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Wrap around care for those who don't work??

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Raisinsandweetabix · 13/11/2024 16:34

Free breakfast clubs, afterschool clubs. Why would you need this if you are at home all day anyway? Another kick in the teeth to working parents. Obviously not including those in dire need of this care.

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TaylorSwish · 13/11/2024 17:36

I hope that children that need it get free wraparound care and some food. In fact I love it that they do.

Completelyjo · 13/11/2024 17:35

Raisinsandweetabix · 13/11/2024 17:20

I agree it's for the good of the child. But it's creating a generation of people who think they no longer have to parent their own children! How about encouraging these people (not just women) to get a job, to be pro active? Does the Job centre even exist anymore?

I thought you didn’t want a nanny state?

BlitheSpirits · 13/11/2024 17:35

mitogoshigg · 13/11/2024 17:00

Breakfast clubs are about nutrition not care principally so why a kick in the teeth?

After school care may be due to chaotic home life

Nope, they are about getting parents into the workplace!

Goscat · 13/11/2024 17:34

Personally I don't mind some getting it free and us paying, means tested = equal opportunity. The major problem we have in our area is that there are severe shortages of places at wraparound facilities and a lot of working parents literally can't send their kids because the places are being allocated to children who's parents don't work. This applies to nursery places too.

Heronwatcher · 13/11/2024 17:32

itsmabeline · 13/11/2024 17:29

Our kids are all better off if the kids of parents who are not cared for properly at home spend more time at school getting care than getting substandard care at home.

So it's for the good of society.

Yes agreed and especially with the advent of AI as a matter of economics, not just social ideals, we need to be turning out kids who can get jobs and compete with the brightest and best from China, Japan, India etc if any of us want a decent standard of living. It’s quite literally an investment not a freebie.

@Raisinsandweetabix you do realise that it’s these kids who will probably be paying your pension? Wouldn’t you like them to leave school with some decent GCSEs?

DinosaurMunch · 13/11/2024 17:30

Heronwatcher · 13/11/2024 17:23

Because there are lots of very low income deprived households where kids need support despite one, or even both, parents being off work.

Think of parents who are ill, disabled, addicts, mental heath issues, alcoholics, living in poverty, living in a refuge, being looked after by extended family, carers, in houses with domestic violence. Quite likely that one or more of them might not have a job but would we really deny the child a place at breakfast club if it significantly improves their educational outcome?

Yes, or even makes their life slightly better regardless of educational outcome

NewName24 · 13/11/2024 17:30

MurdoMunro · 13/11/2024 17:09

FFS OP. This is nothing to do whether wrap around care should be preserved for particular classes of patent. This is about you and your relationship with your SIL. Close this thread and start a new one and have the decency to be clear about what you are seeking comment about. Did you really think we’d all come on here and say ‘yeah, SAHMs are all useless free loading slags and don’t deserve to have their kids go to after school clubs’. I mean, bloody hell.

Well said.

If you want to just slag off your SiL @Raisinsandweetabix , then be upfront about it in your OP.

If you want to talk about details of a policy that has been released, then at least link to it, so people can have a look at what you are talking about.

Bunnycat101 · 13/11/2024 17:30

The reality is people who don’t need to probably won’t be using breakfast club because they have such early starts. I work full time but try and avoid breakfast club as I don’t like the very early starts and my children definitely don’t. Most chaotic homes aren’t getting the kids out and ready for a 7.30 start even if they might benefit from it.

DragonFly98 · 13/11/2024 17:30

DinosaurMunch · 13/11/2024 16:40

Not much - the threshold is 7k of earned income a year I think? That's only a few hours a week work by one parent

Due to transitional protection thousands of parents are earning more and will continue to due so until at the latest 2029 for those that are currently in year 7. Those younger will have FSM until they leave primary school.

itsmabeline · 13/11/2024 17:29

Our kids are all better off if the kids of parents who are not cared for properly at home spend more time at school getting care than getting substandard care at home.

So it's for the good of society.

Sprogonthetyne · 13/11/2024 17:27

Would it be better for those 6 children if they were spending the time in a (probably) overcrowded chaotic house, possibly late for school often or arriving unfed?

Would it be better for the kids who's parents don't brush their teeth, to just have life long, preventable dental issues?

Or is the harm to those children acceptable collateral damage in order to punish their parents

Heronwatcher · 13/11/2024 17:26

Raisinsandweetabix · 13/11/2024 17:20

I agree it's for the good of the child. But it's creating a generation of people who think they no longer have to parent their own children! How about encouraging these people (not just women) to get a job, to be pro active? Does the Job centre even exist anymore?

Maybe it might create a generation of well educated, decently nourished, happy and engaged kids with decent qualifications and the chance of a rewarding place in society? God knows it would be nice to try at least…

MurdoMunro · 13/11/2024 17:25

What is this thread about? It’s starts on a premise that the children of non-working parents should not get wrap around care. Then it changes to your SIL is a lazy cow. Then it was the state shouldn’t be developing children when the parents arent doing it well. Now I think we’re on to a more general benefits bashing. Where are we at, do you want us to go through these one at a time or wait for your next diversion?

anniegun · 13/11/2024 17:25

Do you always complain when other people get the same benefits that you do? Is it a kick in the teeth that wealthy people can use the NHS , or that people who live longer than you get more pensions?

Loub1987 · 13/11/2024 17:25

Sounds like a positive idea, as long as they have figured out the logistics before brining it in.

Edenmum2 · 13/11/2024 17:25

Raisinsandweetabix · 13/11/2024 17:20

I agree it's for the good of the child. But it's creating a generation of people who think they no longer have to parent their own children! How about encouraging these people (not just women) to get a job, to be pro active? Does the Job centre even exist anymore?

So you think after schools clubs discourage parents from getting jobs? Not sure of the logic on that one. Or are you saying kids with SAHP shouldn't be allowed to attend them? Can you see any issues with that opinion?

Maybe have a glass of wine and sort out your relationship with your SIL rather than bitching about her on Mumsnet.

Anonymousess · 13/11/2024 17:24

The thing is, if the jobless parents get the kids in a few hours of childcare, they can theoretically use that child free time to attend job interviews etc and become employed

GettingThemFromHereToThere · 13/11/2024 17:24

Raisinsandweetabix · 13/11/2024 17:07

The same as the fact schools and nursery's are expected to 'teach kids to brush their teeth' I'm sorry but who is actually inept enough that they can't brush their kids fucking teeth twice a day/ supervise. Stop pretending it's 'all ok' no, we have become a nanny state to the huge detriment to our services. Poor teachers, poor nursery workers. Boohoo I'm too 'poor' to afford a toothbrush yet I can buy a vape

I actually agree with you here.

It's not ok to not brush your kids teeth. Or give them shit and sugary food and drinks. It's not ok to not have a set bedtime and time to read and complete homework.

It's not ok to keep having kids when you can't parent sufficiently or take care of your own kids, whether that's financially or otherwise.

Parents need to take responsibility for their own children, so many adults just don't understand that. They grow up learning that everything should be done for you and that it's ok to not do anything with your life. If we all did that, there's be no schools, no healthcare, no infrastructure, clean water etc. They're happy to take but very reluctant to give.

Heronwatcher · 13/11/2024 17:23

Because there are lots of very low income deprived households where kids need support despite one, or even both, parents being off work.

Think of parents who are ill, disabled, addicts, mental heath issues, alcoholics, living in poverty, living in a refuge, being looked after by extended family, carers, in houses with domestic violence. Quite likely that one or more of them might not have a job but would we really deny the child a place at breakfast club if it significantly improves their educational outcome?

Teachaa · 13/11/2024 17:23

Shinyandnew1 · 13/11/2024 16:57

Another kick in the teeth to working parents.

Why exactly?

The problem is if too many use it it will need lots of staff and space

This is a huge problem. If every child (even half of them, to be honest) takes up a breakfast and after school place at our primary, we will simply not have the space to put them. We are also extremely concerned that the money offered will not be enough to pay members of support staff so nobody will want to do it. It can’t be another job for SLT or teachers to run it, so if it’s financially unviable, it just won’t happen.

It’ll end up like free dentistry and free nursery hours. You might be entitled to them on paper, but if you can’t find somewhere that offers it, it’s not happening.

Edited

Agreed.

A lot of our staff already do extracurricular clubs on a voluntary basis for an hour or so after school. However I doubt many would be signing up to do until 6pm even if it is paid on top of their usual workload. Staffing is a huge problem already in the day to day running of the school - we’ve got lots of agency teachers and teaching assistants. Staff turnover is high like most schools.

ObtuseMoose · 13/11/2024 17:22

Maybe duke this out with your SIL instead of tarring all non working mums with the same brush.

Hankunamatata · 13/11/2024 17:20

You just said in one of your posts why - chaotic homelives. Same as childcare for children 2+ to try and ensure better outcomes for deprived children

Raisinsandweetabix · 13/11/2024 17:20

I agree it's for the good of the child. But it's creating a generation of people who think they no longer have to parent their own children! How about encouraging these people (not just women) to get a job, to be pro active? Does the Job centre even exist anymore?

OP posts:
lasagnelle · 13/11/2024 17:19

Raisinsandweetabix · 13/11/2024 17:07

The same as the fact schools and nursery's are expected to 'teach kids to brush their teeth' I'm sorry but who is actually inept enough that they can't brush their kids fucking teeth twice a day/ supervise. Stop pretending it's 'all ok' no, we have become a nanny state to the huge detriment to our services. Poor teachers, poor nursery workers. Boohoo I'm too 'poor' to afford a toothbrush yet I can buy a vape

Are you having a bad day?

Lucy25 · 13/11/2024 17:19

MurdoMunro · 13/11/2024 17:09

FFS OP. This is nothing to do whether wrap around care should be preserved for particular classes of patent. This is about you and your relationship with your SIL. Close this thread and start a new one and have the decency to be clear about what you are seeking comment about. Did you really think we’d all come on here and say ‘yeah, SAHMs are all useless free loading slags and don’t deserve to have their kids go to after school clubs’. I mean, bloody hell.

Completely agree
From reading the comments, there are people who are only too happy to run with that narrative.

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