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Next Doors Dogs - WWYD?

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SomeonTookMyAnonymousUserName · 12/11/2024 11:55

This is a WWYD, what would you do, post. I’m upset and don’t know if I am overreacting. I’m just looking for a sense check please.

NDN family has 4 dogs. Usually they don’t affect me or my family but, from time to time, we have had issues:
⁃ lots of dog mess in our garden (can’t always be sure it’s them but always in the same place and same size as when we’ve seen them do it)
⁃ Annoying barking at times, often very early morning (pre 7am)
⁃ Occasional aggressive behaviour (one of them backed my child up against a car whilst barking at her; she was terrified)
⁃ They are allowed to run free when their front door is opened. I have never seen any of them on a lead. They tend to come back when they are called.
NB we live in a new-ish estate with no garden walls, fences or hedges.

I have spoken to them about the dogs over the years but only in the midsts of the issues, ie, shouting to them to come and get their dog when my child was feeling under attack, telling them when they’ve fouled the grass, etc, nothing changes.

I work from home in an office at the front of our house and this morning saw all 4 of them on my grass. 2 of them were peeing on my grass, looked like 1 was pooing. So I went out, assuming NDN was around. She wasn’t but her front door was opened. I was a few feet from my front door when they surrounded me and started barking at me (in my garden).

I’m not overly scared of dogs but this terrified me. They are mid-sized dogs; taller than my knee height, and their barking was so loud and aggressive. I was terrified.

She popped her head out her door and called them. I wasn’t aggressive but raised my voice and said, ‘they’re shitting and peeing on my grass and barking at me. It’s so frustrating!’ Then I scurried indoors to get away from them. She didn’t say anything but to be fair, she didn’t get a chance to.

I was shaking with adrenaline and quite tearful afterwards.

I know I can report to council or police but is that an over reaction? WWYD?

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motherofonegirl · 12/11/2024 12:27

Why are the dogs not let out in the back garden to toilet where you have fences? Perhaps ask your neighbour to do so because you/your children feel unsafe/uncomfortable around off lead dogs and that you don't want them toileting on your front lawn? Best talk to your neighbour when the dogs aren't around and you feel calm so it is a productive conversation. If that doesn't work, then you may have to report her for allowing the dogs to be off lead without proper supervision.

toomuchfaff · 12/11/2024 12:26

SometimesCalmPerson · 12/11/2024 11:57

You need fences!

If these dogs have been bugging you for years, why have none of you got fences?

First quote says it all. Problem solved. Get a fence, fence them out, I dgaf if the estate doesn't have fences, it does now.

Edit - reading the typo. I'd complain to the estate management, I'd call the dog warden. The estate management don't allow fences but they also don't condone lone dogs roaming the streets.

NewGreenDuck · 12/11/2024 12:26

I only mentioned hedges as a nice hedge with a thorny hedging plant would deter them! Sometimes hedges are allowed but fences aren't.
Or planters with similar in them

SomeonTookMyAnonymousUserName · 12/11/2024 12:25

No hedges either but as I said earlier, and a PP has agreed, not sure what anyone could do about it if we did.

It would stand out quite clearly though as no one else has them. All being well, it wouldn't be my choice

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RunningJo · 12/11/2024 12:24

Sii · 12/11/2024 12:20

I would be putting up a fence. Our deeds state that we cannot have fences, walls or hedging, the front doors must be white and there are to be no larger size vehicles on the drive. It's safe to say I dont think there is a single house that hasn't broken at least one of these. Absolutely nothing has happened.

Exactly this.

Why anyone would move to a house with dogs if they can't have a fence or wall is beyond me. Your neighbours are being totally selfish, not to mention it isn't safe for the dog to just wander around if they are so bothered by another person. What happens if they run into the road?

potatocakesinprogress · 12/11/2024 12:23
  1. Call the dog warden re them being off the leads and the mess. If you have other neighbours that will chime in with you, all the better as it does make your case stronger. Definitely mention the aggression toward the kids.
  2. If your kids don't go on the grass much, the spikes as the poster above suggested. If they do, make/buy tall wooden planters from decking and plant tall things in them.
  3. Spray bottle of vinegar - spray around your place, they hate the smell.
  4. Buy a bark deterrent, they stop barking really quickly after that. Less than £30 from Amazon and works like a dream.

Dealt with the same thing myself, this is what ended up working the best after lots of dead ends.

NewGreenDuck · 12/11/2024 12:21

SomeonTookMyAnonymousUserName · 12/11/2024 12:14

Typo above. We CAN'T have walls or fences

Can you have hedges?

Sii · 12/11/2024 12:20

I would be putting up a fence. Our deeds state that we cannot have fences, walls or hedging, the front doors must be white and there are to be no larger size vehicles on the drive. It's safe to say I dont think there is a single house that hasn't broken at least one of these. Absolutely nothing has happened.

Thecampaign · 12/11/2024 12:16

Are you allowed to pave over the grass? Or replace with fake grass so can be hosed down with disinfectant?

DoublePeonies · 12/11/2024 12:16

I'd call the dog warden.
The dogs have intimidated your family on more than one occasion, and are freely roaming the streets.

SomeonTookMyAnonymousUserName · 12/11/2024 12:14

Typo above. We CAN'T have walls or fences

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SomeonTookMyAnonymousUserName · 12/11/2024 12:13

Haroldwilson · 12/11/2024 11:57

You mean no walls or fences and you're not allowed them? So they just roam the estate?

Yes, it's in the deeds that we can have walls or fences.

To be fair, I'm not sure hat anyone could do if we did, but it's officially not allowed.

And yes, just front gardens. Back gardens have wooden gates and 6 foot fences

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Whyherewego · 12/11/2024 12:06

Put down some of the plastic spike grids that deter animals. They will soon stop walking onyour garden

theemmadilemma · 12/11/2024 12:02

I'm guessing OP is referring to the front of the houses.

OP report them. I would say allowing 4 offlead dogs out the front of the house unsupervised is not in control of your dogs. Which could be an offence if you feel in danger:

https://www.bluecross.org.uk/advice/dog/wellbeing-and-care/dog-laws-uk

Haroldwilson · 12/11/2024 11:57

You mean no walls or fences and you're not allowed them? So they just roam the estate?

SometimesCalmPerson · 12/11/2024 11:57

You need fences!

If these dogs have been bugging you for years, why have none of you got fences?

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