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Not too happy about my partner telling other women at work that they are pretty

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PurpleCat44 · 12/11/2024 23:18

My partner is in his early 30s, and good looking. He works alongside mainly women.

Tonight my partner came home after work, and told me one of his colleagues at work is pretty. I asked more about her and he said she’s in her 60s but looks great, and he told her that she’s pretty/ gorgeous. Baring in mind their age difference, I don’t know if I’m just being silly. He’s also told me that he’s said the same thing to a few other women (again mostly older women) in the office to be friendly with them.

He also told me some of these women were being flirty with him , like asking how tall he is( he’s tall), and telling him he has a baby face.

Is it just harmless office banter or am I reasonable to not be too happy?

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SatansBobbleheadedDashboardOrnament · 13/11/2024 03:34

HARMLESS OFFICE BANTER!!!1

NavyOrca · 13/11/2024 03:30

There’s always “that” guy in the office and unfortunately for you, it’s your partner.

Wordsmithery · 13/11/2024 03:28

He wants to be very careful. He'll get a reputation as the creepy colleague and sooner or later someone will make a complaint.
As his DP I'd find this really off putting. He's either a massive flirt or he's saying these things insincerely. Either way, it's ill judged.

QueenBitch666 · 12/11/2024 23:47

He's the office sleeze 🤮

TH1NG1E · 12/11/2024 23:45

Asking how tall you are and saying you have a baby face is not flirting. Telling women in the office that they are pretty is shitty behaviour.

AtomHeartMotherOfGod · 12/11/2024 23:44

It's a bit risky/ unnecessary to voice it I guess.

However, I often appreciate the beauty of men and women in a similar way to music or art. Maybe he's similar.

I feel ultimately he's messed up because you're upset, and if he knew you well he should have foreseen that. If it helps though, I know many women who openly gush about handsome men around their husbands, and have known marriages where both partners have acknowledged/ joked about the other having a soft spot for someone else, without it ever being perceived as a threat to their relationship.

mathanxiety · 12/11/2024 23:37

These women are not being flirty with him. They're putting up with him because he's clearly an idiot and because women are conditioned to be nice to men making fools of themselves.

mathanxiety · 12/11/2024 23:35

Your partner is behaving unprofessionally.

He needs to wind his stupid neck in and stop commenting on his female colleagues' looks before someone makes a complaint.

His colleagues do not get up and dressed and out to work every day just for him to evaluate their looks.

What a loser.

NoisyDenimShaker · 12/11/2024 23:24

Yuck. No one should be saying that stuff at work.

Sounds like he's warming you up for when he tells younger and younger women that they are pretty. I'd make a fuss if I were you, even if you don't care.

Or tell him that you've been complimenting the silver foxes at your office on their general older-man 007-ness. If you don't work, any random man you supposedly struck up conversation with will do.

Mumofteenandtween · 12/11/2024 23:23

Every office has a sleaze ball…..

icelolly12 · 12/11/2024 23:22

Why's he telling you this? Is it to make you jealous?

Seems unprofessional to me and he might find himself the subject of a complaint

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