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Facebook DLA group feels uncomfortable

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Furrzu · 13/11/2024 21:46

My son has additional needs and I am in the process of applying for DLA. I have very little money and would be grateful for anything extra. I'd use it to make a sensory space at home for him, some clubs and for anything else that would help him. We've had a sensory profile done and there's a long list!

I joined a DLA Facebook group that has close to 150k people in it. Honestly, it's very uncomfortable. People posting about whether it's OK for them to use their backdated pay for a family trip to Disney. People going to tribunal to get high rate mobility because their child has flat feet and has to wear insoles but they're worried their child won't get it because they play football, so advised by others to omit this fact. Whether they can save the DLA and ask for UC to not class this as savings as they're saving it for their child for uni.

It's actually made me quite angry but not sure if I am BU. I only wanted advice on filling in the form as it is long and daunting!

So, AIBU? Is this a widespread issue?

I know, I should probably mind my business...

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drippingtapp · 13/11/2024 21:50

People posting about whether it's OK for them to use their backdated pay for a family trip to Disney.

What is wrong with that?

People going to tribunal to get high rate mobility because their child has flat feet and has to wear insoles but they're worried their child won't get it because they play football, so advised by others to omit this fact.

You don't get high rate mobility for having flat feet. Neither does the form ask if you play football.

Try harder OP

Parapaderapa · 13/11/2024 21:49

The group seems to be making you angry and upset, and it doesn’t sound healthy for you. I think the best thing would be to leave the group (there are so many people on it, it doesn’t sound very useful or relevant to you either). All you can do is focus on your own child, don’t worry about what others are saying they are doing (the truth is often stretched on social media). I hope you find a more useful group soon.

Furrzu · 13/11/2024 21:49

INeedAnotherName · 13/11/2024 21:48

Leave the group. Find another. Or contact your local Citizens Advice for form filling.

I tried CAB but they don't have any availability before I need to get the form sent off.

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INeedAnotherName · 13/11/2024 21:48

Leave the group. Find another. Or contact your local Citizens Advice for form filling.

Furrzu · 13/11/2024 21:48

And I'm really not being goady, I just joined the page recently and sat down to do the form this evening and ended up scrolling through the posts in disbelief!

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