Honest opinions ... is a UK 14/16 seen as unattractive for dating as a 50 year old?

My friend in her 50s is your size but shorter and is currently systematically working through dates at a pace of two per week until she finds one she likes. She has been out with men aged from 38 to 60 and every one so far has found her attractive.

Be old but be thin. Be brunette but be thin. - I was told that French women say this (or something like it) ... whoever thought it up I'd say it's mostly true when it comes to how men like women. Fat women are the equivalent to short men - undesirable.

It's a bit depressing men want to go that much younger.
I'm sure you'll find someone that doesn't fit that model, but bear in mind 99% of men your age won't be in pristine physical shape either, and when it gets to the potential for sex they absolutely won't care about you having a bit of a belly. Good luck and have fun.

yes they want a relationship, someone to do something with, spend time with, go to things together with, but really someone to give them regular sex, Is way up there.

Any man who considers sex something that a woman 'gives' to a man sounds deeply unattractive.

Exactly

50 something men may 'want' hot young women half their age, but the average bloke in this demographic has about as good a chance of landing one as I do of shagging Chris Hemsworth.

I also don't think all men want much younger women, or at least, they're realistic enough to know it's not going to happen.The problem is, attractive men in their 50s are like hens' teeth, and they get snapped up soon. What the OP is dealing with is the dregs.

@Jellylegs:

YY, image a man with self awareness making his dating profile and asking MN:

"Do women find a 50 year old balding male with a belly attractive? I have a nice face if you ignore the beige teeth and the halitosis, but my gut now makes my cock look smaller and I can't get it up 50% of the time anyway."

@TwistedWonder I bet you did! OLD is full of these creatures thinking they are a catch! Lol! Id rather be single! Far more attractive!

I swear there was profile I saw on bumble of a man aged 65 who looked every minute of his age and dressed like 1970’s man at BHS He was balding, pasty and saggy.

His profile said he was only interested in matching with women under 50, no bigger than a size 10 and at least an 8 looks wise. And they must be available for no strings fun on demand so preferably no baggage like kids.

I actually laughed at the delusion - wonder how well he’s doing? 🤦‍♀️

Most older men want a size 8 blonde at least 15 years younger. They don't wish to date their age. Men are often fat, ugly and bald, but still want the unobtainable. Unfortunately, you have to lower your standards - a lot . This is why I am single BTW, I have done OLD for a few years and its tough. I am now happy alone, as I don't want to meet a divorcee who want to live free in my house.

Older men can only get younger women if they are either still very fit / good looking or financially secure and generous. Any average man with a pot belly have absolutely minimal success rate.
To be honest, age is only important to certain degree- if you look good you have lots of options from all age groups.

My friend in her 60s was snapped up by a hot guy of similar age within a few weeks of dating. I’d say she’s a size 14/16 and very sexy with it. Not fake or conventionally attractive but confident in her body.

Dont lose any sleep over the men looking for young things. They sound utterly gross and it’s good to dodge that bullet upfront! None of the good men I know would be looking for someone much younger.

Good luck out there. Hope you find someone fun and gorgeous!

Most men will want someone to clean and tidy up after them.
Cook.for them. Basically look after them.

They need an online maid site.

Then ones who want younger women. 🤢
Think alot of themselves.
Some may be ok looking but really rate themselves.
Usually not much money so will either want to fleece older women for money or just shag younger ones. Pretending they are rich.
The genuine wealthy older ones don't need OLD.

Urgh, it's definitely that most older men wanting to date are single for a reason, and they're dickheads. I'm 44, and look younger than I am, a lot of the men who 'like' me are 55-60. The decent 50ish men you might want are probably still married, and any who become single are probably snapped up pretty quickly irl. It's a numbers game, you have to date, date, date and statically you'll meet someone you gel with, but it is soul destroying I'm afraid

I had similar.

First guy more or less asked if I had my own place/lived alone. This was quite soon in the chat. I said "that's a pretty weird question to ask a complete stranger on a dating site, why do you ask" and he answered with some BS sheepish thing like "aw it's just handy
.. em ...".

He either lived with his parents or he lived with a partner. I'm thinking the latter.

Fwiw when I tried old in my mid 30s, I had encounters with men who didn't seem single, men seeking sex, illiterate men, odd/bonkers/nasty men, and of the three I met; one (although he had a super job) seemed to have alcohol problems, one had very dated photos looking a lot younger than he was (and when I met him he also had half his face covered in milia, which he'd clearly not thought to have treated ..... and the last one was not interested in me (I'd found him boring, bland, and not very intelligent anyway). There was a seemingly nice guy that I didn't meet for various reasons.

I messaged one guy who had in his profile there he "wasn't really interested in dating anyone older than him). I was a year younger than him and he didn't respond (though of course she may not have been the main reason).

But it was slim pickings!!!! In your 30s too.
Next to no pickings in fact.

I didn't understand old then though, I think you have to be rather scientific and rational about it. People who are decent are on and off fast. That's why you're encountering the dross all the time.

Also old is not like meeting irl.
It's best to try to do that as much h as possible.

One of first men I chatted to asked me if I owned my own home and then asked if he could come over later as he lives with his sister and her husband so there’s no privacy

There are some men in their 40s and 50s who are only interested in and attracted to younger women.

There are far more men in their 40s and 50s who are in relationships and looking for relationships with women in their 40s and 50s.

The idea that all men of a certain age are only interested in younger women is nonsense, based on skewed surveys of unrepresentative groups of men.

The short answer to your question is some men won’t like it, some will like it, and some will be indifferent. They don’t all think the same.

Many men like a bit of cushion for the pushing. Many fatties exist at under 50 so don't feel bad, you'll clean up.

Perverts is what I call them.

A few of my aunts ended up single in their late forties/ early fifties, due to their long term relationships breaking up, and they did OLD. They had no trouble meeting men, had lots of dates and short term relationships but they all went off it after a while and none of the relationships lasted. Depressingly, they said it was because the men all turned out to mainly want someone to cook for them/ clean up after them and basically pick up where their previous wives had left off. One of my aunts was very taken with one man she was seeing and even went to live with him after a while but she dumped him and came back shortly afterwards because she reckoned what he had been primarily interested in all along in was getting someone to help him run his b&b for nothing(!)
I know it’s certainly not the way it is for everybody but it’s just so depressing and demoralising to think of it. These are women who literally gave their whole lives to looking after other people; their siblings, their own kids, their aunts and mother when they got older.Their husbands treated them like crap…I would really, really like to believe we live in a world where someone nice and decent could come along and sweep them off their feet and treat them well but, no.
I do know a few women who have met their partners at that age (the men are all older) and they are happy but they have all been adamant that they don’t want to live together, but keep their own place, separate finances etc and stuck to their boundaries. Their partners are all very eager to do these things, get married etc. When I was younger I couldn’t understand why if they were happy, they were so insistent on maintaining their independence but now I’m older I can see how wise they were to stick to their guns.

If it is age; one would imagine that the reasonable, realistic men who are prepared to date women close to their age, get snapped up and therefore get off old quite quickly.

You are then left with a much higher proportion of men who want to date significantly younger etc and are on there much longer. You are therefore more likely to encounter them (or not encounter them as the case may be).

Of course the majority of men perpetually on old are unrealistic, deluded (and also sleazy/sex seeking etc.); the ones not like that would only be on there briefly and then probably be off if permanently (unless their relationship breaks down at some point).

Maybe if women approached old with that in mind, they'd realise it is a sifting gravel for gold nuggets/previous stones exercise; there is going to be a huge proportion of "gravel", and not take the gravel they encounter so to heart/personally.

Yup my experience too so I don't bother now. Basically men over 70 are looking for a carer and/or cleaner/housekeeper so I wouldn't be interested anyway.

I had same. I’m 58 and tried OLD for first time recently. I got numerous messages from men in their 70’s right up to a 79 year old who got quite abusive when I gave him a polite no.

Im a 12/14 and all my photos are unfiltered, very recent and I included a couple of full length ones. All I seemed to attract other than the old guys was men look for ‘something casual’, sex pests or ones who were borderline illiterate.

The handful of dates I had included a couple who were older and shorter than they claimed and another who pushed me against the car park wall and tried to shove his tongue down my throat and grope me in broad daylight.

I lasted a painful 3 months before giving up completely and deciding single is far preferable.

I didn't have any problems getting people to meet on OLD when I was that weight and age. I was honest about my size in my profile.

And women. Aforementioned male friend said so so many pictures are altered beyond belief. To the extent the woman isn’t recognisable when they meet in real life, so heavily filtered, or pics of them 3 decades ago. And several stone earlier. And many think if you chat to them and go for a first date coffee/walk, you’re in a relationship, and if you don’t want to see them again, you’ve led them on and done a really bad thing. Because you chatted to them for two weeks before.

he also gets offered sex a lot. Like the woman makes the first move. Like if there is shagging it seals the deal and you’re official and owed a relationship.

honestly I think it’s just crazy out there. Both sides. Men and women behaving badly, for different reasons, but still badly.