Not too happy about my partner telling other women at work that they are pretty

Sounds like their office banter to me. Although a lot depends on tone and context. He works with mostly women so has probably become one of the girls.

I wouldn’t care at all. I find it cute when my partner has friendly interactions with people. He always reports any flirting he’s been doing, it tickles me. It’s just for fun!

People on here would be appalled to hear the things my colleagues and I say to each other.

Is your husband socially inept in general? Does he come across as a person who is less mature than others in a social setting?

It strikes me that the women at his work may have observed that he's a bit of a gormless twit, hence the baby face comments.

@PurpleCat44 he's being unprofessional and sleazy and if he's not careful, it will bite him on the arse.

Tell him to knock it off. He's at work to do his job not make inappropriate comments on how others look.

Tell him to keep who he thinks is pretty inside his own head and not let it out of his mouth.

I'd also remind him that you are not stupid. He's telling you about these pretty colleagues because he wants you off yer footing for some reason. He's trying to dim your confidence shine and that is not okay.

He's a twat.

I'd be creeped out by someone like this at work. But I'd probably roll my eyes and tell him to drag his patronising backside out of the 50s. He is lacking in social and workplace skills. I'm sure there are videos out there you could send links to. But future wise, I'd give up on this one and throw him back. It's not like he's trying to work on himself, so why should you do the legwork?

Creepy and sleazy. I hope HR pull him up pdq.

It's not appropriate at work, maybe HR will tell him that one day

Exactly. Really unprofessional and grim

It shows an embarrassing lack of knowledge about women if he thinks this is how they want men to relate to them in the workplace.

Forgot to add that we were both old enough to be his mother.

I found it patronising and irritating when a 30-something guy would address my colleague and me when he came into our office as 'young ladies' - as though we would be flattered.

I told him to stop it and he did.

To be honest it wasn't sleazy, and I know a sleazeball when I see one, more just simply patronising that he should think that we would like it!

Does he think that he is doing them a favour by telling the ‘oldies’ that they are pretty ?
He is at work, he doesn’t need to comment on anyone’s looks .

Where does he work that they are able to sit and talk about each other’s physical appearances?

Yabu to be with this walking ick of a man

Sounds like an employment tribunal waiting to happen. Older women generally don’t want your boyfriend opining on their looks in the workplace. It’s weird he’s telling you too although I wonder whether he’s expecting a pat on the back for being an equal opportunities sleaze.

Honestly, it really does depend on the conversation which we don’t know and you don’t know so it’s hard to say. God only knows why he told you though.

If someone behaved like that in my workplace they’d soon get short shrift from HR. First of all, commenting on someone’s looks is incredibly unprofessional and secondly the comment about age is ageist. Imagine you replaced the word ‘old’ with the word ‘black’ or ‘disabled’ or ‘Jewish’?

Maybe he is just trying to build a rapport with someone 30 years his senior, who he has little in common with? So uses the default "good morning Julie, looking gorgeous today!" and maybe they reply "oooh you cheeky boy"

I’d say awkward rather than creepy, and maybe a bit immature for thirties

It’s unprofessional and also weird that he’s telling you.

Well giving compliments is OK in another thread and anyone who has issue with it has problems

Going against everyone it’ll of it depends- he could honestly just be telling you because you tell each other everything, or he could be saying it to make you jealous. Likewise easy to say there’s something untoward but I’ve definitely worked in places where there was banter and chat and it was harmless. Yes there’s a lot of times it might be but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist where people chat like this and eg say ‘you’re so tall’ or ‘you look so young’ etc. all very dependent though and personally I wouldn’t be thrilled but I’m not very trusting of men or women at the moment

edited to add he does need to perhaps hear to watch his step in case people don’t think of the workplace as appropriate

Is your husband Wayne Rooney??

Sorry...

Agree with others, sleazy and unprofessional

I find some of these responses quite funny, saying someone is pretty or looks good for their age is not sleazy or flirting. I do think you sound a bit jealous. What are you like if you are out together and he glances around the room and God forbid clapps eyes on another female?

How does he want you to react? Is he trying to make you jealous, show his worth to you??

Not attractive behaviour