Husband won’t replace his wedding ring

Yes it is a symbol of your commitment to your husband/wife, and if someone refuses to wear it, it's very telling IMO.

It doesn’t tell you anything about commitment. My father was committed to my mother for 50 years. He never wore a wedding ring. My FIL was committed to my MIL for 60 years. He never wore a wedding ring. My husband has shown all the signs of being committed to me for the last twenty years. He stopped wearing his ring a month after our wedding.

I could go on. I have countless examples of committed relationships where the man didn’t wear a wedding ring.

I wouldn't make an issue out of it. I've been married for 14 years and neither myself or my husband wear rings.

You say you trust him but ur annoyed because he won't wear a ring. I think you have some insecurities and trust issues.

Men will stray, with or without a ring.

Yeah this! And I bet they never have an engagement ring either. 🙄

I would seriously question why anyone suddenly doesn't want to wear a wedding ring. If you lose it buy another FFS.

Yes it is a symbol of your commitment to your husband/wife, and if someone refuses to wear it, it's very telling IMO. OP needs to stop wearing hers too. See how he feels about that. Sounds like he might not care though sadly.

If my husband suddenly decided he wasn't wearing his wedding ring I would be quite pissed off. I would tell him I'm bothered by it, and if he didn't care (as the OP's husband doesn't seem to,) I would be questioning the marriage. He clearly gives zero shits about his wife's feelings.

It's fucking ridiculous to say someone is controlling because they want their spouse to wear a wedding ring - like have always done for many years. (Since they got married.)

Fuck me sideways. This place sometimes! Bet these same posters don't give a shit if their husband has close female friends either. The 'Cool Wives.' 😁

I LOVE wearing my wedding ring as I am proud to be married .. DH wears his for the same reason. I would know there is something wrong if he was suddenly not arsed about wearing it. I even question if the OP's husband has lost his wedding ring actually... Sounds to me like he wants people (women) to not know he's married.

Yep strange comments

You said it was controlling, and compared it to controlling how someone dresses. I'm asking how.

Could people stop wishing the problem away by explaining, tediously, that it wouldn’t be a problem for them? You aren’t OP and your spouses, faithful or otherwise, are not OP’s spouse.

OP doesn’t have to poll everyone in the world to determine how they would feel in order to have the feelings she has. And all your assertions about how OP’s husband’s feelings in re the ring are just like your-non-ring-wearing-husbands is just some kind of weird egotistical projection. He isn’t your dh. Their relationship is not your relationship.

OP you can’t solve this problem by asking outsiders how they would feel. Its irrelevant and, as you can see, futile. Just talk to your dh and look inside yourself to see why his choice is saddening you. It has toychrd something vulnerable in you. Perhaps if you two can talk about sentiment/symbolism/rings/romance you can arrive at a mutually satisfactory solution.

My husband never had a wedding ring, as he dislikes jewellery, and wears only a watch. I have both an engagement and wedding ring. My Dad doesn't have a wedding ring either, he was an aircraft engineer prior to retiring, and it wasn't practical for him to be wearing one. Have you spoken to your husband about your feelings? Did he actually want a wedding ring from the start?! My wedding certificate states we're married, I don't need my husband to wear a ring to prove it to the world. You need to have a conversation with your husband if him not wearing a wedding ring is an issue for you.

I think if i lost my wedding ring (not that i'm married) i wouldnt replace it as the replacement wouldnt be MY wedding ring.
I am like this about watches/jewellery so would be a nightmare if i was ever offered insurance replacements 😂

Maybe he feels like that about it so is in no rush to orchestrate the purchase of something that wont feel the same anyway.

well, it's a non issue for your DH. he clearly isn't bothered about wearing the ring. Why can't you just accept it? I find it odd. If you don't wanna canvas opinions, why post oh aibu?? 🤔

I never said she was forcing him to wear one, but obviously she is not happy with him saying he isn't bothered.

I never wore my wedding ring nor did DH. wouldn't bother me at all. It's important to some but not for others. I think it's a total non issue. What are you exactly concerned about?

But as a PP said, the replacement ring wouldn’t be the same.
It would literally just be a ring.

I would say he has more of a sentimental attachment to it than you do, if you think you can just replace it.

Its like if your grandma left you her necklace in her will and someone selling it and buying you a replica.
It wouldn’t have the same sentimental value.

For him the ring is probably not representative of the relationship and it seems that for you it is.

Unless you are worried he’s losing interest in the marriage or something, then I would just see it from his POV and see that you’re perhaps being over sensitive.
If you are worried about something, then this is what you need to talk to him/us/a friend about.

If I lost my ring, I would be mortified and deeply upset with myself in a way that would really stick. I wouldn't want a replacement because, as others have said, it's not never really mean what the original did. It would just remind me forever of whatever stupid mistake I had made to lose the actual one. I'd much rather just not have one. I also definitely wouldn't want to waste money "fixing" my mistake.

If your husband spent hours looking for the original and was as upset as you describe, could he feel something similar?

I've not read all the posts but enough to be irritated by the number of pp who think just because this isn't an issue for them, because wedding rings are apparently unimportant to them, then it shouldn't be an issue for OP.
Also how wanting your DH to replace his wedding ring is " controlling" beats me.
"Controlling" and " judgemental " must be about the most over used and annoying words on MN.
OP I totally understand why you are upset by this and I agree with those on the thread who advise telling him how much replacing the ring means to you. If he still can't be bothered to replace it as a loving gesture to his DW then I would think less of him. If he has always worn a ring then continuing to wear a ring shouldn't be an issue.
Fwiw I've been widowed 19 years and I still wear my wedding ring. And I still have my late DH ' s ring. They both mean a lot to me. Even if your DH gets a replacement ring you can make it special to you both by the way you chose it and the way you place it on his finger

Please highlight where OP has said she forces him to wear a ring.

She has a preference, that's not controling in itself.

Is money tight? - if the ring is £1000, which isn't a small amount of money, then I can see why it's not a priority. If you went online and bought a silver ring for £50 on amazon, that's an easy fix

My husband and I wear our wedding rings and would replace them if they were lost. We aren't sentimental in many ways but our wedding rings are and have a symbolic/sentimental value to us.

Have you claimed on insurance?

I'm intrigued by the people who wouldn't want any ring but the actual one used in the ceremony. I had one of very common design, and if I had to replace it I would have felt the replacement just as good a signifier of the ceremony (ring continuity!). (If you're puzzled by the tense, I had it cut off when I divorced.)

Okay (edited to add, I'm not being sarcastic here at all)

Well, look, I'm really sorry that your husband has cancer - I hope he survives it and has a fantastic and healthy future.

There are many symbols the world - some don't mean much to some but they hold incredible meaning for others

For me, the act of saying the vows and giving someone the ring as a symbol of the vows means a lot to me. And I would want my husband to feel the same and to wear his ring with pride

The obvious solution op is to explain that it would mean a lot to you if he would replace it, and would he mind if you got him a replacement.
But if he just doesn't want to wear one any more than you have to accept that with good grace.
My DH still wears his. I don't wear mine because it got on my nerves (still got it though, it's a lovely ring).
I don't think you can insist on someone wearing something on THEIR body because it means a lot to YOU.
I know you don't think it's controlling, but if anyone started to pull the emotional " please wear this thing that you don't want to it would mean soooo much to me" I'd be getting the ick. Sorry.