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Is this lovebombing?

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Namechangeforme88 · 13/11/2024 15:03

So I've heard the term before, but I'm not sure if it fits this situation or if I'm just cold hearted.

Met a guy at work about 6 weeks ago, swapped numbers, had great chats, he's funny and kind and we seemed to have stuff in common. Arranged a date last week. Went well, had a small kiss at the end.

But since then I feel like he's been laying it on super thick. Some things he's said -

I'd give anything in the world to be there with you - after he asked for a pic and I sent him one of me in pj's going to bed

After a mildly flirty message he said- when we do finally do it, its going to be very emotional.

Would love to give you a shoulder massage, but it would have to be from the front so I could look into your eyes - when I said my shoulders were hurting

I can't wait to hold you in my arms - just woke up to this message

You're perfect in every way, inside and out - again out of nowhere, when he doesn't really know me

You've been quiet lately, everything ok? - when I didn't text back because I was in a meeting

I feel like I'm losing you- haven't replied to that one at all

I've been used to quite stand off ish men in the past and I've not dated in a very long time, so not sure if I'm out of touch but this just seems way over the top.

OP posts:
Wishimaywishimight · 13/11/2024 15:06

I haven't dated in years but these messages would make me vomit! Way over the top given you are virtual strangers. If you are still interested I would ask him to dial it back as he is coming on way too strong.

GettingStuffed · 13/11/2024 15:05

Most definitely.

TheLever · 13/11/2024 15:04

You aren’t imagining it. Him asking if he is losing you etc is him being insecure. Throw this one back, honestly he will be a nightmare. Very clingy.