New guy ignoring me

I don’t know how you can be attracted to someone who speaks to you that way. He sounds horrible. Even his messages that are meant to be him being nice to you, he sounds awful and clearly has zero respect for you.

Is this real? If so, he’s a horror and you clearly have very low self esteem and standards. Why would you want to meet with someone who calls you ugly and a slag? What the fuck am I reading? Just tell him to fuck off and block. Please up your bar. You’re going to end up in an abusive relationship if you think this kind of behaviour is acceptable.

Girl, stop. Be so fucking for-real right now. This man is abusing the shit out of you. Youre defending him like hes nice. Hes not and hes a twat. Take it from someone who has actually been there and done that with SO many men. I now pay the price by requiring hours of therapy and genuinely having to rebuild myself properly in my late 20s. You WILL fall in a very vicious cycle if you dont leave this man.

Take heed of these replies. I was you once. You will be so unbelievably fucked up if you dont get a grip. And fast.

If you’re okay with being no more than a shag and you want to be a statistic. Then yes, enter this relationship with gay abandon. This man will use and abuse you, then move on again to another vulnerable woman.

You’ve been called a slag, why you think that is an acceptable comment? You are being a whole mess with this. The screenshots make you look even worse. You are literally ignoring the MASSIVE RED FLAG that this man is. He is a twat. Move on. There is more than just one man. You dont have feelings for him, you like having someone because you most likely feel lonely. Stop it. Just dont do it to yourself. Im actually telling you, he doesnt care. Just please listen.

Don’t just “look into”, call a therapist today. Most likely you are repeating relationships that you experienced with caregivers as a child. You are attracted to men who are unavailable, abusive and who only throw you a few scraps of attention that you desperately crave like a starving puppy. I feel so bad for you and hope one day, you will be genuinely happy either way someone who truly cares about you.

He doesn't love you.

He doesn't like you.

He doesn't even fancy you enough to really want to have sex with you.

Come on now, OP.

I understand the feeling when you are strongly attracted to someone. It can be overwhelming. You need to do this. It won't be easy. You'll be saving your life.

Well, he writes exactly like you do so there's a plus.
Must be a good match.

Needing therapy and needing to get rid of this loser are different issues. There's no point in therapy if you destroy your life with this piece of shit. Get rid of him now.

You have gone straight from one despicable abuser to another, and because they are different from one another, and you are so desperate for someone to be nice to you (which he was for a short while), that you just can't see all the huge, massive, enormous, gigantic red flags that are waving all over the place.

Please, please listen to what everyone is saying and stay far away from this awful man. All he wants is to use you for his sexual gratification, so for God's sake end it immediately.

She will.

And she'll get pregnant.

And she'll stay with him while he treats her like shit.

And she'll post one day how she's trapped with three kids with a man who abuses her and she's got no access to money and no way to leave and he shouts abuse at the kids but she loves him and can anyone help her get him to understand what he's doing is not OK.

And she'll say apart from that, he's an amazing dad who loves his kids.

he told me that if I don’t go to therapy I can always speak to him and open up to him

Do not do this.

Under no circumstances do this.

I'm not going to waste my time because I can see everyone else has said it all.

But those messages you screenshot were just embarrassing.

I've had enemies that have treated me better

This is your version of the sweetest person ever? Odd

So why are you posting the messages where he is clearly only interested in one thing, and barely at that, and not all the ones where he says he loves you etc.

Stop lying to yourself, you can't seriously be so desperate/stupid to think this is in any way going to develop into anything g other than a fuck buddy situation.

Get some therapy and hopefully find your self-respect. But I'm guessing you will keep waffling on here about this loser and meet him for sex then be back complaining he ghosted you afterwards. There's obviously no helping you!

Work on your self esteem and self worth before even glancing at another man ever again.

But I pray, for the love of God,do not ever, get pregnant by someone like this.

Actually, just join a convent and do not go near another man again, you're awful judge of character if you think this guy is sweet!

Are you the same poster under a different name who’s done the post about a guy you’re dating calling you a slag because you hung out with a male friend?

starting to think these aren’t real.

@YourTealMaker what the actual f**k! I'm sure this type of 'relationship ' is normal to you but to the rest of world its not.
Stop talking to this idiot about your life. And not everyone who opens up to you about theirs needs to be given sex as a reward.
This twat is not even too bothered about having sex with you even though you pretty much offer it on a plate!
Choose to be alone. Don't hang yourself on any passing knobhead who calls you beautiful or whatever lame compliment. You're worth more than that. Stay single and work on yourself. And then raise your bar. Good luck.

@tealbreaker please look into getting therapy to work on your self esteem. Everyone on this thread is telling you loud and clear that this person is absolutely vile, and you need to block him and work on your self esteem. You need higher standards. You deserve so much more (which isn't hard given what an utterly vile man this guy sounds). Single is always always better than this.

The man has LITERALLY told you he doesn't like you and only wants to use you for sex. If you won't listen to yourself, and you won't listen to us, at least listen to what the man himself is saying. Which is: HE DOES NOT LIKE YOU, THINKS YOU ARE UGLY, THINKS YOU ARE A SLAG AND JUST WANTS TO USE YOU FOR SEX.

Why, why, why would you want anything to do with this horrible, nasty, manipulative person?

He is scum. Get rid of him.

I can't understand why you don't.

The more I read, the worse it becomes. It's early stages, just leave him before you're married/living together/pregnant and it becomes harder.

As I mentioned, I hope you're using contraception. To bring a baby into this mess would be a disaster for you and the baby.

@YourTealMaker the more you post the worse it gets. Now I'm not saying you are a troll, far from it, but what you are writing is the sort of stuff a troll would write to get reactions from others. That is how extreme you are coming across.

You are practically inviting an abusive man into your life to abuse you again, only this one admits to physically attacking others and boasts about it. All this is making me wonder if you are trying to self harm by using a person instead of a sharp implement because you feel so worthless. You seem to want hurt so you can feel. But a man, abusive or otherwise, is not the answer.

Get help asap. If you continue down this path you are going to end up dead. Look in the mirror and tell that beautiful person looking back that they are worth so much more than this, that there is a better life out there, but they need professional help and you will get it for them. Then do it.