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My cat is missing

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Lostcat · 12/11/2024 15:44

My cat has gone missing and I’m not coping . She’s honestly the most gorgeous and special animal you could imagine. She’s so loving and friendly and playful. She was born the same time as my latest DC and they’ve been growing up together.

She went out last night and didn’t come back. Partner and I were up every hour looking for her. This morning we’ve texted all the neighbours, posted in local WhatsApp and fbk groups, called the vet, reporting her missing on her microchip, put little and dirty clothes, food outside… we are going to print some leaflets and posters .. anything else?

our neighbour said he saw her last night when his dog chased her round the corner 😡.

Please share your positive cat stories.

we love her so much. She’s DD1’s pride and joy.

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HarrisObviously · 12/11/2024 20:11

Whitemale24 · 12/11/2024 18:27

I think you really need to consider how your cats errant behaviour Is effecting your neighbours dog. It is likely distressed by your cat. Perhaps try a lead for the cat if it returns, that's what I do to prevent my ferrets getting into mischief.

Don't you keep your ferrets down your trousers?

Snoopybird · 12/11/2024 19:56

Lostcat · 12/11/2024 19:43

Thank you all so much for the helpful suggestions. Kids are in bed so I’m going out again now to look 🥺. Will take a torch and some food to jiggle 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

Keep us updated. Thinking of you x

TheDowagerCountessofPembroke · 12/11/2024 19:53

Good luck. I hate it when my girl is missing for ever a short time. I would be beside myself.

Friend of mine had a cat go missing. Sadly a body was found and funeral took place in the garden. As said funeral was happening they turned around to see their cat wondering what all the fuss was about!

WildGuide · 12/11/2024 19:47

If she’s had a fright and is bunkered down somewhere then she’s unlikely to come out even if she hears you ♥️ calling later in the evening might work as it will generally be less busy and she will feel more confident leaving a hiding place, if that’s where she is.

Lostcat · 12/11/2024 19:43

Thank you all so much for the helpful suggestions. Kids are in bed so I’m going out again now to look 🥺. Will take a torch and some food to jiggle 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

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Lostcat · 12/11/2024 19:26

Whitemale24 · 12/11/2024 18:27

I think you really need to consider how your cats errant behaviour Is effecting your neighbours dog. It is likely distressed by your cat. Perhaps try a lead for the cat if it returns, that's what I do to prevent my ferrets getting into mischief.

Sorry what 😳

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mymissycat · 12/11/2024 18:34

Whitemale24 · 12/11/2024 18:27

I think you really need to consider how your cats errant behaviour Is effecting your neighbours dog. It is likely distressed by your cat. Perhaps try a lead for the cat if it returns, that's what I do to prevent my ferrets getting into mischief.

😂🤯

FluffyGreen · 12/11/2024 18:30

Whitemale24 · 12/11/2024 18:27

I think you really need to consider how your cats errant behaviour Is effecting your neighbours dog. It is likely distressed by your cat. Perhaps try a lead for the cat if it returns, that's what I do to prevent my ferrets getting into mischief.

😂

Whitemale24 · 12/11/2024 18:27

I think you really need to consider how your cats errant behaviour Is effecting your neighbours dog. It is likely distressed by your cat. Perhaps try a lead for the cat if it returns, that's what I do to prevent my ferrets getting into mischief.

WorldMap24 · 12/11/2024 17:55

Mine went missing for just over 24 hours the first night he was allowed out all night. It just happened to be DH birthday too. He went out about 11pm on the day before his birthday and came back at 12.10am the day after. It was an awful day, but he's (touch wood) never done it since

Hope your little one works her way back to you!

HarrisObviously · 12/11/2024 17:51

Hang her blanket or something that smell of home on the washing line. It might help her find her way home.

ElaborateCushion · 12/11/2024 17:49

Ours has gone missing for a few days at a time. One time she came back in terrified, so not sure what had happened there. Another time she wandered in, devoured a bowl of food then slept for 2 days! She'd obviously had a wonderful adventure!

She is a prolific hunter though and hates people so we knew she was likely safe, just exploring and had gone a bit further afield.

It was a terrible worry though.

Our local lost pets group often will share tips that include leaving familiar scents outside, so litter tray, blankets and bedding, etc.

Knock on neighbours doors, or put notices through, asking them to check any sheds or outhouses they might have had open since your DCat was last seen.

You can report her as missing with the microchip company too, so if someone does scan her it will flag up.

Best time to search is late evening or early morning, when it's quiet.

If there's a sound that your cat normally comes running to or would be particularly familiar with, use that. In our case we have a metal tin that their food pouches are stored in and they come running every time they hear the handle.

80smonster · 12/11/2024 17:45

Lostcat · 12/11/2024 17:18

Thank you all so much for your messages , it’s definitely given me some encouragement.
The difficulty is that we are in a city with lots of private gardens that we cant really see into. Thats where she likes to hang out . We’re trying to reach out to all the neighbours and asking them to check their garages/ sheds/ gardens . We’ve been out looking and calling so often. The thing that really worries me is she usually comes running to me if I call for her, or if she’s further away, and can’t get to me immediately , she’ll meow/ call back. But I’ve been out so many times and just nothing- no sign of her. :(

I’m sure someone has already suggested, but go out and call very early in the morning - whenever it’s very quiet. You’ll have the best chance of hearing her then, especially if she is trapped in a shed etc. Call door to door at the neighbours and give them your flyer as an image reference.

Snoopybird · 12/11/2024 17:41

My heart goes out to you. I know that horrible wrenching ache inside, where you can’t settle to anything and just want to know they are safe.
Just know that most cats do return; if you go the the litter tray page you will find lots of stories of returned cats.
Maybe go on google earth, look for everyone with a shed in their garden and knock on their doors, asking if you can check their garden and shed. Put a leaflet through doors asking people to check sheds and garages. Messages on local facebook pages of all kinds.
Hoping that you are reunited very soon 😘

buffyspikefaithangel · 12/11/2024 17:39

My old boy was the most clingy cat ever and he vanished one night from the back door
I was distraught but kept reminding myself that before me he survived 4 years on the streets
I did hundreds of flyers, flooded Facebook, rang vets, everything and not one sighting

8 days later I heard hammering on the front door and my neighbour yelling come quick he's back. Just walked in like nothing had happened. Not a clue where he was for that time

I would say Facebook is good, any missing cat groups as I've seen one just go back to the owner after 2 years missing because someone saw a photo of a cat in a garden and thought "isn't that the missing cat from 2 years ago?"

SuperbMum1 · 12/11/2024 17:36

I completely understand how worried you must feel! You’ve already received some great advice, but I'd like to share something that worked for me when my own cat went missing—it might be helpful since I haven’t seen it mentioned here yet.
A few years ago, our cat disappeared for five days, and we were frantic, just like you. We did everything we could think of: putting up posters, talking to neighbours, calling local vets, and even checking with the council. But then I decided to spend some time searching online, and that’s how we finally found him! Another cat had attacked him, and he’d lost his collar. Luckily, a local cat charity had taken him in, and they posted his photo online. I recognized him instantly! The Cat charity was a couple of miles away, full of cats, but he was safe and so happy to see us. He let out the loudest miaow when he saw us.
So please, check online sources—you never know what might turn up! We learnt our lesson the hard way and we updated the information on his cat chip as soon as we got him back. I truly hope you’re reunited with your lovely pet very soon.

Confusedmermaid1 · 12/11/2024 17:35

No advice as my cat is a house cat who doesn’t ever try to leave 😅 however a positive outcome, a colleagues cat recently went missing, she was sighted in the local area by neighbours after colleague had informed them/put up missing posters etc and the cat gave colleague the run around for weeks when she was going to try and catch her when she was sighted. 3 weeks later she just turned up scratching at the door. She had some minor cuts on her face so they think she got into a scuffle with another cat/animal and was scared to come home at first
Fingers crossed for your cats speedy return 🤞🏼

WestwardHo1 · 12/11/2024 17:32

MereDintofPandiculation · 12/11/2024 17:27

Is she chipped? Is the chip address up to date - if not, get it corrected immediately.

We've had cats missing a long way up a tree (4 times, rescued after 3 days with a) a ladder b) a climber with full kit c) a passing cherry picker d) the fire service), on top of a gasholder, inside an empty house being visited occasionally by the new owner, in a neighbour's cellar stealing all their cat food, in a house 1/4 mile away, having dodged 2 dogs to settle themself on the owner's bed. Usually they reappear when you've just spent an entire day creating and distributing posters.

Like this total arsehole cat

My cat is missing
imjusthereforAIBU · 12/11/2024 17:28

Lostcat · 12/11/2024 16:32

Omg I’m so so upset that we didn’t get a tracker. Why didn’t we think of that? 😢😢😢

We got a 'tracker' for our cat (airtag in a collar). We live very rurally and I hadn't appreciated it needed to "bounce" off iphones to work - so it just showed him occasionally at random spots rather than all the time. Then on day 3 he pulled it off and left it in a hedge. Took us ages to go find the stupid airtag!!

Locally a housecat cat escaped from a carrier at the vets in the carpark, not near it's home. The little cat turned up, near the vets car park, three weeks later. Hungry but otherwise unharmed. Cats are very resilient and it's far more likely yours will turn up than not. Hopefully sooner rather than later!

MereDintofPandiculation · 12/11/2024 17:27

Is she chipped? Is the chip address up to date - if not, get it corrected immediately.

We've had cats missing a long way up a tree (4 times, rescued after 3 days with a) a ladder b) a climber with full kit c) a passing cherry picker d) the fire service), on top of a gasholder, inside an empty house being visited occasionally by the new owner, in a neighbour's cellar stealing all their cat food, in a house 1/4 mile away, having dodged 2 dogs to settle themself on the owner's bed. Usually they reappear when you've just spent an entire day creating and distributing posters.

mymissycat · 12/11/2024 17:24

Someone told me to ask the early morning postman to look out, that they often see cats in the mornlng. Don’t know if it’s true. Could you put up notes with a photo of your cat?

WestwardHo1 · 12/11/2024 17:24

I feel for you OP, Cats are so worrying, the little buggers.

A few weeks ago DP's cat went missing. He's very old, skinny, in poor health and reliant on medication. He was being a pain during the night so DP put him out, and then he didn't come back. DP was beside himself with guilt - and so he should have been. We all looked, we were knocking on doors, combing through undergrowth etc. Lots of tears etc. Resigned ourselves to the worst, then a week later a vet phoned saying they had him. I think there's a touch of senility going on and he just wandered off and forgot the way home. A couple picked up him, fed him and took him to the vet where they scanned his chip. The town FB page was very helpful, which I admit is easier in a small town.

He's back now, with no apparent ill effects.

Lostcat · 12/11/2024 17:18

Thank you all so much for your messages , it’s definitely given me some encouragement.
The difficulty is that we are in a city with lots of private gardens that we cant really see into. Thats where she likes to hang out . We’re trying to reach out to all the neighbours and asking them to check their garages/ sheds/ gardens . We’ve been out looking and calling so often. The thing that really worries me is she usually comes running to me if I call for her, or if she’s further away, and can’t get to me immediately , she’ll meow/ call back. But I’ve been out so many times and just nothing- no sign of her. :(

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Bettysnow · 12/11/2024 17:18

My cat has went missing but we left a window open so he could climb through it which he did.
You might not be able to do that though. I have a large German shepherd so wasn't worried about people getting through it.
Also put a poster up in local vets and notice on their Facebook page. I had one missing a week was found this way.
Lastly (to cheer you up) if you are out and see another cat say out loud "tell tiddles he has to come home now please!" Strangely it seems to work?
Hope your wee cat comes home soon it's an awful worry 🌼

Whatafustercluck · 12/11/2024 17:06

Our cat went missing for several days and walked in like nothing had happened on Christmas Day! He got a very special dinner that day.

As others have said, it's not unusual for cats to go missing for 24 hours. They get up to all sorts and can get stuck in places like garages without people realising.

Keep calling out at regular intervals. Post on local lost pet sites too, most are found that way. Good luck.

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