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Honest opinions ... is a UK 14/16 seen as unattractive for dating as a 50 year old?

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lemonepisode1 · 13/11/2024 13:13

I'm online dating for a while. My face is decent and I'd consider myself relatively attractive in the looks stakes but it is my body that men seem to dislike.
As above , I'm that size, 5'7', proportioned except for a wide , flabby meno belly.Im 2.5stone overweight on the scales.
I weight train and walk and run over the week.. so I exercise every day. Look after my appearance/ clothes/ grooming etc but I really believe it's my body that turns them off .
Honestly, especially to men on here, is that size and body type unattractive to you on a woman who is 50?
What are your experiences and more so, what do you find attractive out of interest ?
Thanks.
Lemon

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TTPDTS · 13/11/2024 13:54

Children 🤦🏻‍♀️

Not chickens! Although that may be a dealbreaker 😂

CocoDC · 13/11/2024 13:54

lemonepisode1 · 13/11/2024 13:13

I'm online dating for a while. My face is decent and I'd consider myself relatively attractive in the looks stakes but it is my body that men seem to dislike.
As above , I'm that size, 5'7', proportioned except for a wide , flabby meno belly.Im 2.5stone overweight on the scales.
I weight train and walk and run over the week.. so I exercise every day. Look after my appearance/ clothes/ grooming etc but I really believe it's my body that turns them off .
Honestly, especially to men on here, is that size and body type unattractive to you on a woman who is 50?
What are your experiences and more so, what do you find attractive out of interest ?
Thanks.
Lemon

How many men have you dated? OD isn’t like real life dating you need to date many, many frogs before you can hope to kiss a prince. I wouldn’t let the opinions of a couple of men put you off. Just keep dating. Back when I used to date online I’d book myself 3-4 dates a week so I was forced to keep the first one short and sweet - usually just coffees for 15-20mins. I found that helped me filter men much easier

TTPDTS · 13/11/2024 13:54

I can't imagine just being a certain size causes it - personality, job, location, if you have chickens or not will have an impact!

Whatwasthiscakeineedtoknow · 13/11/2024 13:47

Absolutely. No size 14/16 woman has ever had a date ever.

Theremedy · 13/11/2024 13:46

Theremedy · 13/11/2024 13:44

That’s so depressing and gross.

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But I will add, the data comes from a subset of men who happen to be single. They could be single because they have unrealistic expectations of a female partner’s appearance.

There could be decent guys who like their own age, but they are more likely to not be single in their 40s and 50s because they are nice men.

Theremedy · 13/11/2024 13:44

MaggieBsBoat · 13/11/2024 13:41

Watch this and all will become clear.
(I am a gorgeous 50 something too)

https://www.instagram.com/reel/C9oRbvMIPEE/?igsh=MXRicjMxOHhmbXN1

That’s so depressing and gross.

MaggieBsBoat · 13/11/2024 13:41

Watch this and all will become clear.
(I am a gorgeous 50 something too)

https://www.instagram.com/reel/C9oRbvMIPEE/?igsh=MXRicjMxOHhmbXN1

Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/reel/C9oRbvMIPEE?igsh=MXRicjMxOHhmbXN1

Ratherubbish · 13/11/2024 13:40

I think I have to sadly agree that age is more likely to be the issue.

Orangelight23 · 13/11/2024 13:37

Doubt it, more like men in that age group are looking for younger unfortunately.