Honest opinions ... is a UK 14/16 seen as unattractive for dating as a 50 year old?

Good guy. And very true.
I know a very large lady at work. She's got bags of personality, is warm and friendly. Loads of guys want her company. Not short of male attention.
Men lust after babes.
But they want nice people they get on with and who are kind and reliable and share interests with. They just human beings like rest of us.
That's my take on it anyway.

I wonder if the wife is from Thailand as women tend to be petite in Asia

”The wife” is from Yorkshire.

Why did your size 6 wife who's much younger than you encourage you to post on the thread of a woman who is 50, a size 14, having a hard time on old, and wondering if it's her size or age etc

She didn’t encourage me. My reason for posting has already been covered.

Your wife knew you were going to say you prefer "slimmer" women (size 6 is not slimmer btw) and she presumably knew you'd say you wouldn't go out with her if you were single. She knows this because she's a size 6 and your type, and I'm sure you've discussed your preferences with her.

So now I'm wondering what the motivation of both you and your wife was when posting on a woman's thread only to say "I might possibly be attracted but I would not date you. I prefer slimmer women, my wife is a size 6".

My wife didn’t post, I did. It wasn’t a joint effort. My motivation was to answer the OP’s question. Honestly, as requested. The assumption being that the OP wouldn’t have asked for honest opinions if she didn’t think they would be helpful.

Also did neither of you think the fact that you're a couple with a big age gap & the female half is 4 sizes below average for the UK; might be irrelevant or unhelpful for a woman whio is average size for the UK, and who'd like to date around her age?

Again, it wasn’t a joint effort. My wife’s size is relevant as it explains why I responded to to the OP as I did. The OP didn’t state that she wanted to date around her own age.

Lemon, your physical attributes are of secondary importance, what matters is how you are with people. For me, a male, I have no 'type' but prize the abilty to get on well with someone. For me this is more important than physical attributes. Sexual attraction is a bonus, but compatibility is much much more durable quality. A great looking partner is of little use if you are not so great together the rest of the time. Try not to put yourself down and assume you are not attractive to men; look around you and see that women like you are more than acceptable to me. Confidence, ma'am!

God loves a trier but it’s bloody annoying for women.

Though in some apps they still message you even if they’re way above your upper age limit.
I had my age criteria set as 50-63 but I’ve had messages from men in the 20’s and30’s right up to nearly 80.

OP - 60% of British men are overweight or obese so they’re not likely to be in a position to criticise.

Equally when middle aged men start online dating they soon realise that many if not most young women have upper age limits set so they don’t get hit on by sad middle-aged men.

Due to vanity sizing U.K. size 6 now is the old size 10 so no, there are loads.

To be fair it does say find attractive rather than would like to be in a serious relationship with - 2 very different things

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I wonder if the wife is from Thailand as women tend to be petite in Asia.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. Your age, your size, your height do not make you unattractive as a human being. People are attracted to different things and online dating is a shallow pool. To meet more like minded people, join a running group or a social group that like doing the things you do- that’s where you’ll meet someone who sees you as your truly beautiful self. Do not even for a moment think that because you’re 5ft 7 that men are put off or because you’re 50 or have meno belly. I’m actually really disappointed in those telling you it’s because you’re 50 or too tall. It’s not, your swimming in shallow water, dive into the sea, there are proper grown ups there.

My son once went out with a girl he met online. Se was attractive, slim & well dressed. He drove miles one weekend to meet her. When she opened the door & said her name he was absolutely shocked as she was approx five sizes bigger than she appeared on her profile. However he did go out with her for a short while. She was a big girl but had a lovely personality. The only problem was she drank way too much. He ended it but was quite upset about it all. A girl doesn't need to be like a model to be attractive to a man. Beauty is only skin deep remember.

It's pointless to ask about the reasons behind your outcomes when using the apps. Similarly, there's no benefit in inquiring about the opinions of 50-year-old men. DP falls into that age group, and his ex was a 28-year-old size 8 Eastern European. Our age difference is 9 years; we are both lean, athletic, and trim (I'm 5 11 size 8-10 UK).. Neither of us would date someone who doesn't appreciate those qualities.
It's interesting how, in our nation and in the States, being overweight or obese has become normalized. However, there's someone for everyone, regardless of their preferences.

Yes.

Why do you feel the need for another man?
Just enjoy ur life. Have friends-male and female.
Maybe if something comes from that then great but dating....ewwww I honestly wouldn't ever do it again.

At your height what's the issue, really not big at all? Are the men on the dating app perfect 6 pack?

If he's so unageist in attitude then he can date 79 yr old and older women, eh

Why did your size 6 wife who's much younger than you encourage you to post on the thread of a woman who is 50, a size 14, having a hard time on old, and wondering if it's her size or age etc?

Your wife knew you were going to say you prefer "slimmer" women (size 6 is not slimmer btw) and she presumably knew you'd say you wouldn't go out with her if you were single. She knows this because she's a size 6 and your type, and I'm sure you've discussed your preferences with her.

So now I'm wondering what the motivation of both you and your wife was when posting on a woman's thread only to say "I might possibly be attracted but I would not date you. I prefer slimmer women, my wife is a size 6".

Was it to help her? How do you feel this would help her?

Also did neither of you think the fact that you're a couple with a big age gap & the female half is 4 sizes below average for the UK; might be irrelevant or unhelpful for a woman whio is average size for the UK, and who'd like to date around her age?

I’m a size 16 and it certainly wasn’t an issue for men in their 20s when I was dating. I mean I’m sure it is for some, just like it’s an issue that I’m tall or better educated than them or very independent. But it certainly wasn’t an issue for the decent ones. Unfortunately, I suspect there are a lot of rejects in the pool of men in their 50s dating.

And 20 was the lowest age possible on the graph….

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I know some men who love their chickens way more than humans 🤣🤣🤣

Sad reflection of our overtly image conscious society . What saddens me more is that of the older man seeking a much younger woman , why is it that these men have an inflated sense of their physical appearance . Don’t let those ,hopefully rare, men put you off .

I wonder what the men in their 50s looking for women in their 30s end up doing when they don't get one? Do you think they just stay on there forever and ever getting older and older while their profile picture never changes like reverse Dorian Greys?

I’m 58 and oldest man who messaged me was 79 (and looked every minute of his age) and he got quite abusive and aggressive when I gave him a polite no thank you.

Told me to lose the ageist attitude otherwise I deserve to be single forever 🤣

Men in their 50's are looking for women in their 30's IMO. I only got messages off 65-70 year olds and I'm 55!

I can't be bothered with OLD now, I'll stay single 🥺