New guy ignoring me

The sweetest person you’ve met?

Sure about that?

He doesn’t like you at all. You need to work on yourself so you have the self respect to find someone who calls you names absolutely disgusting. You would be very silly to keep pursuing this.

Yes it seems very familiar.

You really like him after he called you names abs make false accusations about cheating ? Maybe you need a break from dating, because neither of you respect you.

What a awful specimen of a so called man. He has zero respect for women op that's clear to see in his messages hes making a fool out of you.

If this is a genuine thread (I have my doubts) I’m pretty sure you posted about his behaviour under a different name when this happened and everyone told you to block him and move on.
That advise still applies, at the start of a relationship people tend to be on their best behaviour, if this is his best, I’d hate to see how he’ll treat you further down the line if you insist on trying to keep a relationship going.

Reading through this whole thread is liking watching a car crash in slow motion.

OP - you know that you are vulnerable and have a tendency to make bad decisions.
Please hand this decision over to the respondents to this post.
This man is VILE. Forget your ‘feelings’ for him. They are misplaced in the same way your feelings in the past have been misplaced. If you go ahead with this scum, you will end up feeling worse and your mental health will deteriorate further.
Cut off all contact with him. Block him on SM, and block his number on your phone. Go COMPLETELY no contact, and mean it.

Now, once that’s done, go to your GP and get referred to some proper mental health support. It may take some time, but get yourself on a pathway to help.
Whilst you’re waiting, stay away from any men at all.
Rekindle some of your old friendships. Try to target those friends who are doing a bit better in their lives and making decent decisions.

Good luck!

Block him and move on

A person is not 'great except when...', they are the sum of all their behaviour- sometimes he's really nice, sometimes he's abusive, that still equals an abusive person, not an amazing person. Think of it other way- would you want to be with someone who is abusive but occassionally nice? That's what he is. You've just got out of an abusive relationship- don't throw away all the strength it took to leave by jumping back into another abusive relationship. Take some time to be on your own, re-build yourself. When you've been in an abusive relationship you lose perspective on yourself and what's normal- this isn't normal, someone should add to your world and make you feel good, not make you feel shit about yourself... x

And you are still bothering with this nasty, abusive user because……

OK, well crack on and give her some advice that she will ignore again 🤷‍♀️

OP I can't say anything that hasn't already been said.

For the love of god please wise up. This man is not interested in you. He's barely interested in just having sex with you!
All the details and the messages are too much.
They are embarrassing. You don't love each.
You have only known him a month.
He is telling you he is a dickhead! Telling you!
I know it's not easy when you're young and you think a bad boy likes you.
You think you can change them. You can't!
Take it from someone who knows.
I'm 40 now but once I was a 19-26 woman mooning over pathetic men who treated me similar.
I couldn't sleep, could barely concentrate or work. I was obsessed with messaging them. I almost failed my degree and lost jobs over idiot men.
Eventually something got through to me.
You are worth more. You have to care about yourself more than this cunt! One day at a time, and it will get easier. Block! And get therapy X

So? Maybe she doesn't have anywhere else to turn for advice, or even just to talk / think things through. You don't have to read / engage if it bothers you so much.

Fair enough but if this is the OP I think it is, she constantly name changes, exactly the same writing style and exactly the same problem men every time

This man is going to beat you up and might kill you. He's violent and he treats you with contempt. Please get away from him.

Just did an AS and I can only see 4 threads started by OP and they were in June, July and Aug respectively?? And not all about the same thing. It seems you’re being very harsh

This isn't the first thread the OP has made about a ridiculous bloke, they were being posted every couple of days for a few weeks, then quiet for a week or so and then she's back again. They always go the same, OP ignores all the advice and then disappears eventually...until the next time

I’ve only read the OP’s posts so I may be repeating what others have said but…
OP, you do not know what a healthy relationship looks like. You’re so very vulnerable and have been treated so very badly that this guy actually seems like a prize compared to the others.
If nobody else has suggested it, go on to the relationships board and read the ‘right listen up everybody’ thread pinned to the top.
Your reality has been skewed and you should not be getting involved with anyone at all until you realise that you can do better than this.

You have opened up to this guy so he knows just how vulnerable you are and is twisting that to his advantage. PLEASE walk away and do not speak to him again.

@swizzlemix I think the OP has explained 'what is wrong' with her?

Did it make you feel good, making her feel small and stupid, when she's been abused her whole life? You're no better than the person she's talking about.

@YourTealMaker please ignore the nasty posters on here, block this guy FOR GOOD, and take some time to focus on YOU.

Please cancel the hotel.

Find something you enjoy this evening and do that instead. Honestly, having a cup of tea and watching Gogglebox would be more fun than meeting this twazzock.

Tell your GP or mental health team that you are getting into another abusive relationship.

If you don't feel that you are worth anything, then do this for your child.

(Of course you ARE worth it, but I know you don't feel that you are at the moment).

@YourTealMaker You've obviously had a very hard life and experienced abuse. And you have no idea what real love or self-love means.
You won't find the healing and happiness from any man Im sorry to say. And especially not from this one. You are literally begging him to abuse you. And he will. Because that's what you're asking him to do.

Take the first small step of self-respect and cancel the hotel. Why would you go and get fucked by a guy who is not too keen anyways? He will take it since it's offered on a plate. He doesn't have to even be nice to you to get it. He can give you shit, fuck you and feel disgusted by it all. And you will too.

You are not friends. So don't play that card.

You don't fuck your friends, OP. None of this makes any sense but crack on.

OP no good can come from talking to this guy, let alone meeting up with him and shagging him.

You've had a hugely traumatic life so far and been let down by so, so many people.

Because of this you have no understanding of how you should be treated in a healthy relationship or friendship.

This man is abusive. He may not be 'as' abusive as men you have been with in the past, but just because you've been with someone 10/10 awful before doesn't mean you should accept someone who is 8/10 awful (or any level of awful!) now.

I wish you had an older, wiser woman in your life to take you under her wing and help you realise that you are looking for love and connections in familiar places because that's what we are wired to do. But because abuse and trauma are familiar to you, that's what you are subconsciously seeking out and / or tolerating.

You are a young woman who has survived so much. You have so much of your life left to live. What a gift! You could focus entirely on yourself and spend your life calm, happy and healthy. Being single until you are ready for a relationship is crucial.

A man like this won't give you what you want or need. He will simply reinforce your core belief that you are only worthy of abuse and that trauma is so familiar to you that it's some sort of friend of yours.

It isn't.

You need to reclaim your life. Block him. Delete him. Stop even thinking about men for now.

Choose a boxset you love, get some food you love, have a weekend of doing what YOU want to do that doesn't involve this man or any other men.

You are not a passive passenger in your life. It is yours to live. You're an amazing person to have come out of the other side of everything you've been through so far. Don't waste that person on men who make you feel shit and confused even 1% of the time, let alone 90%!

You're not going to get any of that from him though are you.

He's going to drink your alcohol, shag you, abuse you then leave/make you leave.

Nobody can be that hard up for attention that you genuinely think that is what you need.

You'd be so much better off staying home, having a pamper evening and a few drinks, ordering yourself a nice takeaway, spending time with your son and talking to people here because we all already know we'd be more caring and better for you than this dickhead will ever be.

Why can't you see it? why are you refusing to see it?