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DH family ruined my wedding

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Twinky1985 · 13/11/2024 09:37

My dh is close with his family, which is great but his two db's and mum ( my mil) always take over everything and have to be centre of attention and it pisses me off!
Even on our wedding day!

Examples include, on the morning of our wedding my mil had approached my dad and asked if he thought me and dh should be getting married (my dad told me later)

My dh had both brothers as his best men so they did the speech together, which was basically 10 mins of talking about my dh ex wife (she passed away) and very little about me and dh.

During my dh speech he presented my mum with a bouquet of flowers as she had contributed financially to our wedding, also my auntie as she had made the cake free of charge...and his mum, even though she did nothing, and she stands up and starts stating how she was glad to help!

During mine and dh first dance the two db's thought it was hilarious to burst onto the dance floor with us and start taking the piss out of us by swinging each other round and groping each other (which we weren't it was a lovely slow dance, which we were just dancing to) because of this all the videos were of these two clowns instead and me and my new husband.

AIBU to be pissed off by this?

OP posts:
fruitbrewhaha · 13/11/2024 09:46

I’d distance myself from the lot of them.

Theunamedcat · 13/11/2024 09:43

I mean the ex wife dominating the speech? As a guest I would feel uncomfortable
the "should they be getting married" was inappropriate especially to your dad wtf was he supposed to say? Your adults right?
Saying she was glad to help sounds like sarcasm did you ask her to help?
I couldn't be too fussed about guests horseplay they made fools of themselves not you so 🤷‍♀️

It's not the best start but I've heard about a wedding where the bride chased the groom with a cake knife and they both got arrested (not my family member btw but a family I ALMOST married into)

Caroparo52 · 13/11/2024 09:41

Yup. Yanbu. They sound like selfish twits and clearly you are not a beloved family member. Don't lower yourself to their level. Avoid as much as possible. They are letting themselves down.

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