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Finding out Santa isn’t real…

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Drowthy · 13/11/2024 20:56

I have 3 DC. One just turned 10 and I’m not entirely sure if he still ‘believes’. Just wondering how you found out he wasn’t real, or how your DC found out…

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LlynTegid · 13/11/2024 21:19

I was 8 and found out from friends.

This thread reminded me of a Spitting Image sketch where David Steel is told by his wife about things that don't exist.

RandomMess · 13/11/2024 21:19

We had to tell our 10 year old as her 3 older siblings had kept up the fairytale to her.

I think she was 50:50 and most gutted about the financial aspect for "when I have kids I'll have to pay for all their presents" 🤣

Amyleeritchards · 13/11/2024 21:19

He’s not real ? Just say that.

Idiot Facepalm GIF
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Drowthy · 13/11/2024 21:17

I’ve sort of drip-fed it to him over the past few months, asking what he wants for xmas, rather than from Santa. And I’ve laid out what the budget is. I’d be surprised if he did still believe, but he’s a very sweet, affectionate boy. No sen.
his older brother is 13 but younger is 3, so he’s is just realising what Christmas is, so that’s really magical. The older boys are very excited to make the magic for their younger brother

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Cocoalover · 13/11/2024 21:16

Mine was 9 when he had his suspicions. At 10, he was sure he didn't believe in Santa anymore. He's 11 now, and I do plan to take him to see Santa if he wants to, I imagine he will want to as he likes receiving the gift ;)

mm81736 · 13/11/2024 21:13

fwbfwb · 13/11/2024 21:08

id be surprised if a 10 year old still believed are you sure they are not pretending (unless drip feed about sen) my kids stopped believing at 4/5

Yeah. IRL it's only small children ( like 6 or under) that believe.I wonder when I read MN 's 8 to 10 year olds believing g, who is kidding who.

PeloMom · 13/11/2024 21:09

I found out at around 7 when I found the list I wrote to Santa(and mailed) in my mom’s pocket. I was upset I won’t get gifts since the letter was obviously not with Santa so she had to explain the Santa the thing.

fwbfwb · 13/11/2024 21:08

id be surprised if a 10 year old still believed are you sure they are not pretending (unless drip feed about sen) my kids stopped believing at 4/5

LostittoBostik · 13/11/2024 21:08

I worked it out between one Xmas and the next when I was about 8. There was no big reveal, I just realised it definitely wasn't true

MsNeis · 13/11/2024 21:07

Needmorelego · 13/11/2024 21:04

He is real....kind of.
His origins are St Nicholas (the patron saint of children) who was an actual person who existed.
If children start questioning "is he real" the answer is "yes he was".

Yes this! I plan to do this, when the time comes (dc already knows the story of St. Nicholas).

Needmorelego · 13/11/2024 21:04

He is real....kind of.
His origins are St Nicholas (the patron saint of children) who was an actual person who existed.
If children start questioning "is he real" the answer is "yes he was".

Loub1987 · 13/11/2024 21:03

I was probably about 8 when I found out. Kept pretending to my parents I believed for another year as I was afraid the presents would go downhill. Also it’s just fun.

At 10, I would assume he knows but I’d also let him pretend. He probably doesn’t want to miss out on the fun with siblings.

Wordau · 13/11/2024 21:00

Mate at school told everyone. But I already had my doubts.

10 seems old to me, I think I was 7.

I've always downplayed Santa to my kids, only stockings from Santa and never made a huge deal of it, as I can still remember the disappointment.

My DC2 knew age 4! Figured it out.

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