To think this is not professional or am I overacting? Sex talk.

None of this seems like a big deal especially if these were the examples you could think of so the ones that had bothered you most.

When this has occurred in my experience at work, (NHS. 1980-2010) It was most noticeable at times when workload was high or overly complex. There's nothing like sex to displace discomfort. You can't laugh at difficult patients or management. But you can laugh at the British fear of sex.

"I think it's a bit of an abuse of power when managers talk about sex. Because people lower down can't really stand up to the manager about it. And also the manager should be creating a safe work environment"

This. And I don't think it makes it any better that they're all women. OP shouldn't be put in an uncomfortable situation, although I also agree that it's quite tame.

Manager sounds crass and obviously wasn't with anyone! Sad to think a manager behaves like this. If it were a man it would be sexual harassment.

To be honest, you sound a bit uptight, but each to their own etc!

If it really bothers you, you should tell them. The alternative is to leave the job, which is far from guaranteed to solve the issue, as a lot of workplaces will have a similar culture so you’ll just be out of the frying pan into the fire.

If you want a job where this sort of talk is not going to happen, go and work in a primary school or pre-school or another environment like these?

You sound like a massive prude. It’s not exactly appropriate but it’s really not that bad.

OP, the scenarios you have mentioned are incredibly tame. Seriously,if you left the company and went elsewhere you would most likely find the same and worse. Nothing the women have said is offensive as such, just normal banter that you have with colleagues/friends.

Personally I wouldn't like to work in a place where the people I work closely with day after day just view me strictly as a colleague and not a friend.

@MeatPotatos i do think if there was a solo female and male colleagues were making comments about naked women it would be seen as creepy . They all just sound kind of annoying to be around. If someone made a joke implying a colleague had a sore back from too much sex I would find it very tasteless.. and I work in an office full of women of a similar age where there is lots of chatting and joking throughout the day. I know work is not to make friends but the day goes quicker when you gel with colleagues and enjoy their company .

This type of humour would not make the day go more quickly for me at all. It wouldn’t bother me but it would not amuse me either at all.

I don't think anyone taking part in this kind of banter expects to win the 'most original comedy of the year ' award! For most people it's just a little bit of humour to make the day go more quickly, no-one expects a round of applause.

I don't find those examples particularly funny either 🤷‍♀️

I do think it's uptight and prudish to make a big deal of it though and have it actually bother you so much you have to come running to MN to create a whole thread about it.

Just look for another job and leave if you don't feel like you fit in but, be aware, this is pretty tame office banter which will be completely commonplace in a lot of workplaces.

@sel2223 i don’t think anyone is uptight or prudish for not finding it funny and considering moving on though.

A colleague deliberately making a younger junior colleague uncomfortable with repeated talk about her own sex life is not what OP is describing here though....
In the examples she's given it's some low level double entendres and a bit of office banter between women of a similar age. An 'insinuation' at worst.
Not the same

Funny you work in the legal field as I did for a short while and could have written your post. I was junior and someone I worked with would come up to me and tell me details of her sex life. I was only young and found it so awkward. I actually think she did it on purpose to make me uncomfortable. They were bullies there so I left.

This all sounds pretty tame for office talk if I'm honest.

It’s just office talk, yes it’s not professional and i’ve certainly never discussed my sex life at work, but I wouldn’t personally be embarrassed or offended. However i’d be aware that some others would so if i was made aware people in my teams were doing this i’d have a word. Bit difficult though when it’s the senior managers.

I didn't say the OP was going to make any accusations or allegations, I said you have to be careful as there could be someone around who will.
The point being 'know your audience'

I don't think the examples given were particularly original or funny either but it's absolutely normal and definitely not anything i would even remotely describe as 'sex talk'. It's a few double entendres, big deal. The world has literally gone mad.

I'm self employed now and work predominantly alone and I miss a bit of work place banter to make the day pass quicker.

@sel2223 to be fair the op hasn’t said she is going to make any allegations but that she is considering leaving the company. I wouldn’t consider myself uptight or prudish but I don’t find any of the examples listed remotely funny I have to say and would find it tiresome listening to it.

That’s not sex talk. It is a bit cringey but it’s a very long way from sex talk. Even example number 3 in your list, you only said “insinuated” so again, nothing explicit.

The thing is OP you’ve said that you enjoy banter in other subjects, so that suggests that you don’t actually want a formal and professional environment. You just want “banter” that you personally have deemed acceptable.

It’s fine not to enjoy those kinds of jokes, but PP describing them as sexual harassment is just ridiculous. And the situation becomes hypocritical when OP says she’s fine with banter if it meets her personal standards.

Up to you if you want to say anything OP. As PP suggest, you could try a light rebuff that gets the point across without being heavy handed but really, if you don’t feel like a good fit then maybe find a different job where there’s a more formal environment. Obviously though, that would also mean none of the banter you say you do enjoy so could be a bit dry. Your choice really.

If no. 1 was stated with a male colleague present I do think it’s inappropriate. If the tables were turned and this was a bunch of men with one female colleague and “naked women” were mentioned I bet everyone would say it is creepy and inappropriate. The rest of it is silly banter .

Bloody hell OP, is this serious? It's mild and lighthearted office banter between similar aged women.... it's not original or even particularly funny but, whatever, it's been normal in any place I've ever worked. You are my age and I couldn't imagine being so uptight and prudish.

Your reaction is extremely OTT to even consider this as an issue.

When I read your post I was expecting something akin to sexual harassment and really inappropriate comments which have zero place in the workplace or anywhere.....but this......

To everyone else reading this, this is why you have to be so careful these days and really 'know your audience', you never know when someone could be lurking with the potential to blow the simplest of things out of proportion and start making accusations and allegations. Scary.

Think you should just lighten up. Crikey we can't go even more woke as a society and it's obvious they are having fun and not being serious. It's not like it's bedside talk and it's hardly sex they are actuslly talking about from your examples. To get upset about that is prudish honestly i thought that was going to be way worse. Just be thankful it's only banter and not bullying.

Their behaviour seems childish and unprofessional. Just rise above it. As long as you do well in the job that's all you need to worry about.

When I was reading this I thought you would be alot younger than 40.

It's in bad taste, but I suppose they think a group of mature females can have a bit of banter. It's very tame and they already know you don't go much on it.

Are these meetings regular enough to make you dislike your job?