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Verbal warning?

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Doglover321 · 13/11/2024 15:55

I work for a childcare agency and cover at a wide range of different nurseries across the county. I had an awful bullying experience at this particular nursery recently (all the others have been lovely!), and decided to post about it ANONYMOUSLY on an Early Years Practitioners Facebook support group. I didn’t identify myself, the nursery, or anything else. I simply just said what happened.

It turns out that the manager of this nursery is a member of the group. She decided to call the agency and report my post. The agency have given me a verbal warning, as well as said I will no longer be placed at nurseries belonging to this chain - this is despite me having a really good experience at a different nursery belonging to this chain after this incident!!

Considering the post was anonymous and it might not have been me who made it (I told others about my bad day), do you think it’s a bit much from the agency?

They don’t seem to care about the bullying and have just said they can’t afford to lose work with this chain.

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sel2223 · 13/11/2024 16:06

I feel sympathy for you OP and understand your frustration but did you report this to the nursery or the agency at the time or did you just take to social media straight away?
I think the agencies hands are a little tied here and it's hard for them to take any action about the allegation of bullying if it's only being reported to them on the back of a complaint.
In hindsight, you probably didn't deal with it in the best way

Greyrocked · 13/11/2024 16:05

Doglover321 · 13/11/2024 15:58

Didn’t name the chain. The manager must’ve just figured it out from the story I told which summed up exactly what happened

For an anonymous post without naming them they have massively overreacted. I wonder if whistleblowing legislation protects you. Try ringing ACAS.

TH1NG1E · 13/11/2024 16:05

I think you need to just accept it. I wouldn't write anything on Facebook about a workplace, I'd follow the correct channels instead.

BobbyBiscuits · 13/11/2024 16:05

I'd deny it was me. Or they could prove it was me saying it I would claim it was about a different place.
They've no proof you slagged them off as you didn't use identifying factors. The owner reckoned she identified you, but so what? Just say you're mistaken.

lasagnelle · 13/11/2024 16:05

Doglover321 · 13/11/2024 15:59

The HR manager of the agency has made the choice

They don't want to risk losing their client. Seems fair enough

lasagnelle · 13/11/2024 16:04

Doglover321 · 13/11/2024 16:01

I have since worked at a different nursery belonging to this chain and had a very pleasant experience

Ah shame. I think the company is within in their rights to refuse to have you if you had a negative opinion of one of their branches

Doglover321 · 13/11/2024 16:01

lasagnelle · 13/11/2024 16:01

They can choose not to take you on for whatever reason and tbh would you want to work there if your review is true anyway??

I have since worked at a different nursery belonging to this chain and had a very pleasant experience

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lasagnelle · 13/11/2024 16:01

They can choose not to take you on for whatever reason and tbh would you want to work there if your review is true anyway??

Doglover321 · 13/11/2024 16:00

Cosycover · 13/11/2024 15:59

Can you not say it wasn't you?

I have tried

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Doglover321 · 13/11/2024 15:59

SometimesCalmPerson · 13/11/2024 15:58

It’s an agency and presumably their clients can choose not to have you back for any reason. It’s not the agency that made the choice and they have done nothing wrong.

The HR manager of the agency has made the choice

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Cosycover · 13/11/2024 15:59

Can you not say it wasn't you?

purpleme12 · 13/11/2024 15:59

Personally I think it's unfair what happened to you yes

Doglover321 · 13/11/2024 15:58

Greyrocked · 13/11/2024 15:57

Can I clarify... You posted anonymously? Did you name the chain?

Didn’t name the chain. The manager must’ve just figured it out from the story I told which summed up exactly what happened

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SometimesCalmPerson · 13/11/2024 15:58

It’s an agency and presumably their clients can choose not to have you back for any reason. It’s not the agency that made the choice and they have done nothing wrong.

Greyrocked · 13/11/2024 15:57

Can I clarify... You posted anonymously? Did you name the chain?

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