this but you are coming across pathetic and desperate. You've met him one time in a month and he's already verbally abused you. You're begging him to be the love of your life while he's telling you very clearly he doesn't want that and just wants a shag.

Would it really hurt you to be single for a while and work out why your self esteem is so low that you're begging for love from an abusive man you don't even know?

There is no scenario where this becomes a happy relationship. Even if you manage to convince him to be with you properly, which he's telling you isn't going to happen, you're just heading for another abusive situation.

Getting into a relationship with someone who calls you horrible names and admits he himself is “evil” and has a drink problem is going to lead to a lot of heartache on your part. He is abusive and he’s showing you his cards early which is good as you can save yourself from further pain.

Where do you honestly see this relationship leading? I get it’s hard when you’re attracted to someone and they don’t want you - it makes you want them more. But if you block him and have nothing to do with him you’ll start to forget him.

You sound like you have very low self esteem and you need to work on that.

He's not 'the sweetest person ever'. He sounds horrible. If he's calling you these names after a month, imagine what he'd be like after a year.

Block him, then do some work on yourself. Why on earth would you still like a man who has been so vile to you??

You deserve better.

OP your posts are really worrying - you are writing out exactly the truth and you are fully aware he is a terrible person and not interested, and you are still chasing him! Think of how embarrassing it is to chase a man who treats you like that and isn't into you - do you really want to beg for him? You will look back and cringe so badly at this. I say this because I want you to see the reality, not to be unkind. You have only met him once and he doesn't even want to see you again - I am not sure what you think this is

But can you see how inappropriate it is to be feeling like you can or should open up to someone so intensely when you barely know them?

You like being insulted and ignored?

You really ought to do something about thst tbh. Its not healthy.

@YourTealMaker The drink is not the issue. Your lack of self-love and respect is.
A toxic person is toxic either drunk or not. It resides inside them.
I agree with everyone else. Start investing your time and money on your own self, so that you wont fall victim to another abusive twat again. Time to stay single.

He’s not ‘the sweetest person ever’, he’s unpredictable, nasty and will cause you a lot of pain. Bin him.

OP, I mean this kindly, but you need to get some self-respect and bin him. He's not even worth the effort you're putting into writing these posts. He's called you an ugly slag FFS. Who cares if he was pissed when he said it - he's an absolute bellend. Ditch him and maybe consider getting some counselling so you don't waste any more of your life mooning after absolute wastemen.

Maybe yourself why you are mooning about over a wanker who calls you ugly and a slag. You need therapy.

He's a dick. Why are you bothering with him at all?

The "sweetest" person calls you a "slag"!!!

Wind forward a few years and you'll be another domestic abuse statistic. It's easy to avoid these types of men but with your attitude you'll become yet another DA victim. Bin him now.