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Wrap around care for those who don't work??

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Raisinsandweetabix · 13/11/2024 16:34

Free breakfast clubs, afterschool clubs. Why would you need this if you are at home all day anyway? Another kick in the teeth to working parents. Obviously not including those in dire need of this care.

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VeterinaryCareAssistant · 13/11/2024 21:16

Ap42 · 13/11/2024 21:10

Many many parents whose children are entitled to free school meals also work! I'm one of them. It's a legacy benefit, and if they were entitled to free school meals before a certain date they will remain so.

I also receive some UC but not entitled to FSM.

My problem is why should people who get FSM then get holiday activities free as well?

Tweensandterribletwos · 13/11/2024 21:15

It’s a great idea…as long as those who NEED breakfast club to get to work (in order to look after other people’s children, for example) can still get a place rather than those who just want use it because it’s suddenly free.

I chose where to send my child to school based on my need for wrap around care, if that suddenly becomes unavailable because people who don’t actually need it suddenly start using it won’t be able to work.

And good luck finding the staff. It’s like the extra 6,500 teachers they’ve promised- they can’t fill all the vacancies they’ve currently got, never mind another load extra!!

Tiredmumtoboy · 13/11/2024 21:14

Raisinsandweetabix · 13/11/2024 17:07

The same as the fact schools and nursery's are expected to 'teach kids to brush their teeth' I'm sorry but who is actually inept enough that they can't brush their kids fucking teeth twice a day/ supervise. Stop pretending it's 'all ok' no, we have become a nanny state to the huge detriment to our services. Poor teachers, poor nursery workers. Boohoo I'm too 'poor' to afford a toothbrush yet I can buy a vape

Im mostly with you with free child care. It's so expensive.

However the brushing teeth thing is because nearly every dentist is going private. And very few people can get an NHS dentist. Schools and pre schools have signed up to this program to make sure they can also help keep an eye on teeth and help keep them healthy. Teeth can go wrong very quickly and they want the best for children. It's very sad, it's not pathetic.

I brush my son's teeth twice a day and we have an NHS dentist for now. But he is still signed up to this program because I want him to have the best start in life.

Once we were on holiday and he complained his teeth hurt, I tried to get in contact with a dentist they wanted to charge £75. He's three years old and they wanted to charge that much. I ended up driving 3 hours home to make sure he could be seen by our NHS dentist. Turned out his tooth hadn't fully cut through.

gamerchick · 13/11/2024 21:14

DinosaurMunch · 13/11/2024 16:55

It will be great for me. Single parent household income 25k. Not entitled to any benefits. Cost of breakfast club for 2 kids is £14 a day, after school club is £26. (Well - minus the 20% so whatever that works out at). I'm sure there are lots like me that don't get much if any state help but aren't well off.

The problem is if too many use it it will need lots of staff and space... Currently they do it in the nursery classroom with nursery staff and there's only about 10 or 15 kids from a school of 100.

Are you sure you're not entitled to something? That doesn't sound right

StandingSideBySide · 13/11/2024 21:11

If everyone has to pay the same or everyone is getting it free then it’s all fine and good for the kids
However if working parents have to pay when others don’t then no it’s not fare as working parents don’t have a choice other than, to give up work.

MurdoMunro · 13/11/2024 21:11

I’m smelling poo. These six kids with the holiday going benefits addled SIL, no father/s, an auntie who doesn’t appear to think that if the nanny state doesn’t teach them how to clean their teeths then she’s next up for the job but who never the less exemplify a broken nanny state where good wholesome working people are only excluded from childcare because it’s all been handed on a big gold plate to lazy conniving arses and not in any way to do with systemic failures not addressed by employers, government or the goddam patriarchy (woke) while socialists sit back and quaff champagne may not be actual sentient beings.

Ap42 · 13/11/2024 21:10

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 13/11/2024 16:36

My children's school offered free breakfast clubs and after school clubs as standard which I think is good.

But they offer holiday activities free to only those in receipt of free school meals which I think is wrong. For working parents it's about £20 per child.

Many many parents whose children are entitled to free school meals also work! I'm one of them. It's a legacy benefit, and if they were entitled to free school meals before a certain date they will remain so.

FloatyBoaty · 13/11/2024 21:04

I wonder, when people write posts like this, if they ever think of the actual kids they’re talking about. The real, flesh and blood, kids. Just like theirs. But less fortunate. Is this the society we’ve become? Where we’d rather kids suffered, so that we “hard working folk” can feel like we’ve got a better piece of the pie?

for fucks sake.

LBFseBrom · 13/11/2024 21:02

It's for the good of all children, op, regardless of circumstances. I support it. There should be no questions asked and no need for resentment, surely.

suburburban · 13/11/2024 21:01

Lucy25 · 13/11/2024 20:39

You love working with needy families.
However they know how to play the system and are takers!

definitely in the wrong job @CurlyhairedAssassin with that outlook.
It’s not in your job description to judge get frustrated.

It's enough to make anyone frustrated

jellyfish2121 · 13/11/2024 21:00

Raisinsandweetabix · 13/11/2024 20:34

This was never about what kind of benefits she is on, or anyone else in a similar situation. If ANY child, or person, for that matter, needs extra help, then they should be given it. It was more of a social commentary about the fact we have many people who completely throw any responsibility out the window. At the same time as slagging teachers off for every little thing.

OP your family member with 6 kids will be forced to get a job once her youngest child is aged 5. It used to be for 16 hours now it's 25 hours a week job. Her Universal credit payment will be sanctioned by the job centre if she doesn't comply, they will make her attend regular appointments, it's not easy at all & they aren't nice about it! Good luck to her

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 13/11/2024 20:59

lasagnelle · 13/11/2024 16:37

Why do you think it's wrong? A lot of kids getting free school meals have parents that work!

Because I think it should be either everyone pays or nobody pays.

Kellph83 · 13/11/2024 20:57

Mrsttcno1 · 13/11/2024 16:36

Context needed I think. I can’t see how it’s a kick in the teeth for working parents if they are able to use this as well, there are also reasons that non working parents may need this care.

I think it’s because working parents have to pay for the childcare, and non working get it for free! This is the case in my sons school anyway

Andnowshesatoddler · 13/11/2024 20:52

If my few pence a day or whatever it adds up to as a contribution to this initiative gets children to school with a bit of food in their bellies on time then I'm happy to pay, if it's a problem I'll throw your few pence in too.
Children today are our work force of tomorrow.

CinnamonJellyBeans · 13/11/2024 20:52

Raisinsandweetabix · 13/11/2024 17:04

And here is the reason why. My (estranged) SIL. 6 kids. Very chaotic home life granted. Never ever worked a day in her life. Yet she has the time to do a weekly bonus ball syndicate online. Chasing people for money. Constantly shop for birthday/ Christmas presents. Drinks most weekends, holidays to benidorm. Slag's off the schools constantly on social media (happy to accept their childcare) and yet us MUGS are working our arses off, and have no free time.

I feel for you, but it sounds like her kids could do with some decent food and care from a decent adult role model, in orderly and peaceful surroundings.

Shinyandnew1 · 13/11/2024 20:51

On a previous thread, someone suggested the classrooms, but surely that's impractical with transporting the food, having the mess in the classroom and clearing it away and surely teachers use them to prepare before the children arrive??

Exactly-I’m in my classroom setting up from 7.30am as are most teachers in my school. having loads of children eating, talking and and playing in my room for over an hour whilst I’m doing this would just not be possible.

Many of my class resources and toys for my Y1 class are also MINE-acquired over the years from shops/my own children/donations and my class are trained up in how to look after our lovely things. I’ve seen the mess that breakfast club is left in-toys broken, mixed up, not looked after and I don’t want that to happen to my things!

EdithBond · 13/11/2024 20:51

CurlyhairedAssassin · 13/11/2024 20:20

Nope. I love working with our needy families. You can see the difference you make. But it's very frustrating when you see some of our parents working their socks off in low paid jobs not entitled to anything and then the next parent comes in who knows how to game the system, and is basically one of life's "takers", giving nothing back. The system is wrong. If I knew I didn't need those FSM holiday vouchers anymore, I would either tell the school to please spend the money on something for children who DID need it, or I would take the vouchers, buy the stuff myself and donate it back to the school or to a food bank.

To qualify for FSM you have to be claiming Universal Credit with a household income of less than £7,400 a year. How is that ‘gaming the system’?

Ottersmith · 13/11/2024 20:45

MurdoMunro · 13/11/2024 17:43

Fucking tedious isn’t it. What do they get from this? Wanking over women fighting? Are we some kind of foxy boxing service?

Ahaha

AmberAlert86 · 13/11/2024 20:43

lasagnelle · 13/11/2024 16:35

Why is it a "kick in the teeth" to working parents? Aren't the working parents getting it too?

Breakfast clubs take fees from working parents.
Not sure if all areas are same, but our school has limited amount of spaces in Breakfast/afternoon clubs.

EdithBond · 13/11/2024 20:42

Raisinsandweetabix · 13/11/2024 20:34

This was never about what kind of benefits she is on, or anyone else in a similar situation. If ANY child, or person, for that matter, needs extra help, then they should be given it. It was more of a social commentary about the fact we have many people who completely throw any responsibility out the window. At the same time as slagging teachers off for every little thing.

But how on earth does she afford foreign holidays?

Most people who don’t work and are benefit-capped have negative budgets, i.e. income doesn’t cover essential living costs, which means they’re heavily in debt. 5 million people are now on a negative budget, including 1.5 million children.

Your SIL will also be benefit sanctioned if she doesn’t work.

You claim she takes no responsibility but how does she afford foreign holidays? Does she have a partner?

Ghosttofu99 · 13/11/2024 20:42

But it’s the other way around. Wraparound care started with breakfast clubs because some families were so poor they were struggling to feed breakfast to their kids and expanded from there to what is known now as ‘wrap around care.’

Schools presumably can’t exclude kids of working parents so gradually it becomes the norm for working parents to send their kids there as additional child care.

When I was growing up, if you needed additional child care before or after school you payed for a child minder who gave breakfast/dinner and took the kids too/from school/

Really op the question should be: why do working families believe schools should provide this additional child care before any of the alternatives?

Although ideally employers would be a lot more flexible.

MurdoMunro · 13/11/2024 20:39

Raisinsandweetabix · 13/11/2024 20:34

This was never about what kind of benefits she is on, or anyone else in a similar situation. If ANY child, or person, for that matter, needs extra help, then they should be given it. It was more of a social commentary about the fact we have many people who completely throw any responsibility out the window. At the same time as slagging teachers off for every little thing.

OK then. You’re absolutely right. Bang on the money. Hands up guvner. Where’s your brother/in-law?

Lucy25 · 13/11/2024 20:39

You love working with needy families.
However they know how to play the system and are takers!

definitely in the wrong job @CurlyhairedAssassin with that outlook.
It’s not in your job description to judge get frustrated.

lasagnelle · 13/11/2024 20:36

notbelieved · 13/11/2024 20:12

But- it's making working parents lives even harder

How in God's name is your children's school offering wraparound care for all children making the lives of working parents even harder?

Yeah I don't follow this logic

Raisinsandweetabix · 13/11/2024 20:34

This was never about what kind of benefits she is on, or anyone else in a similar situation. If ANY child, or person, for that matter, needs extra help, then they should be given it. It was more of a social commentary about the fact we have many people who completely throw any responsibility out the window. At the same time as slagging teachers off for every little thing.

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