Honest opinions ... is a UK 14/16 seen as unattractive for dating as a 50 year old?

I think most men are more concerned about age than size. Ime,a 50 year old man would rather date a 25 year woman who's a size 14/16 than a 50 year old woman who's a size 8/10. So many men are obsessed with youth when it comes to women.

It’s your age

a colleague who is in his early 50’s and he likes women of a similar age. The women he has met online are way out of his league he knows that he has the advantage and so many are disappointed that few men that are a similar age are interested in them (his words)

I'm significantly bigger than you and 50, and didn't have issues finding someone I connected with on the apps. He even has hair and is taller than me 🤣

Dating at 50+ is all about confidence, energy and personality. Noone at that age is an oil painting but if the vibe is right you'll fancy each other anyway.. If you're not getting second dates it's most likely your personality doesn't click with them, not that your're a few pounds over a size 12.

Everyone I know who's pulled a good partner in later life has been living their best life for themselves and found love when they weren't expecting it. Usually via work or hobbies etc, where there will be people with a similar energy and mindset already. Not by trawling through randos on OLD.

And if they are older and retired, they want a housemaid who is also available to them at all times, rather than an equal partner. Having a partner with a full time professional career is far too intimidating for fragile egos!

As that horrific case in the press recently demonstrates.

A woman saying to the multiple rape victim that she's so sorry, it's her fault her husband was one of the rapists; because she wasn't having sex with him enough/at all.

Then there are the attitudes to infidelity, but seemingly only male infidelity (?)

Strange as my friend late 40s, slim, mixed race and definitely not blonde, exotic looking seems to have no trouble at all. She is pretty smart though, a Dr and definitely guys seem enamoured with that.

As a man in his 50s this makes depressing reading. As far as the original question. No it's fine looking at most of my mates they,if measured in a similar way would be much more like a 20.
're the younger women...I don't get what a 35 year old would see in me if I was on the dating scene and what would we talk about? All my cultural references are from the 70s and 80s.

I’m five foot seven and a size 14 -16 with a bmi of 30. I wear size 14 skinny jeans from primark, size 16 from only/or. We are all different. I need to lose 3.5 stone, at which point I will be a small ten. We are all different.

I agree. I'm 5 ft 7 and very much a size 16. I only need to lose a few kilos to get into the healthy weight category. If I lost 2.5 stone I would be skeletal.

I’ve done loads of dating as a size 14-16 (late 40’s) and have honestly not found it to be the case at all. All the men I’ve dated have all been a lot less bothered about my weight than I am! I really believe that most men value confidence and enthusiasm over a small bum/tum

I agree with this. I'm size 16 and 5'7". My BMI is 26. If I lost one stone I would be comfortably in the healthy range. I don't think it's your weight that's the issue.

I’ve seen quite a few post about being with men a decade or more older so I suppose it just depends what threads we’re reading. I’ve seen far more on here than in my RL. I only actually known one age gap couple in my friendship group - she’s 38 he’s 60 and the age difference does really show.

@5128gap I haven't noticed a lot of younger woman with or wanting to be either older men on the relationships boards. Not at all.

Op, I'd stay away from OLD. It's treated like a catalogue.

See, this is exactly what I was looking for in a man 😂😂

Are there? Ive seen one or two where women are in two minds about whether to have relationships with older men. Never seen anyone post they actually specifically want one. I can only assume that not many decide in favour either given that only 1% of married men have a wife 20 years younger.

I don’t know if it’s an age thing or more general (or I just attract em) but there are a lot of men my age (50’s) are quite cringey. There’s a lot who start sexual talk after a few messages or even as a first message. And it makes me shudder when they put on their profile they’re very highly sexed or extremely tactile or they love kissing and cuddling. To me they’re basically saying I’m gonna grope you non stop like a horny teenager 🤣

I think you are on to something here. More than once have men been concerned when realising I have a more valuable home than them and a good job. If you don’t need them they lose their masculinity apparently.

Though looking at the Relationships board here there seem to be a lot of younger women who are with or who want older men.

when a woman of 50 peers into her mirror she sees her true self
when a man of 50 glances in a mirror, he sees a young Adonis

OP, confidence is attractive, especially sexual, flirtatious confidence
a smiley lady size 14/16 is always going to be more appealing than
a po faced size 8 with no zest.

I tried OLD briefly. Didn't go on any dates. But like others, it was only men at least 10-15 years older who showed an interest, and even then not many. The men my own age, not even a sniff. All my photos were from the previous year, unfiltered. I was a size 6-8 age 50. I have a professional career, my own house, I am very fit, I may not be the most beautiful, but I am far from unattractive. I like to think I scared them away with my brilliance. Sadly, I fear it is more likely that I was of no interest to the older men as I wouldn't have been available to pander to them, and too old for the men I would have been interested in.

It seems to be random. Of my late 40's friends who are on the OLD scene, the one who gets least attention is the one who is size 14 and five foot 10. I have friends who are bigger and smaller dress sizes who are average height and they get more attention. Since all three of them are conventionally attractive, the height seems to be the issue.

@IcedPurple well I would wager a bet that 90% of the world agree with this. Fat = unhealthy and health even more than youth is equated with beauty and attractiveness. I should add that i don't think size 16 at 5 7 is that big but it all depends on where you carry it.

Then you know men who are either very high earners or very big fibbers.

France is a very sexist country so who really cares what French women say?