To be horrified how much of a fat monster I look in pics

I don’t know what happens to me on photos. I’m a size 10-12 which is the right size for my frame, I dress to suit my body shape, I look in the mirror and my hair is nice, my make up is good, my eyes look big and pronounced. But in every photo I am fat, shoulders like a rugby player, my hair is terrible, my eyes are tiny squinty currants in a doubt ball face, and I look like I’m wearing no make-up at all even if I’ve gone to town with it. My (female) partner is the same size, height and build as me with similar colouring but slightly darker eyes and skin. She looks fabulous in photos and looks like she’s wearing nice make up even though she only ever wears a bit of mascara and nothing else. It’s not fair!

I have looked like I have a double chin (I don’t), like I have a scoliosis/hunchback (I don’t)

I do (double chin, seems inherited as have it at 47kg), I do (congenital scoliosis).

I have to think these are magnified many times in static images or over video, hence people's shock when they actually meet me and they seem more in proportion?

The big question op is do you twist your face weirdly or shut your eyes? I can guarantee you your pics are prettier than mine😅

I look fine in the mirror and on teams. In photos I always seem to be pulling a weird face or blinking, or have a hunched posture, or otherwise look awful.

I have looked like I have a double chin (I don’t), like I have a scoliosis/hunchback (I don’t), and like I was pregnant (pre-kids, where I weighed 45kg, had a 20 inch waist, and had defined abs). Even my husband and family say I look strangely awful in photos, so it isn’t just me.

Candid photos where I’m not aware I’m being photographed look a lot better.

I'm another who loathes having their photo taken and avoids at all costs.

Some years ago at a wedding, my photo was taken and facially I didn't look too bad but my shoulders filled the whole width of the photo so much so that I looked like an American football player. I looked huge! 😩

I really didn't think I was that big when I looked in the mirror before I left home. 😳

This.

A size 6 but forever a fat face.

It's depressing.

When I've met people face-to-face, I've actually had people blurt, "Zoom/Teams does you no favours. You look completely different".

But, I've never photographed well, why would Zoom be any different.

I'm the same, I'm a size 10 so I know I'm not large but in pictures I look absolutely massive especially compared to everyone else who look normal.

I think some people just look much better in real life than in photos. Sometimes it's about how you move, how your face moves when you smile etc, and that can't be captured in a photo

It's a sad world when someone posts something like this and instead of people bringing op back up they suggest weight lost injections.
What's wrong with people?!

I think (probably kidding myself) there is sometimes a funny angle involved. I have a picture of me sitting next to my teeny tiny 7 year old niece and I am nearer the camera and the affect is alarming. I look like an actual giant monster.

ETA - the stupid sofa is much smaller than most so that also doesn't help. It looks like a GIANT LADY sitting next to a normal sized child on a normal sized sofa but actually it's a QUITE CHUBBY SHORTARSE sitting next to a teeny child on a little sofa.

I clearly need to get a grip lol.

Cameras are very unkind aren't they! I look about 20 years older and haggard in photos (which I try to avoid at all costs) and on Zoom.

The worst is the security camera bit on the self checkout tills in the supermarket.
OMG I've checked behind me before to make sure it's definitely me on the screen😂

Same here. I know I’m on the larger end but bloody hell I look utterly humongous in photos.

I'm the same. I'm a bit overweight. But on pictures I look literally obese. And my face looks awful (it's not that bad in real life I'm told). This has always been the case, so now I just avoid being in pictures unless they are selfies which I can carefully arrange. That's a lot of faff so I don't often bother. When I'm dead it will be like I was never here if pictorial evidence will be all there is to go by.

There's a joke/meme about this:

Mirror: Dayum girl you lookin' good!
Camera: HAHAHAHAHAHAHA. No.

That's true, ☝️I read that, er, somewhere............. Definitely.

Some people know how to pose to show off their best sides, I'm not that person- I'll stand their like a bag of potatoes.

I'm not overweight (low end of normal BMI) and I look fat in some pictures when Im slouching or not at a good angle. Try to remember that people see you from all angles all the time, they know what you look like, they are not surprised. I tend to find that comforting. I do the same when I hear my voice (which is HORRENDOUS) but I have to remind myself that people hear me all day every day and seem to not mind.

There’s actually some kind of logical and scientific reason for this fatty photo phenomenon involving convex lenses, depth of field, shadow and er, other stuff.

I think it’s because you have good self worth, that’s more important than what you look like in a photo.

I'm the same OP in that I look in the mirror and think I look OK - not great but passable.
But I've got a security camera that records activity in my garden. And I sometimes have to look at footage of that which has me in it. And oh its horrible! Can't believe that's what I really look like and that's how other people see me. It really really depresses me because it's not just my weight and clothes but the way I walk and my mannerisms that all look awful. Very bad for the self esteem.

Same. BMI is bang in the middle of normal range but fuck me, I look dreadful in photos. I think it's because I hate having my picture taken so my posture goes into hunch mode and my face looks startled or frozen in terror/awkward rictus grin. I just cannot pose and relax in front of a camera. Some people are just more photogenic than others, I think.

I don't know about a fat monster 😂
I'm a slim size but there is ALWAYS a double chin on photos.... always.
🙄

Me too
I also look 20 year older in photos. Sigh.