Discovered payment to Only fans on husband's credit card

Of course lots do - and lots more don't.

definitely weren't photos of her campervan (unless that a new term for it!)

Depends how...umm..commodious it was, if you catch my drift. ;-)

I don't think it's perfectly normal. But I do think it is for a man or a woman to look elsewhere if they're not getting what they want at home. And the marriage will probably be safer if they go to a professional rather than have an affair.

How has it happened that we have been conditioned to think it's perfectly reasonable for a man to spend family money on personal encounters with a sex worker?

If I found out my DH had paid a woman for a sexual encounter, he would not be having sex with me again. I don't want to be with a man who has such a low opinion of women that he thinks he can buy consent

I would imagine it's fairly common place. Men are easily parted with their cash if a young woman offers to get naked. I think OF is quite a money spinner for some women. More fool the men.

Well Sam fox was in primary school in the 70s so I think a few people would rightly be concerned about that tbh

You might have to speak for yourself on this one, I haven't lost interest im in my 40s 🤣 if anything other way around with hubby 😂

I agree with this. I don’t mind porn (if it’s only occasionally viewed, not regular and I’m more likely to watch than my DH), but OF is definitely more personal. I also think it’s the type of content more likely to lead to addiction.

Exactly! Men subscribe to OF accounts for 1-2-1 chats, cam sessions, personalised content made for them etc. It's definitely a step on from anonymously scrolling pornhub.

Quite amazing how many posters are happy with their DH/ DP getting off to porn and their only objection to Only Fans is because the men pay for it.
I don't know how these women can love or respect a man who does either of these things and the guy sure as hell doesn't love or respect them because he sees women just as sex objects.

And again so many women he could have got to do it free on Facebook. Some Men and their money are easily separated

This is not a dig!
You took vows and married a man . Share your life with him and you honestku don’t mind that he pays using your family money to watch women do whatever - ( put a cucumber up her bum / put on the colour pants he wants and then spread her legs for him !)
I honestly admire you. I’d be so cross and I hate this about me ! I’m by no way naive to think my husband isn’t doing this. That’s not what I’m saying but I admire your self respect and strength to think- he literally is just getting his rocks off !

Why does anyone bother getting married.

Really? Sam Fox turned 16 in 1982. Anyone looking at her in the 70s weren't just creeps they were paedos.

Written by a man.

i caught my husband doing this when I saw a payment to OF on his phone, I asked him outright and he said he liked this very well known porn stars content. Nothing wrong with our relationship otherwise. I wasn’t happy, more so that he paid to watch it when you can for free so I see it as a waste of money. but he was very honest about it so I don’t really care and as far as I know, he doesn’t pay for content anymore. A lot of men watch porn, they’re never going to stop, and I wouldn’t be too worried about it personally.

If he was messaging people though then I would have an issue…

You're right. The problem about these discussions was well put abut 200 years ago:n"To generalise is to be an idiot."

No, it really isn’t

I left my DP of 7 years over this. People advised me to work through it but I couldn't get over the disrespect, he actually disgusted me. It was very painful but the right decision, I am so much happier now.

If it was a one off maybe couples therapy would help depending on how you feel.

Do you not realise that it's direct contact with people? As in personalised messages / videos etc. It's not regular porn or page 3 as a PP suggested.

Op I'm not sure what planet people are on about the content but of course it's something seedy.

You know only fans isn’t just sex based stuff? It is for other people as well. Chefs for example are on there, making videos about cooking etc

Hugs. I’d be seething ! Confused and angry. Just how I am. But I hope you can ask him calmly and if he gets all defensive and refuses to answer I’d not accept that . I’d not be able to tolerate him being rude ! You deserve the respect of him giving you an answer . if he won’t give you an answer and you can’t communicate with him about this - I would be questioning the relationship!

OF is not the same as looking at free porn though. When you watch a random vid or look at a random picture you’re not interacting with that person. OF is personal. They can interact, message, request things. Why else would they spend money when it’s free elsewhere? It’s not the same at all and not ok in my book.

Context is everything.
Have you asked him about it?
In my opinion it's just the same as watching/looking at porn, how do you react when he does that? To be honest, from what I've heard, it isn't just women on their advertising their services. I know gay men that have subscriptions. I also know of women who have subscribed to content from guys baking naked. Theres something for everyone by the sounds of it 🤣

I would ask him about why he felt he had to hide it. If it's a simple as looking at half naked women, why can't he tell you? Maybe he knows how negatively you will react?

I wouldn't ask him to leave over it, he hasn't cheated on you.

Sounds like a month sub to view her general page and then a further payment for something more personal