Honest opinions ... is a UK 14/16 seen as unattractive for dating as a 50 year old?

I don't think anyone would choose to date someone who is lacking severely in confidence sexually, or has very low self esteem about their looks. It really is about confidence I'd imagine.
But most 50 yo men probably want a women of similar age but only if she looks like Amanda Holden. Otherwise they want someone in their 30s. Not that they could get that most of the time...

I’m sorry that’s hugely unlikely. A size six on a woman above average height is likely to be significantly underweight. And I find it creepy you know her dress size, weight and bmi.

They are. She isn’t… not even close.

While I am obviously concerned for her general health, I am not concerned about her weight. Her BMI is within the healthy range.

At 61 this is why I don't bother! I got the same.

Bloody men who all think they can date 20/30 years younger than themselves. Eeeew.

If your stats are right, she is likely to be significantly underweight. And as we age, that is hugely promblematic. I’d say if you were married and love her, you should be more concerned about her health than if you fancy her.

There's quite some difference between 29 & 41 compared with 21 & 49. 12 years and 18. Plenty of larger age gaps do work, though.

There's a huge range of men in their 40s and 50s. Some have never done a day's exercise since they were at school, others have taken more effort. Some have ED, others are up for it frequently with no issues. Women are similarly variable. And that's just physical - intelligence, values, humour, and everything that goes into attraction also adds up. It makes it difficult. But you only need to find the one (needle in a haystack as it might be.)

Honestly, especially to men on here, is that size and body type unattractive to you on a woman who is 50

I am married to a 50 year old woman. She is slightly above average height and a size 6. Would I find a 50 year old woman that is a size 14/16 attractive? Possibly.

Attractive enough to date? Probably not. I have always preferred slimmer women and that hasn’t changed with age.

My daughter is in her early twenties and frankly the thought of her being with a man in his 40s nauseates her and me tbh

We got together when she was in her 20s and I was in my 40s (just). I guess she must have a strong stomach.

Yes it's often not a huge gap, like a man of 50 and a woman of 25. So saying a woman in her 20's wont be interested in someone 20yrs older is missing the point.

But there's no real reason why a woman of 45 would not potentially be interested in a man of 55. Especially if he's got a lot going for him. So when you get Mr 55 yr old on OLD, in decent shape, good job etc he's going to have options. He could set his age range from 40-50 and get dates, meet a partner etc. He's not going to be thinking oh I must date someone exactly the same age as me!

The 55 yr olds who have nothing going for them, well no, they won't get dates with younger women. But no woman of their age is going to want to date them either!

I did OLD between 45 and 48. I was slim then, well put together, could have passed for younger. (It all went to pot in menopause but I'd given up dating by then!). I was looking at 45-50 age group. It was absolutely dire! Hence why I stopped at 48. I decided if I didn't meet someone naturally, then so be it. It's not impossible to meet someone via OLD in your 50's, but it's very hard if you have any kind of standards and don't want to go higher than your own age.

A male friend with whom I have discussed OLD - he's currently 59 (but fit, slim and healthy.) His dating age range was set 20-60. Mine was +/- 5 years of my own age (currently 52.) He wanted a relationship whereas i was more open to seeing how things went. He didn't really want a 20yo, but was much more open to younger women than I was to younger men. His ex-wife was 17 years younger than him. I'm not sure of the age of the woman he's now seeing, but I think she's mid-40s.

I think that's fairly typical of men on OLD. They're fine with women their own age, as long as they're fairly fit, but otherwise, as long as they're adult, that's all good.

This is a significant problem for young women. There was a post yesterday from a 20s woman who is receiving unwanted attention from numerous ex colleagues, all middle aged men. Whenever I see posts on here proclaiming that men in their 50s 'will' be dating young women, I always think, spare a thought for young women before perpetuating this myth, that really has no basis outside of older men's fantasies. They may want young women, it's rarely reciprocated, and every time we assert they 'will' be dating them, it adds to a culture where aging chancers will keep trying their luck and bothering young women.

Wow. Big fat faces or haggard? What a way to describe each other. Surely we shouldn't be even debating what type of 50 year old woman is more acceptable to 50 year old men, when it's pretty much guaranteed that fat or thin the majority of us have more to offer than the majority of them. Which is the crux of the problem for women like the OP. Not finding one who will find her attractive, finding a tolerable one from amongst those who do.

No it doesn’t, it just makes you look like you’ve a fat face.

Holding fat in your face smooths out wrinkles and can keep you looking younger for longer.

As an early 50s man (who’s with a two years older partner I met online at 38), all I can add is that the thought of dating someone in their 30s or younger is not appealing at all.

As a PP pointed out earlier, none of my cultural references would mean anything to them, they might still want DC (I’m definitely done with that - who’d want to be changing nappies at my age?!) and I’d want to enjoy my not-that-distant-now retirement with someone who wasn’t still, (rightly so for them), grafting and building their career.

My tastes run more to a sense of humour that gels with mine, broad cultural tastes and someone wanting to travel a bit. Size 18+ is probably a bit bigger than I’d prefer, if I was being completely honest, but I’ve dated women of that size when I was younger and personality counts for more.

Huh? Why would she look haggard and older if she was slim. What a silly thought.

Not in every situation, I was 24 when i met my 41 year old now husband. I didn't have 'daddy issues' whatever those are.

I'm 52, size 18 at 5'4", don't dye my hair, don't wear makeup. Met a couple of lovely men in their 50s on OLD. (Also a lot of arseholes and some nice guys who I just didn't have a spark with.)

You don't need every man to be looking for you, just one you click with.

But if you were a size 10 now you would look haggard and a lot older

I agree.
I've dated some lovely men my age / within a couple of years older & younger.

All nice, decent guys, all dating within their age range.

Not found one for me, and it took too much time and energy sifting through online to get the odd decent date, I'm not one for OLD but the idea that's it's your age or weight holding you back isn't my first thought, more that it's a numbers game and also a lottery. You can be lucky and find someone fairly quickly or it can be a relentless task (I know a Londoner in her 30s who dated for 10 years a couple a week until finding her very handsome same age architect (so to be) DH on there) so it can happen

I think the most frequent lie I've come across is height, and I'd go to 5ft6 being only 5ft4, but shorter or the same height is obvious on meeting and its so irritating. While your busy castigating your own figure, haven't you found that most single men around 50 are overweight, bald or both. I found the few slimmer ones were mainly smokers or busy taking profile shots of themselves in the gym - the sort that would treat a woman like a sex object.
Chances are the over 50 men you are dating are equally packing a bit of weight and then some, so who gives an F what they think.
If you want a slim fella yourself, you probably do need to be reasonably slim too, but that's kinda fair.

Honestly when I was in my 20’s the thought of a man my dads age trying to pull me would have absolutely repulsed me 🤢 I would have thought they were a sad sleazy old creep

Are these men such a catch that they're going to have much younger women drooling over them?

I doubt it.

Men may be 'interested' in dating hot young women but those women will not be interested in them. Not much of an 'advantage'.

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