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To think that people who don’t like pets shouldn’t be judged as “cold”?

310 replies

ByMellowScroller · 11/11/2024 22:44

Not everyone loves animals, yet people think it’s a red flag. AIBU to think it’s just personal preference and nothing more?

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Jifmicroliquid · 13/11/2024 06:53

Anyone singing the praises of humans over animals needs their head checking. Humans are single-handedly destroying the very planet they live on by their constant desire to ‘evolve’. Not that smart really.

I get the impression MasterBeth is enjoying winding people up, so I’ll leave them to their fun. They are really smart, after all.

Catsmere · 13/11/2024 06:53

There's no point in responding further to you. You're dismissive of companion animals and the people capable of loving them.

MasterBeth · 13/11/2024 06:13

Catsmere · 12/11/2024 22:18

It's the "dumb" bit I take issue with here. It's a sweeping statement. Dogs vary vastly by breed - look at the capacities of herding dogs, for example.

There's also the matter of the emotional bonds between humans and companion animals, which tbh seems to be a concept you don't grasp. I'm not saying you should feel that way, but you seem dismissive of the idea that humans and other animals have meaningful and loving bonds.

People love their dogs, sure, but pople love all sorts of stupid things.

MasterBeth · 13/11/2024 06:10

Well done. Your dogs are are smart for dogs. They're still not as bright a three year old human.

Catsmere · 13/11/2024 00:29

PyreneanAubrie · 13/11/2024 00:16

Yes! You are correct! They are in with the livestock from around 6 weeks old. They work by instinct and off their own initiative, not to command. Still used in their native France of course, but more widely in the US and Canada now, to protect livestock from wolves, bears and coyotes. It is very environmentally friendly predator control because it eliminates the need for trapping, shooting or poisoning. The dogs work in pairs or groups and generally act as a deterrent without the need for bloodshed. It's a matriarchal breed and also nocturnal.

A few people are now using them for guarding on farms in the UK also; the mother, sister and brother of my current bitch are all working with sheep and horses.

There are Livestock Protection dogs all over Europe and into Asia - I think around 50 different breeds in total. It is a very ancient group of dogs and they really are fascinating when you get into researching them.

I'm sure all the 'dogs are dumb' people will be loving this 😆

Brilliant!

PyreneanAubrie · 13/11/2024 00:16

Catsmere · 12/11/2024 23:44

Am I remembering correctly that the Grand Pyrenees are able to bond with the herds they guard and live with them as their protectors?

Six of them! Wow! I did well having five cats, and that was Mum and me looking after them between us.

Yes! You are correct! They are in with the livestock from around 6 weeks old. They work by instinct and off their own initiative, not to command. Still used in their native France of course, but more widely in the US and Canada now, to protect livestock from wolves, bears and coyotes. It is very environmentally friendly predator control because it eliminates the need for trapping, shooting or poisoning. The dogs work in pairs or groups and generally act as a deterrent without the need for bloodshed. It's a matriarchal breed and also nocturnal.

A few people are now using them for guarding on farms in the UK also; the mother, sister and brother of my current bitch are all working with sheep and horses.

There are Livestock Protection dogs all over Europe and into Asia - I think around 50 different breeds in total. It is a very ancient group of dogs and they really are fascinating when you get into researching them.

I'm sure all the 'dogs are dumb' people will be loving this 😆

PyreneanAubrie · 12/11/2024 23:47

@bluebeach
Or alternatively you can do all of this:

You can do all you can to protect nature and encourage wildlife in your garden. Not use harmful chemicals to clean your house and wash your clothes because you hate the idea of poisoning the waterways. Not eat meat or dairy because you don’t like animal cruelty in the farming industry.

And have pets as well 😁

Catsmere · 12/11/2024 23:44

PyreneanAubrie · 12/11/2024 23:08

She is. She's my eighth, I had three together for many years but I'm getting old now, so currently only have one. They are highly intelligent, the low prey drive makes them trustworthy around my cats too. Again, only one elderly cat now but used to have 6, hence not minding being referred to upthread as Dr Dolittle 😆

I would post a photo of current pup but it may not be well received here as it's a dumb animal 🙄

Am I remembering correctly that the Grand Pyrenees are able to bond with the herds they guard and live with them as their protectors?

Six of them! Wow! I did well having five cats, and that was Mum and me looking after them between us.

bluebeach · 12/11/2024 23:43

You can be an animal lover and not like the idea of pets. You can do all you can to protect nature and encourage wildlife in your garden. Not use harmful chemicals to clean your house and wash your clothes because you hate the idea of poisoning the waterways. Not eat meat or dairy because you don’t like animal cruelty in the farming industry. You can not like the idea of having a domesticated animal living in your home and still have a deep love and respect for animals.

PyreneanAubrie · 12/11/2024 23:08

Catsmere · 12/11/2024 22:59

I'm guessing she's one of the Pyrenean Mountain Dog breeds? She sounds splendid.

She is. She's my eighth, I had three together for many years but I'm getting old now, so currently only have one. They are highly intelligent, the low prey drive makes them trustworthy around my cats too. Again, only one elderly cat now but used to have 6, hence not minding being referred to upthread as Dr Dolittle 😆

I would post a photo of current pup but it may not be well received here as it's a dumb animal 🙄

Catsmere · 12/11/2024 23:02

notprincehamlet · 12/11/2024 22:30

People are smart. Dogs aren't.
Have you met people?

😆

Catsmere · 12/11/2024 22:59

PyreneanAubrie · 12/11/2024 22:25

Mine is a Livestock Protection dog but she doubles up as my therapy dog, so she's hardly dumb.

These people seem to think it's clever to put things down but all they are doing is showing their ignorance.

I'm guessing she's one of the Pyrenean Mountain Dog breeds? She sounds splendid.

Amyknows · 12/11/2024 22:45

Yanbu, I wish them no harm and don't hate them but to me I could never hold them on the same level as humans. I can never understand when people don't do things just because of the dog.

SabreIsMyFave · 12/11/2024 22:42

TarantinoIsAMisogynist · 12/11/2024 22:37

Yeah, I'm not sure I'd be too quick to boast about how smart humans are.

There's only one species actively destroying its home planet right now, and it's not dogs.

Yep!

@notprincehamlet LOL! 😆

Schrife · 12/11/2024 22:38

I judge people who don’t love pets but I do so silently. Makes me like them a bit less though

TarantinoIsAMisogynist · 12/11/2024 22:37

Yeah, I'm not sure I'd be too quick to boast about how smart humans are.

There's only one species actively destroying its home planet right now, and it's not dogs.

notprincehamlet · 12/11/2024 22:30

People are smart. Dogs aren't.
Have you met people?

To think that people who don’t like pets shouldn’t be judged as “cold”?
PyreneanAubrie · 12/11/2024 22:25

Catsmere · 12/11/2024 22:18

It's the "dumb" bit I take issue with here. It's a sweeping statement. Dogs vary vastly by breed - look at the capacities of herding dogs, for example.

There's also the matter of the emotional bonds between humans and companion animals, which tbh seems to be a concept you don't grasp. I'm not saying you should feel that way, but you seem dismissive of the idea that humans and other animals have meaningful and loving bonds.

Mine is a Livestock Protection dog but she doubles up as my therapy dog, so she's hardly dumb.

These people seem to think it's clever to put things down but all they are doing is showing their ignorance.

MidnightMeltdown · 12/11/2024 22:19

I think you need to clarify what you mean by 'don't like pets'

You don't want pets? You are frightened of pets? You don't like animals in general? It can mean all sorts of things.

Catsmere · 12/11/2024 22:18

It's the "dumb" bit I take issue with here. It's a sweeping statement. Dogs vary vastly by breed - look at the capacities of herding dogs, for example.

There's also the matter of the emotional bonds between humans and companion animals, which tbh seems to be a concept you don't grasp. I'm not saying you should feel that way, but you seem dismissive of the idea that humans and other animals have meaningful and loving bonds.

MasterBeth · 12/11/2024 22:06

Catsmere · 12/11/2024 21:55

You may not realise it, but your posts have all suggested something much more negative than simply not being interested in animals or approving of pet ownership (fwiw, I dislike caging birds, too). Dismissing animal intelligence because it's very different from human intelligence doesn't lessen the impression.

Hey, I've read that octopus book. I'm fascinated by nature. I understand that some animals have abilities beyond those of humans and brains that work in ways we cannot comprehend.

So I'm not dismissing animal intelligence. I'm saying (the nicest) dogs are big, simple, dumb toddlers.

Mountainpika · 12/11/2024 22:00

I like animals, especially wild ones.
Don't want any pets because I don't want the responsibility.

Catsmere · 12/11/2024 21:55

MasterBeth · 12/11/2024 21:51

Recognising that most dogs are simple, dumb, instinctive creatures doesn't mean I actively dislike them. (I don't love the attacky, violent ones, but that's just a different kind of dumb instinct too). They just don't interest me. People are a thousand times more fascinating.

I don't actually hate parrots or gerbils either. The incredible power of nature and evolution and all that. But caging them for your pleasure wild animals as pets, living toys for humans has never struck me as a thing you'd do if you loved animals.

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You may not realise it, but your posts have all suggested something much more negative than simply not being interested in animals or approving of pet ownership (fwiw, I dislike caging birds, too). Dismissing animal intelligence because it's very different from human intelligence doesn't lessen the impression.

PyreneanAubrie · 12/11/2024 21:53

YouCantFightInHereThisIsTheWarRoom · 12/11/2024 21:30

Don't be so ignorant. Not for everyone. Cuddling a dog would raise my blood pressure.

I said it with humour, sarcasm, irony....🙄

Which just proves the point really. Anger.

MasterBeth · 12/11/2024 21:51

Catsmere · 12/11/2024 21:32

You think human males wouldn't lick their balls if they could reach them? As it is so many are constantly fiddling with them.

You seem to have an active dislike of non-human animals, not just indifference to them, from your comments here. That, or the forbidden t-word.

Recognising that most dogs are simple, dumb, instinctive creatures doesn't mean I actively dislike them. (I don't love the attacky, violent ones, but that's just a different kind of dumb instinct too). They just don't interest me. People are a thousand times more fascinating.

I don't actually hate parrots or gerbils either. The incredible power of nature and evolution and all that. But caging them for your pleasure wild animals as pets, living toys for humans has never struck me as a thing you'd do if you loved animals.